[Daughter]'s "Living Situation"

[Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

Wed, Oct 26, 2011 at 10:40 AM

To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@yahoo.com>, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@gmail.com>, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[school].edu>, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@yahoo.com>, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@yahoo.com>, [The Ex]@gmail.com

Bcc: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

Stop insinuating, insisting and discussing with [Daughter] your belief that her "living situation" is temporary.  Clearly, by your own bizarre behavior and the results of your consistent litigation, you have proven again and again that not only did [Other State Judge] make the correct decision but that you are in no way capable of raising [Daughter]. 

You will no longer have these conversations with my daughter.  This is your last warning because if I must sever all contact to protect [Daughter]'s mental health, I will do so effective immediately and most likely with the blessing of the courts.

[Custodial Dad]

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[Custodial Dad] 

[Custodial Dad]

[CD Phone number]

If two stand shoulder to shoulder against the gods,

Happy together, the gods themselves are helpless

Against them while they stand so.

~Maxwell Anderson

Statements to clarify Please Re: Time for [Daughter] Re: [Daughter]'s Outstanding Student Award.

[The Ex] <[The Ex]@yahoo.com>

Wed, Oct 12, 2011 at 2:04 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

[Custodial Dad] or [Step Mom],

I would appreciate your direct explaination of the followng repeated statement you make:

"Please understand that until you can control yourself, we can not subject [Daughter] to you nor your abuse. "

What are you talking about?  What "abuse"?  What "control" of myself?  Please detail.

Thanks.

[The Ex]

--- On Fri, 10/7/11, [Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com> wrote:

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

Subject: Re: Time for [Daughter] Re: [Daughter]'s Outstanding Student Award.

To: "[The Ex]" <[The Ex]@yahoo.com>

Date: Friday, October 7, 2011, 6:15 AM

What is truly unfortunate for [Daughter] is your continued behavior.  Please understand that until you can control yourself, we can not subject [Daughter] to you nor your abuse.  Again, my reasonings have been explained and since you require additional explanations, please contact my attorney.

End of discussion.

[Custodial Dad]

On Oct 7, 2011, at 6:02 AM, [The Ex] wrote:

> Please understand that I am not requesting hours but days for [Daughter] with her mother. Costs for travel and housing are also best for [Daughter] to come home to [other state] for her time with me after more than a year away per your choices. You increase costs by refusing to allow [Daughter] time and by refusing to arrange with me. This is most unfortunate for [Daughter].

> 

> On Wed Oct 5th, 2011 7:23 PM EDT [Custodial Dad] wrote:

> 

>> Please consider visiting with [Daughter] in [home state] as you will be here shortly. I will not engage you in further dialog in regards to my reasonings, however I will direct you to contact my attorney(s) for further clarification.

>> [Custodial Dad]

>> 

>> On Oct 5, 2011, at 11:32, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@yahoo.com> wrote:

>> 

>>> I would like to give [Daughter] the opportunity to come home to [other state] for time here with her Mom and friends and family.  When would be good dates and times for fligt arrangements?  Please reply with details.  

>>> [The Ex]

>>> 

>>> --- On Sat, 10/1/11, [Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com> wrote:

>>> 

>>> From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

>>> Subject: [Daughter]'s Outstanding Student Award.

>>> To: "[Step Mom] McCabe" <[email]@gmail.com>

>>> Date: Saturday, October 1, 2011, 11:19 AM

>>> 

>>> Thought you'd like to see this.  We are very proud of her.

>>> 

>>> [Custodial Dad]

>>> [Custodial Dad]

>>> [CD Phone number]

>>> 

>>> If two stand shoulder to shoulder against the gods,

>>> Happy together, the gods themselves are helpless

>>> Against them while they stand so.

>>> ~Maxwell Anderson

Time for [Daughter] Re: [Daughter]'s Outstanding Student Award.

[The Ex] <[The Ex]@yahoo.com>

Wed, Oct 5, 2011 at 11:32 AM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

I would like to give [Daughter] the opportunity to come home to [other state] for time here with her Mom and friends and family.  When would be good dates and times for fligt arrangements?  Please reply with details.  

[The Ex]

--- On Sat, 10/1/11, [Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com> wrote:

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

Subject: [Daughter]'s Outstanding Student Award.

To: "[Step Mom] McCabe" <[email]@gmail.com>

Date: Saturday, October 1, 2011, 11:19 AM

Thought you'd like to see this.  We are very proud of her.

[Custodial Dad]

[Custodial Dad]

[CD Phone number]

If two stand shoulder to shoulder against the gods,

Happy together, the gods themselves are helpless

Against them while they stand so.

~Maxwell Anderson

[Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

Wed, Oct 5, 2011 at 7:23 PM

To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@yahoo.com>

Please consider visiting with [Daughter] in [home state] as you will be here shortly. I will not engage you in further dialog in regards to my reasonings, however I will direct you to contact my attorney(s) for further clarification.

[Custodial Dad]

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@yahoo.com>

Fri, Oct 7, 2011 at 6:02 AM

To: [email]@gmail.com

Please understand that I am not requesting hours but days for [Daughter] with her mother. Costs for travel and housing are also best for [Daughter] to come home to [other state] for her time with me after more than a year away per your choices. You increase costs by refusing to allow [Daughter] time and by refusing to arrange with me. This is most unfortunate for [Daughter].

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[Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

Fri, Oct 7, 2011 at 6:15 AM

To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@yahoo.com>

What is truly unfortunate for [Daughter] is your continued behavior.  Please understand that until you can control yourself, we can not subject [Daughter] to you nor your abuse.  Again, my reasonings have been explained and since you require additional explanations, please contact my attorney.

End of discussion.

[Custodial Dad]

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[Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

Fri, Oct 7, 2011 at 7:32 AM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@gmail.com>

Cc: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@yahoo.com>

To touch on one point in your message, what is and has been driving up costs is your consistent, continuing and  frivolous litigation.  If you would redirect your monies to [Daughter]'s care and normalizing a relationship between the two of you instead of your crusade, I would be more inclined to believe that you are concerned with [Daughter]'s best interests.  Again, I will direct you to contact my attorney for further clarification.

[Custodial Dad]

Text Messages: 09/2011

[The Ex]

9/2/11 10:07 PM 7 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Pls call w [Daughter]. Thanks. 8:29 PM

Me: Please call prior to [Daughter]'s bedtime. Thanks. 10:07 PM

[The Ex]

9/5/11 9:32 AM 7 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Please call back so [Daughter] can say goodnight. 8:09 PM

Me: Please call prior to [Daughter]'s bedtime. [Daughter] is home due to the holiday, please feel free to call any time prior to 8PM today. 9:32 AM

[The Ex]

9/11/11 5:27 PM 6 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Calling for [Daughter]. No answer. 5:27 PM

Me to [The Ex]

9/11/11 7:17 PM 6 weeks ago

Me: Just walked in, please feel free to call. 7:17 PM

[The Ex]

9/12/11 8:32 PM 6 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Cal cut. I will call back in ten minutes. 8:09 PM

Me: Its a school night and long after 8PM. Glad you got to say good night. 8:11 PM

Me: Its a school night and long after 8PM. Glad you got to say good night. 8:29 PM

Me: Its a school night and long after 8PM. Glad you got to say good night. 8:30 PM

Me: Its a school night and long after 8PM. Glad you got to say good night. 8:30 PM

[The Ex]: No answer. Tried to call to say goodnight. 8:30 PM

Me: Its a school night and long after 8PM. Glad you got to say good night. 8:30 PM

Me: There will not be an answer. If you wish to speak with [Daughter], please call during appropriate hours. 8:30 PM

Me: You have all day to call, choosing to call at 8PM is simply proof that you show no consideration to [Daughter] 8:32 PM

[The Ex]

9/13/11 8:09 PM 6 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Please answer for [Daughter]. No answer. 8:09 PM

[The Ex]

9/17/11 7:55 PM 5 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Please answer for [Daughter]. No answer. 7:52 PM

[The Ex]: Second call no answer. Pls call w [Daughter]. 7:55 PM

[The Ex]

9/18/11 8:13 PM 5 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Pls answer. Call cut. 8:00 PM

[The Ex]: Still no answer. Let [Daughter] say goodnight. She was in the middle of her food preferences. 8:13 PM

[The Ex]

9/19/11 7:50 PM 5 weeks ago

[The Ex]: No answer. Pls cal for [Daughter]. 7:50 PM

[The Ex]

9/20/11 8:15 PM 5 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Called for [Daughter]. Call cut Sunday night. No call or answer Monday night. Not good. 8:47 AM

Me: Perhaps you may wish to check the times of your calls in addition to the times [Daughter] is at school. -[Step Mom] 8:58 AM

Me: Calls after 8PM are routed to voice mail as to allow all of our children a good nights rest. Thanks! -[Step Mom] 8:59 AM

[The Ex]: You may say as u wish. I called before eight last night. My daughter is to be available for her call w me today. I need no further response. Thanks. 9:05 AM

Me: Perhaps you did call a minute or two to [Daughter]'s bedtime. If you want to speak with her, please do so PRIOR to her bedtime. 9:14 AM

Me: If you do not wish to have discourse, please refrain from texting. To do so is to invite a response. Have a good day. -[Step Mom] 9:15 AM

[The Ex]: Though it seems a compulsion to reply to me please control it. Save ur focus for my kids call. This is not a game.9:31 AM

Me: Cutting and pasting past replies is absurd. I could only wish your focus was your daughter's best interest. Have a good day. -[Step Mom]9:32 AM

[The Ex]: Yoir messages continue to be harassing to me. My phone is for my child to talk to her Mother. Stop at once [Step Mom].9:34 AM

Me: And you say it is me with the compulsion? Have a good day and please refrain from replying. -[Step Mom] 9:35 AM

[The Ex]: Yoir messages continue to be harassing to me. My phone is for my child to talk to her Mother. Stop at once [Step Mom].9:37 AM

Me: You are the one to continue texting. Please refrain from texting me if you do not wish to have a reply. Simple cause and effect. Good day to you. -[Step Mom] 9:39 AM

[The Ex]: Your messages continue to be harassing to me. My phone is for my child to talk to her Mother. Stop at once [Step Mom]. Third notice. 9:43 AM

Me: You are the one to continue texting. Please refrain from texting me if you do not wish to have a reply. Simple cause and effect. Good day to you. -[Step Mom] 9:43 AM

Me: Tried to reach you. Please call [Daughter] prior to 8PM. The next two nights, if you wish to speak to [Daughter] please call prior to 6PM as we will be out until bedtime 7:29 PM

[The Ex]: That's not going to work so easily so please do have [Daughter] getting ready for bed &her call when I call after work.Pls take a cell phone and use it for her call 8:06 PM

Me: I am sure you can arrange your schedule to speak with [Daughter]. You will need to call prior to 6PM. 8:07 PM

[The Ex]: That is not very cooperative now is it. Well no need to repeat. I get it. 8:09 PM

Me: Glad you can accomodate [Daughter]'s schedule. 8:10 PM

[The Ex]: Seems like usual u do not comprehend. All Done. Stop texting ur nonsense. 8:12 PM

Me: Please refrain from texting me nasty and snide remarks. Your behavior is becoming quite childish and aggressive. 8:13 PM

Me: If you do not wish receive texts from me, refrain from texting. I can assure you, I would rather not have to deal with you at all. 8:14 PM

Me: http://www.ourfamilywizard.com/ Seems like a worthy purchase. This will eliminate the back and forth once and for all. 8:15 PM

[The Ex]

9/21/11 9:18 PM 4 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Pls answer for [Daughter]. 7:54 PM

[The Ex]: No answer for [Daughter]s call. Again. Pls call w [Daughter]. 8:00 PM

Me: As stated to you yesterday, for the next two days please call prior to 6pm to accommodate her schedule. Thank you. 9:18 PM

Me to [The Ex]

9/25/11 12:12 AM 4 weeks ago

Me: You hung up. [Daughter] is out with her friend, will have her call when she gets in. 6:54 PM

[The Ex]: You didn't have my child available to talk.Use a cell phone and have her call me now please. You better make sure my kid is well. Do not text back. Call w [Daughter] 6:57 PM

Me: Stop acting like an aggressive fool. 6:58 PM

Me: She is out, she will call when she gets in. Point made, text unnecessary. 6:58 PM

Me: Tried your cell. If you are available, please call. 8:35 PM

[The Ex]: U did not call. I just called. The call was cut. 8:38 PM

Me: Actually I did call and it went straight to voicemail. You called at the same moment we were dialing, call was not "cut." Lets keep the facts straight. 8:39 PM

[The Ex]: You be careful how you treat my child and her heart. I do hope u can understand that. 9:08 PM

Me: Why don't you take your own advise? [Daughter] is well and happy in her home with her family unlike the life she had before. 9:09 PM

Me: She does not have people parading in and out of her life nor does she switch homes and phone numbers at the whim of an empty apartment. 9:10 PM

Me: If you cared at ALL about OUR daughter you would get the help that you so desperately need. 9:11 PM

[The Ex]: You got my message. That's all. 9:16 PM

Me: Get my message: You treated our daughter POORLY then and you are continuing to do it NOW with your mind games. 9:18 PM

Me: Try caring about [Daughter] for once because face reality she will not be living with you again. Get help so that we can all in good conscience move on without fear of you doing MORE damage. 9:20 PM

[The Ex]: We all get ur message Mccabe. 9:20 PM

Me: Good, glad your able to see reality for once. 9:21 PM

[The Ex]: Ah huh. Reality. 9:22 PM

[The Ex]: You got my message. That's all. 9:23 PM

Me: Yes, I got the message. You care nothing of [Daughter] and will do anything to sabotage her life. 9:29 PM

Me: Do yourself a favor and knock it off. Your petty and insolent behavior is breaking [Daughter]'s heart. 9:31 PM

Me: I will let the Judge handle you directly, clearly no one can talk sense into you, not even [Daughter]. 9:32 PM

[The Ex]: Please send an email on this ur texts are too long and not clear on my phone. 9:49 PM

Me: You don't read them, why bother? 9:50 PM

[The Ex]: This looks important to you. You seem to think I am a danger to [Daughter]? 9:51 PM

[The Ex]: Will you stop me from being with [Daughter] because you think I'm a danger to her? 11:48 PM

[The Ex]: Are you thinking that you are protecting her by not letting her be with me? 12:12 AM

[The Ex]: Why would you say she will never live with me? 12:12 AM

[The Ex]

9/30/11 6:37 PM 3 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Pl give [Daughter] a chance to talk tonight. I called. No answer. 6:37 PM

Text Messages: 08/2011

[The Ex]

8/1/11 8:27 PM 2 months ago

[The Ex]: Just done. Tried to call [Daughter]. Please answer. 8:25 PM

[The Ex]: No answer again. Pls have [Daughter] awailable for a few hours for our call tomorrow. 8:27 PM

[The Ex]

8/2/11 7:57 AM 2 months ago

[The Ex]: Pls have [Daughter] available to talk w me today for a few hours. I will call in the morning to reach her. If I don't reach her I will try again in early afternoon. 7:57 AM

[The Ex]

8/2/11 5:21 PM 2 months ago

[The Ex]: I have called throughout the day without any answer or call back for [Daughter] to talk to her Mom. Pls answer or call w my Girl. 5:21 PM

[The Ex]

8/5/11 8:06 PM 2 months ago

[The Ex]: [Custodial Dad]. You did not let [Daughter] talk again. Why? 8:04 PM

[The Ex]: I sent [Daughter] flowers today. I just want her to tell me if she liked the teddy bear and say goodnight. Also I called before eight. And u hung up then. 8:05 PM

[The Ex]: I'm waiting for her to call me back. She deserves a chance to talk to her Momma. 8:06 PM

[The Ex]

8/6/11 7:57 PM 2 months ago

[The Ex]: Pls answer. Calling for [Daughter]. Just done. 7:57 PM

[The Ex]

8/7/11 8:10 PM 2 months ago

[The Ex]: Pls answer. Calling for [Daughter]. Just done. 8:10 PM

Me to [The Ex]

8/9/11 7:36 PM 2 months ago

Me: We missed your calls, call now? 1:50 PM

[The Ex]: Pls answer. Calling for [Daughter]. Tried all day. No answer again. Day three of no call again. 7:36 PM

[The Ex]

8/13/11 11:35 AM 2 months ago

[The Ex]: No call w [Daughter] since wednesday. It is Saturday. Pls hv [Daughter] available at anytime for her call with her Mom. 8:48 AM

Me: Please call this morning if you are able. We will be out of cell phone range most of today. 10:35 AM

Me: We have not recieved a call from you since Wednesday either, excluding the call received long after acceptable times. 10:36 AM

[The Ex]: I will be calling My Girl later. See that she is available. Thanks. 11:25 AM

Me: Glad your schedule finally allowed you time to call our daughter. Have a pleasant day. 11:27 AM

[The Ex]: Esad. 11:27 AM

[The Ex]: Sad u can't make call a priority. 11:29 AM

Me: What does ESAD have to do with our daughter going camping? 11:31 AM

Me: As stated we will be out without cell phone signal. You wouldn't suggest I cancel our trip based on the fact that you finally decide to call [Daughter], right? 11:33 AM

[The Ex]: I will be calling My Girl later. See that she is available. Thanks. 11:35 AM

Me: Altering our planned trip in order to accommodate a second call is asinine. Glad you were finally available for [Daughter].. 11:41 AM

Me: Have a good day, I'm going to go and enjoy the weekend with my children. 11:41 AM

[The Ex]

8/15/11 8:08 PM 2 months ago

[The Ex]: Pls call w [Daughter]. Or answer my call for [Daughter] 8:08 PM

[The Ex]

8/16/11 8:02 PM 2 months ago

[The Ex]: Pls call w [Daughter]. Or answer my call for [Daughter] 8:01 PM

[The Ex]: I have tried to call w no answer again. What is the problem w ur phone? 8:02 PM

[The Ex]: Answer or call w my girl. 8:02 PM

Me to [The Ex]

8/17/11 12:35 PM 2 months ago

Me: Phone was off the hook, please call now. 12:35 PM

Me to [The Ex]

8/22/11 6:08 PM 2 months ago

Me: [Daughter] is out at an event with her girl friend, will text when she gets back in. 3:36 PM

Me: [Daughter] is out at an event with her girl friend, will text when she gets back in. 6:07 PM

Me: [Daughter] is out at an event with her girl friend, will text when she gets back in. 6:08 PM

Me to [The Ex]

8/23/11 5:19 PM 2 months ago 

Me: [Daughter] just walked in the door. 7:38 PM

Me: Just tried you. Please call prior to 8PM if you are able. If not, will will try you again in the AM. 7:55 PM

Me: Just tried you, please again. 5:19 PM

Me to [The Ex]

8/24/11 7:44 PM 2 months ago 

Me: Finished supper, just tried you. If available please try again prior to 8pm. 6:50 PM

Me: Finished supper, just tried you. If available please try again prior to 8pm. 6:52 PM

Me: Tried you again, voicemail is apparently full. Please call back prior to 8PM if you are available. 7:44 PM

Me to [The Ex]

8/24/11 7:56 PM 2 months ago 

Me: She was brushing her teeth... Be right there. 7:56 PM

Me to [The Ex]

8/29/11 9:45 AM 8 weeks ago 

Me: Saw you called at 8:30 last night. School was postponed a day, [Daughter] is home this morning if you would like to speak to her. 9:45 AM

[The Ex]

8/30/11 10:50 PM 8 weeks ago

[The Ex]: When I call answer the phone. Simple. Make it a priority for my child. Stop texting nonsense to my phone. Again no answer. How many days now? 7:55 PM

Me: Please make calling your priority. And for the record. It has been three days since you answered your telephone or returned a call during appropriate times. 10:50 PM

[The Ex]

8/31/11 8:16 PM 7 weeks ago

[The Ex]: Its eight o clock when u say it is I guess. Even when its not. Why u end this childs call is a wonder. 7:54 PM

Me: No one ended the call except "the child" herself. 8:14 PM

Me: The only wonder is how you justify your actions to yourself. 8:16 PM