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[Custodial Dad]
[The Ex]
[daughter]

My wife [StepMother]
My other children [siblings]
My many brothers, sisters, nieces and nephews.
My mother
Our pets

The Ex's FOUR fiances and The Ex's ex husband
The Ex's past in-laws
The Ex's parents and sister

The Ex's NINE different attorneys
Custodial Dad's two attorneys

Four therapists in [other state]
Daughter's therapist in [home state]

Teachers, Principals, Superintendents and Guidance Counselors at [school] in [home state]

[Home State] Department of Children and Youth
[Home State] Police Department

Friends, strangers and passerby's who witness the insanity that has become our life.

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Concerned Re: Please allocate time for [Daughter] with Mom for February/ March easter. Re: January 2011


[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 18, 2011 at 5:25 PM
To: [Custodial Dad] [Last Name] < [Last Name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:
Why does the Child welfare group keep coming to your house?  Do you have a contact person at that department?
Will you please inform me.  I am very concerned.  You have mentioned this a few times already.
What is the issue?
Please call or pick up the phone tonight for [Daughter] to talk to me.  It is court ordered.
[The Ex]


From: [Custodial Dad] [Last Name] < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; va[Last Name]@[The Ex's School].edu; [The Ex] <[Last Name] @[email].com>; [The Ex] <[The Ex][Last Name]@[email].com>; [The Ex]@[email].com; [Grandpa]@[email].com
Sent: Fri, February 18, 2011 1:57:19 PM
Subject: Re: Please allocate time for [Daughter] with Mom for February/ March easter. Re: January 2011

So sorry [Daughter] did not return your call(s) last night, but she was out with her girlfriends for a special cheer leading practice, I am sure [Daughter] told you this schedule change but perhaps (being 8) she did forget.
I also informed Children and Youth as they stopped by at your behest (again.)
Thank you so much.
[Custodial Dad]

On Fri, Feb 18, 2011 at 6:49 AM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:

NO calls for [Daughter].
I reach your voicemail when I call.
No call last night- no text- nothing.

I am very concerned with this lack of contact for my daughter.
How do you explain to [Daughter] why she has no time with her Mom?
Please detail - with facts- the reasons for keeping her away from her Mom.
How do your think she feels?
What will the court say about your actons?

Please allocate days for her to be with me and I will fly her down.  I will pay for all expenses. 
Easter is a good time to make up for your refusal to allow [Daughter] time for Christmas.


At the very least of my interests is your email below: 
If it were true, you could have written:  "Here IS some of her current school work."
But, neither your grammar nor your statement is correct.




From: [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[Last Name] @[email].com>; [The Ex] <va[Last Name]@[The Ex's School].edu>; [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[The Ex][Last Name]@[email].com>
Sent: Sat, February 5, 2011 10:53:29 AM
Subject: Re: January 2011

Some attachments did not connect.
Here is the actual report card.


On Sat, Feb 5, 2011 at 10:49 AM, [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com> wrote:
Attached is [Daughter]'s current report card.  You may request a parent/teacher conference via telephone through her teacher.
You said that [Daughter] did not send you work or there was some other issue with getting it.  Here are some of her current school work.  
You can also request to have the school send you reports, work and other notices directly.
She does make you artwork and will continue to send that to you directly, as she requested to continue to do so.
She has her first cheer competition Sunday.  She's very excited.  
Cheer Pictures are coming up... contact Bender Photography if you want pictures.
Her school pictures are next month... you can purchase pictures through the school as well.

I am hoping my brevity will alleviate any perceived feelings of animosity or "harassment."  
[Custodial Dad]
  

On Wed, Feb 2, 2011 at 8:26 PM, [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com> wrote:
Yes, we get it.  We all, including [Daughter], know you are upset and willing to do anything including lie, cheat and scheme to get her back.  Whether it is your mental illness or just a stubborn refusal to accept reality, the fact that she is happy and healthy here. Children and Youth, her therapist, her Principal, her teachers and guidance counselors, [sibling]'s father and even the police have all mentioned/documented to you that [Daughter] has adjusted perfectly well to her family.  She now has a better life, stability and reliability, home cooked meals, electricity, a family and a home without substance abuse, constant babysitters and a roundabout of people coming in and out of her life.  (Those are solely my observations of what you yourself, [Daughter] and others have described your life as.)  

As you know, [Daughter] has been in therapy since the week she moved back home.  And if you actually listened to what [Daughter] is saying to you, you would realize that she does indeed tell her therapist or her family or her friends "all that is in her heart" and you are making her uncomfortable by consistently referring to the notion that she is somehow making the "best" of her life or that she is withholding her feelings in some manner from anyone, except of course you. [Daughter] DOES miss you however she also knows that your behavior is inappropriate and unacceptable thus preventing her from seeing you until we are best able to work out a healthy relationship between the two of you.  Again, her therapist has instructed her to end the conversation when you make her uncomfortable and tonight was clearly one of those nights.   Its sad that you can not control your language while conversing with my daughter.  

[Custodial Dad]

[Custodial Dad] [Last Name] < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 18, 2011 at 7:30 PM
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] <[Last Name] @[email].com>, [The Ex] <[The Ex][Last Name]@[email].com>, va[Last Name]@[The Ex's School].edu, [The Ex]@[email].com
Bcc:  [Last Name]s@[email].com


You are simply ridiculous... 


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Please allocate time for [Daughter] with Mom for February/ March easter. Re: January 2011


[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 18, 2011 at 6:49 AM
To: [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>

NO calls for [Daughter].
I reach your voicemail when I call.
No call last night- no text- nothing.

I am very concerned with this lack of contact for my daughter.
How do you explain to [Daughter] why she has no time with her Mom?
Please detail - with facts- the reasons for keeping her away from her Mom.
How do your think she feels?
What will the court say about your actons?

Please allocate days for her to be with me and I will fly her down.  I will pay for all expenses. 
Easter is a good time to make up for your refusal to allow [Daughter] time for Christmas.


At the very least of my interests is your email below: 
If it were true, you could have written:  "Here IS some of her current school work."
But, neither your grammar nor your statement is correct.




From: [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[Last Name] @[email].com>; [The Ex] <va[Last Name]@[The Ex's School].edu>; [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[The Ex][Last Name]@[email].com>
Sent: Sat, February 5, 2011 10:53:29 AM
Subject: Re: January 2011

Some attachments did not connect.
Here is the actual report card.


On Sat, Feb 5, 2011 at 10:49 AM, [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com> wrote:
Attached is [Daughter]'s current report card.  You may request a parent/teacher conference via telephone through her teacher.
You said that [Daughter] did not send you work or there was some other issue with getting it.  Here are some of her current school work.  
You can also request to have the school send you reports, work and other notices directly.
She does make you artwork and will continue to send that to you directly, as she requested to continue to do so.
She has her first cheer competition Sunday.  She's very excited.  
Cheer Pictures are coming up... contact Bender Photography if you want pictures.
Her school pictures are next month... you can purchase pictures through the school as well.

I am hoping my brevity will alleviate any perceived feelings of animosity or "harassment."  
[Custodial Dad]
  

On Wed, Feb 2, 2011 at 8:26 PM, [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com> wrote:
Yes, we get it.  We all, including [Daughter], know you are upset and willing to do anything including lie, cheat and scheme to get her back.  Whether it is your mental illness or just a stubborn refusal to accept reality, the fact that she is happy and healthy here. Children and Youth, her therapist, her Principal, her teachers and guidance counselors, [sibling]'s father and even the police have all mentioned/documented to you that [Daughter] has adjusted perfectly well to her family.  She now has a better life, stability and reliability, home cooked meals, electricity, a family and a home without substance abuse, constant babysitters and a roundabout of people coming in and out of her life.  (Those are solely my observations of what you yourself, [Daughter] and others have described your life as.)  

As you know, [Daughter] has been in therapy since the week she moved back home.  And if you actually listened to what [Daughter] is saying to you, you would realize that she does indeed tell her therapist or her family or her friends "all that is in her heart" and you are making her uncomfortable by consistently referring to the notion that she is somehow making the "best" of her life or that she is withholding her feelings in some manner from anyone, except of course you. [Daughter] DOES miss you however she also knows that your behavior is inappropriate and unacceptable thus preventing her from seeing you until we are best able to work out a healthy relationship between the two of you.  Again, her therapist has instructed her to end the conversation when you make her uncomfortable and tonight was clearly one of those nights.   Its sad that you can not control your language while conversing with my daughter.  

[Custodial Dad]
[Custodial Dad] [Last Name] < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 18, 2011 at 1:57 PM
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, va[Last Name]@[The Ex's School].edu, [The Ex] <[Last Name] @[email].com>, [The Ex] <[The Ex][Last Name]@[email].com>, [The Ex]@[email].com, [Grandpa]@[email].com
Bcc:  [Last Name]s@[email].com
So sorry [Daughter] did not return your call(s) last night, but she was out with her girlfriends for a special cheer leading practice, I am sure [Daughter] told you this schedule change but perhaps (being 8) she did forget.
I also informed Children and Youth as they stopped by at your behest (again.)
Thank you so much.
[Custodial Dad]
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[Custodial Dad] L. [Last Name]
[XXX]-[XXX]-0185


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NOted: refusal to cease neg email content Re: Please cease this email content. Re: Phone Calls


[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 4, 2011 at 2:18 PM
To: [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
Noted: Father's refusla to cease harassing content of emails.


From: [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, February 4, 2011 2:09:19 PM
Subject: Re: Please cease this email content. Re: Phone Calls


First, [Step Mom] is not writing to you.  I am.

Second, your statements to my daughter are the cause for concern and reason for writing to you.

Lastly, your behavior is the clear and concise definition of harassment.  Solely out of respect for our daughter is the ONLY reason I have not yet pressed charges against you. And clearly your email is for the purpose of creating chaos and documenting your case for some future litigation.

Please cease your undermining of [Daughter]'s relationship with her family.  If you are indeed concerned, please find help for your issues.

[Custodial Dad]

On Fri, Feb 4, 2011 at 1:06 PM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
Your messages and [Step Mother]'s are consistently disturbing.
Please cease this content when writing me.
It is harassing, at the least.  My email is not for that purpose.
[The Ex]


From: [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[Last Name] @[email].com>; [The Ex] <va[Last Name]@[The Ex's School].edu>; [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[The Ex][Last Name]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, February 2, 2011 8:26:08 PM
Subject: Phone Calls

Yes, we get it.  We all, including [Daughter], know you are upset and willing to do anything including lie, cheat and scheme to get her back.  Whether it is your mental illness or just a stubborn refusal to accept reality, the fact that she is happy and healthy here. Children and Youth, her therapist, her Principal, her teachers and guidance counselors, [sibling]'s father and even the police have all mentioned/documented to you that [Daughter] has adjusted perfectly well to her family.  She now has a better life, stability and reliability, home cooked meals, electricity, a family and a home without substance abuse, constant babysitters and a roundabout of people coming in and out of her life.  (Those are solely my observations of what you yourself, [Daughter] and others have described your life as.)  

As you know, [Daughter] has been in therapy since the week she moved back home.  And if you actually listened to what [Daughter] is saying to you, you would realize that she does indeed tell her therapist or her family or her friends "all that is in her heart" and you are making her uncomfortable by consistently referring to the notion that she is somehow making the "best" of her life or that she is withholding her feelings in some manner from anyone, except of course you. [Daughter] DOES miss you however she also knows that your behavior is inappropriate and unacceptable thus preventing her from seeing you until we are best able to work out a healthy relationship between the two of you.  Again, her therapist has instructed her to end the conversation when you make her uncomfortable and tonight was clearly one of those nights.   Its sad that you can not control your language while conversing with my daughter.  

[Custodial Dad]
[Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 4, 2011 at 2:32 PM
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mom] [Last Name] < [Last Name]s@[email].com>


I am asking that you curb what you are saying to my daughter because you are making her uncomfortable, sad and confused.  I can not help that you are taking my correction to your language as harassment. However, as it was brought to your attention, if you can not curb yourself, [Daughter] has the ability to do so.  As I said before, if she "disconnects" or suddenly wants to go, she was instructed by her therapist that she is in complete control over the conversation and may end it at any time.

What you choose to do with the information presented to you is your business.

[Custodial Dad]
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Notes: Father's refusal of all fronts Re: Please respond about school meals and homework fir [Daughter]. & Februay/ March / Easter 2011 time-share


[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 4, 2011 at 2:16 PM
To: [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
[Custodial Dad]:
It is evident that you refuse to share [Daughter]'s time and you refuse to allow her an opportunity to benefit from school meals and homework time with her Mom.
[The Ex]


From: [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, February 4, 2011 2:12:36 PM
Subject: Re: Please respond about school meals and homework fir [Daughter]. & Februay/ March / Easter 2011 time-share

In order to not redundantly repeat myself, please read the e-mails, all response(s) needed is there.

Again, to save time, frustration and redundancy please sign up for the parent communication software as asked of you previously.  It will save this back and forth non-sense. 

[Custodial Dad] 

On Fri, Feb 4, 2011 at 1:15 PM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:


[Custodial Dad]: please specify time -share for February & March 2011.  You say the dates and times and I will arrange for [Daughter]'s flights and travel to airport. 
Also, please yeild time for [Daughter] this Easter as you failed to send her for Christmas 2010.
Please respond to the school meal and howework issues below.

On Jan 3, 2011, at 7:36 PM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:


[Custodial Dad]:
What is the purpose of this email to me?
Issues you have left unaddressed from my emails are important - more important than this message:
1.  Will you agree to me buying [Daughter]'s school breakfast/ lunch?  If no, why not?  Are you able to qualify for government aid for her school meals due to your unemployment? Why not allow her to be fed by the school as other families do in your financial situation?

2. Will you set up homework time for [Daughter] with me?  Can you send homework each week for me? Can you send some of [Daughter]'s schoolwork for me?

3. Can you send me pictures of her first day of school?
4.  Can I have a picture of [Daughter] in her glasses?
5.  What rules are you insisting that she follows about using her glasses?

6. Did you seek medical care for my child when she was sick in the last week of December?    What was the outcome?

7.  What time can you offer for future time share?  Will you share [Daughter]'s time at Easter- or anytime?
8.  Why won;t you cash the checks I sent for [Daughter]'s care?  Why won't you work with me to set up child support from me to [Daughter]- through payment to you?

9.  Why not settle the back support you owe [Daughter] from 2005 to 2010?
Please- Can you take the time to address these points?

Thank you for your consideration of this request.
[The Ex] 

From: [Custodial Dad] [Last Name] < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 31, 2010 11:05:05 PM
Subject: Re: calls recorded and repeatedly interrupted- no answer on your line after calls cut for child and Mother

One last note... Your inability to recognize that simple fact that [Daughter] is just as much my daughter as she is yours, shows that you have never had any intention of allowing me any chance to have a normal relationship with [Daughter].  Its very sad but also very telling to see that you can not bring yourself to even share the proper noun....

And she isn't "the child", or "child," nor am I "father." You are separating a very human aspect of this situation.  Just as you are 'mom,' I am simply her Da Da as I have always been and as I always will be.  

Its the new year, lets work on changing our patterns of writing/speech and maybe the behaviors and attitudes will changes along side of them as well.

On Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 10:13 PM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:
Note:
Last night's call- recording on/ off repeated and interrupted child sharing with Mom and Skye.

Tonight's call- New Year's Eve- Call cut mid sentence - I tried to call back.  Voicemail only heard.  I tried later again- voicemail only.

At least allow my child to talk without the interruption of your recording equiptment and allow her to have a chance to say goodbyes to her Mother. 

Please facilitate adequate phone contact for my daughter's phone communication.

(Please spare me your useless banter- you have the recorded calls and we all have phone logs.  All will be required in court at the right time.  No need to 'defend' with your version.   Just change these behaviors for the child's phone contact. )
Thanks.
[The Ex]




-- 
[Custodial Dad] L. [Last Name]
[XXX]-[XXX]-0185


~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~
[Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 4, 2011 at 2:27 PM
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mom] [Last Name] < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
What benefit are school meals to [Daughter] specifically?  

As stated before, [Daughter] does her homework on her own. Why are you anticipating [Daughter] needing hands on homework help?  

I have offered you time to see [Daughter], when you are in [home state]. IF YOU ARE IN [home state], I WILL ARRANGE TIME AND PLACE FOR [Daughter] TO SPEND WITH YOU.

Again, to save time and frustration and your "notes" - there is a software program that will document any and all communication between us.  It is clearly worth the money.
[Custodial Dad]
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Please respond about school meals and homework fir [Daughter]. & Februay/ March / Easter 2011 time-share


[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 4, 2011 at 1:15 PM
To:  [Last Name]s@[email].com
Cc: [email]@[email].com


[Custodial Dad]: please specify time -share for February & March 2011.  You say the dates and times and I will arrange for [Daughter]'s flights and travel to airport. 
Also, please yeild time for [Daughter] this Easter as you failed to send her for Christmas 2010.
Please respond to the school meal and howework issues below.

On Jan 3, 2011, at 7:36 PM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:


[Custodial Dad]:
What is the purpose of this email to me?
Issues you have left unaddressed from my emails are important - more important than this message:
1.  Will you agree to me buying [Daughter]'s school breakfast/ lunch?  If no, why not?  Are you able to qualify for government aid for her school meals due to your unemployment? Why not allow her to be fed by the school as other families do in your financial situation?

2. Will you set up homework time for [Daughter] with me?  Can you send homework each week for me? Can you send some of [Daughter]'s schoolwork for me?

3. Can you send me pictures of her first day of school?
4.  Can I have a picture of [Daughter] in her glasses?
5.  What rules are you insisting that she follows about using her glasses?

6. Did you seek medical care for my child when she was sick in the last week of December?    What was the outcome?

7.  What time can you offer for future time share?  Will you share [Daughter]'s time at Easter- or anytime?
8.  Why won;t you cash the checks I sent for [Daughter]'s care?  Why won't you work with me to set up child support from me to [Daughter]- through payment to you?

9.  Why not settle the back support you owe [Daughter] from 2005 to 2010?
Please- Can you take the time to address these points?

Thank you for your consideration of this request.
[The Ex] 

From: [Custodial Dad] [Last Name] < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 31, 2010 11:05:05 PM
Subject: Re: calls recorded and repeatedly interrupted- no answer on your line after calls cut for child and Mother

One last note... Your inability to recognize that simple fact that [Daughter] is just as much my daughter as she is yours, shows that you have never had any intention of allowing me any chance to have a normal relationship with [Daughter].  Its very sad but also very telling to see that you can not bring yourself to even share the proper noun....

And she isn't "the child", or "child," nor am I "father." You are separating a very human aspect of this situation.  Just as you are 'mom,' I am simply her Da Da as I have always been and as I always will be.  

Its the new year, lets work on changing our patterns of writing/speech and maybe the behaviors and attitudes will changes along side of them as well.

On Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 10:13 PM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:
Note:
Last night's call- recording on/ off repeated and interrupted child sharing with Mom and Skye.

Tonight's call- New Year's Eve- Call cut mid sentence - I tried to call back.  Voicemail only heard.  I tried later again- voicemail only.

At least allow my child to talk without the interruption of your recording equiptment and allow her to have a chance to say goodbyes to her Mother. 

Please facilitate adequate phone contact for my daughter's phone communication.

(Please spare me your useless banter- you have the recorded calls and we all have phone logs.  All will be required in court at the right time.  No need to 'defend' with your version.   Just change these behaviors for the child's phone contact. )
Thanks.
[The Ex]

[Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 4, 2011 at 2:12 PM
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mom] [Last Name] < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
In order to not redundantly repeat myself, please read the e-mails, all response(s) needed is there.

Again, to save time, frustration and redundancy please sign up for the parent communication software as asked of you previously.  It will save this back and forth non-sense. 

[Custodial Dad] 
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Please cease this email content. Re: Phone Calls


[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 4, 2011 at 1:06 PM
To: [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:
Your messages and [Step Mother]'s are consistently disturbing.
Please cease this content when writing me.
It is harassing, at the least.  My email is not for that purpose.
[The Ex]


From: [Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[Last Name] @[email].com>; [The Ex] <va[Last Name]@[The Ex's School].edu>; [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[The Ex][Last Name]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, February 2, 2011 8:26:08 PM
Subject: Phone Calls

Yes, we get it.  We all, including [Daughter], know you are upset and willing to do anything including lie, cheat and scheme to get her back.  Whether it is your mental illness or just a stubborn refusal to accept reality, the fact that she is happy and healthy here. Children and Youth, her therapist, her Principal, her teachers and guidance counselors, [sibling]'s father and even the police have all mentioned/documented to you that [Daughter] has adjusted perfectly well to her family.  She now has a better life, stability and reliability, home cooked meals, electricity, a family and a home without substance abuse, constant babysitters and a roundabout of people coming in and out of her life.  (Those are solely my observations of what you yourself, [Daughter] and others have described your life as.)  

As you know, [Daughter] has been in therapy since the week she moved back home.  And if you actually listened to what [Daughter] is saying to you, you would realize that she does indeed tell her therapist or her family or her friends "all that is in her heart" and you are making her uncomfortable by consistently referring to the notion that she is somehow making the "best" of her life or that she is withholding her feelings in some manner from anyone, except of course you. [Daughter] DOES miss you however she also knows that your behavior is inappropriate and unacceptable thus preventing her from seeing you until we are best able to work out a healthy relationship between the two of you.  Again, her therapist has instructed her to end the conversation when you make her uncomfortable and tonight was clearly one of those nights.   Its sad that you can not control your language while conversing with my daughter.  

[Custodial Dad]

[Last Name]s < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Feb 4, 2011 at 2:09 PM
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mom] [Last Name] < [Last Name]s@[email].com>
First, [Step Mom] is not writing to you.  I am.

Second, your statements to my daughter are the cause for concern and reason for writing to you.

Lastly, your behavior is the clear and concise definition of harassment.  Solely out of respect for our daughter is the ONLY reason I have not yet pressed charges against you. And clearly your email is for the purpose of creating chaos and documenting your case for some future litigation.

Please cease your undermining of [Daughter]'s relationship with her family.  If you are indeed concerned, please find help for your issues.

[Custodial Dad]
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[Custodial Dad]'s repeated Refusal to allow time -share for child with Mom Re: Send dates and times please. Re: January Febuary 2011 time share requests



[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>  Mon, Jan 31, 2011 at 12:58 PM  
To: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>  

[Custodial Dad]:
Please clarify your claims in the email below.
[The Ex]




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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Sat, January 29, 2011 5:13:09 PM
Subject: Re: Send dates and times please. Re: January

Febuary 2011 time share requests


I have reiterated and re-stated my "views" to you countless times about OUR daughter and yes, she is
OUR daughter. I have no wish nor want to "keep her away" from you or [Other State]. My job is to protect her from danger, mental and physical abuse at your hands.


Please undergo a psychological evaluation and agree to abide by their recommendations,  thus allowing us
all a chance to move forward. It's a simple and valid request. I can not understand your reluctance to do
anything that is asked of you or your refusal to actually answer any questions posed to you.


My statement about "ignoring" me was due to your statements to various individuals about my supposed
insignificance. I can assure you that with your frequent and harassing attention that you have paid
to me and my family this year, that is NOT what I want. However, I will again suggest the online parent
communication service that [Other State Lawyer] suggested to better keep tabs on these communications, eliminate the she said/he said, the redundancy and "notes."


[Custodial Dad]

On Jan 29, 2011, at 4:26 PM, [The Ex]
<[email]@[email].com> wrote:


Again, this is NOT about you and my attention to YOU-

BUT it is about my child's time with her Mom.
You have no court order to keep her away- no matter your views.

When will you plan to send [Daughter] to her [Other State] Home with her Mom?
Just say when and I will book the flight.

Thanks
[The Ex]




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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother]
<[email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, January 24, 2011 1:56:12 PM
Subject: Re: Send dates and times please. Re: January Febuary 2011 time share requests

Clearly there is a break down in communication (again.) You said you were traveling to [Home State] and I responded that I would make sure [Daughter] is available to see you outside of whatever time you have set aside for her at school.

Unless of course you are willing to undergo a psychiatric evaluation, as stated to you and your attorney(s) countless times; then we can revisit

[Daughter] traveling to [Other State] or seeing you without  supervision.

If my message in any way confused you, I apologize.

Maybe you should read what I write to you instead of  "ignoring" me.

Thanks
[Custodial Dad]

On Jan 24, 2011, at 1:35 PM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:


[Custodial Dad]:
As you offer time-share for [Daughter] with Mom, I will book her flight to [Other State], keep her here are home for the agreed period, and return her via plane to you- ALL as you let me know the dates and times.
I am able to take her for time-share ANYTIME you are offering.

Please designate weekend(s) in February 2010, to start and I will book the flight. I need your commitment to send [Daughter] before I can book the flights from and to [Home State].

Awaiting schedule- dates- times.  Please send.  I'LL take ANY and ALL dates you offer for [Daughter] to be with her Mom in her [Other State] home.

Thanks.
[The Ex]




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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Cc: "[email]@[email].com" <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, January 24, 2011 6:27:44 AM
Subject: Re: January Febuary 2011 time share requests


Yes, I agree she needs time to spend with you. As I have offered, please let me know your schedule and I will have [Daughter] available for time with you outside of whatever time you have set aside for [Daughter] at her school. Again, please set aside time to meet with our daughters therapist.
Thanks.
[Custodial Dad]

On Jan 24, 2011, at 6:03 AM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:


[Custodial Dad]:
Please offer time-share for [Daughter] based on your family schedule and her school schedule for extended weekends or weekday times when I can care for her and keep her on her schedule.
I will be happy to have her overnight and weekends in [Home State] as you detail the schedule.She really needs time with her Momma.
Thanks.
[The Ex]



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[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>  
Mon, Jan 31, 2011 at 1:09 PM  
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>  

In order to not redundantly repeat myself, please read the e-mails, all response(s) needed is there.

[Quoted text hidden]
--
[Custodial Dad]
XXX-XXX-XXXX


~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~

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Send dates and times please. Re: January Febuary 2011 time share requests

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>  Mon, Jan 24, 2011 at 1:35 PM  
To: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:
As you offer time-share for [Daughter] with Mom, I will book her flight to [Other State], keep her here are home for the agreed period, and return her via plane to you- ALL as you let me know the dates and times.
I am able to take her for time-share ANYTIME you are offering.

Please designate weekend(s) in February 2010, to start and I will book the flight.
I need your commitment to send [Daughter] before I can book the flights from and to [Home State].

Awaiting schedule- dates- times.  Please send.  I'LL take ANY and ALL dates you offer for [Daughter] to be with her Mom in her [Other State] home.

Thanks.
[The Ex]




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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Cc: "[email]@[email].com" <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, January 24, 2011 6:27:44 AM
Subject: Re: January Febuary 2011 time share requests


Yes, I agree she needs time to spend with you. As I have offered, please let me know your schedule and I will have [Daughter] available for time with you outside of whatever time you have set aside for [Daughter] at her school. Again, please set aside time to meet with our daughters therapist.
Thanks.
[Custodial Dad]

On Jan 24, 2011, at 6:03 AM, [The Ex]
<[email]@[email].com> wrote:


[Custodial Dad]:
Please offer time-share for [Daughter] based on your family schedule and her school schedule for extended
weekends or weekday times when I can care for her and keep her on her schedule.
I will be happy to have her overnight and weekends in [Home State] as you detail the schedule.
She really needs time with her Momma.
Thanks.
[The Ex]






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[Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>  Mon, Jan 24, 2011 at 1:56 PM  
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>  

Clearly there is a break down in communication (again.) You said you were traveling to [Home State] and I
responded that I would make sure [Daughter] is available to see you outside of whatever time you have set
aside for her at school.


Unless of course you are willing to undergo a psychiatric evaluation, as stated to you and your
attorney(s) countless times; then we can revisit [Daughter] traveling to [Other State] or seeing you without
supervision.


If my message in any way confused you, I apologize.

Maybe you should read what I write to you instead of "ignoring" me.


Thanks
[Custodial Dad]





On Jan 24, 2011, at 1:35 PM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:

[Custodial Dad]:
As you offer time-share for [Daughter] with Mom, I will book her flight to [Other State], keep her here are home for the agreed period, and return her via plane to you- ALL as you let me know the dates and times.
I am able to take her for time-share ANYTIME you are offering.

Please designate weekend(s) in February 2010, to start and I will book the flight.
I need your commitment to send [Daughter] before I can book the flights from and to [Home State].

Awaiting schedule- dates- times.  Please send.  I'LL take ANY and ALL dates you offer for [Daughter] to be with her Mom in her [Other State] home.

Thanks.
[The Ex]




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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother]

<[email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Cc: "[email]@[email].com" <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, January 24, 2011 6:27:44 AM
Subject: Re: January Febuary 2011 time share requests


Yes, I agree she needs time to spend with you. As I have offered, please let me know your schedule and I will have [Daughter] available for time with you outside of whatever time you have set aside for [Daughter] at her school. Again, please set aside time to meet with our daughters therapist.
Thanks.
[Custodial Dad]

On Jan 24, 2011, at 6:03 AM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:


[Custodial Dad]:
Please offer time-share for [Daughter] based on your family schedule and her school schedule for extended
weekends or weekday times when I can care for her and keep her on her schedule.
I will be happy to have her overnight and weekends in [Home State] as you detail the schedule.
She really needs time with her Momma.
Thanks.
[The Ex]










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[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>  Sat, Jan 29, 2011 at 4:26 PM  
To: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>  

Again, this is NOT about you and my attention to YOU-

BUT it is about my child's time with her Mom.
You have no court order to keep her away- no matter your views.

When will you plan to send [Daughter] to her [Other State] Home with her Mom?
Just say when and I will book the flight.

Thanks
[The Ex]




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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, January 24, 2011 1:56:12 PM
Subject: Re: Send dates and times please. Re: January Febuary 2011 time share requests

[Quoted text hidden]





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[Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] 
<[email]@[email].com>  Sat, Jan 29, 2011 at 5:13 PM  
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>  

I have reiterated and re-stated my "views" to you countless times about OUR daughter and yes, she is OUR daughter. I have no wish nor want to "keep her away" from you or [Other State]. My job is to protect her from danger, mental and physical abuse at your hands.

Please undergo a psychological evaluation and agree to abide by their recommendations,  thus allowing us all a chance to move forward. It's a simple and valid request. I can not understand your reluctance to do anything that is asked of you or your refusal to actually answer any questions posed to you.

My statement about "ignoring" me was due to your statements to various individuals about my supposed insignificance. I can assure you that with your frequent and harassing attention that you have paid to me and my family this year, that is NOT what I want. However, I will again suggest the online parent communication service that [Other State Lawyer] suggested to better keep tabs on these communications, eliminate the she said/he said, the redundancy and "notes."


[Custodial Dad]
[Quoted text hidden]

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January Febuary 2011 time share requests



[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>  Mon, Jan 24, 2011 at 6:03 AM  
To: [email]@[email].com 
Cc: [email]@[email].com  

[Custodial Dad]:
Please offer time-share for [Daughter] based on your family schedule and her school schedule for extended weekends or weekday times when I can care for her and keep her on her schedule. I will be happy to have her overnight and weekends in [Home State] as you detail the schedule. She really needs time with her Momma.
Thanks.
[The Ex]




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[Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>  
Mon, Jan 24, 2011 at 6:27 AM  
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> 
Cc: "[email]@[email].com" <[email]@[email].com> 

Yes, I agree she needs time to spend with you. As I have offered, please let me know your schedule and I will have [Daughter] available for time with you outside of whatever time you have set aside for [Daughter] at her school. Again, please set aside time to meet with our daughters therapist.
Thanks.
[Custodial Dad]

[Quoted text hidden]
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Time share please

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>  Sat, Jan 15, 2011 at 8:31 PM  
To: [email]@[email].com 
Cc: [email]@[email].com  

Please arrange time for [Daughter] with me.It is January 16, 2011.
She has not had time share since August 15th, 2010.
Please revise your decision and/ or provide a legal basis for withholding this child against the court

order.
[The Ex]

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Mom's Comments on Update Re: December Update

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>  Tue, Jan 11, 2011 at 8:24 AM  
To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>  

[Custodial Dad];

Your 'facts' are incorrect and unverifiable.
In truth, the actual facts are verifaible.

Your 'update' contains accusations.
You seem to focus on speculations about me and my actions.

Please atrrange time for [Daughter] with me.

RE; Phone:
You do NOT even call me by simple telephone, as ordered- or as arranged by you.  I have to call and HOPE for an answer from my child.  Then she and I  struggle to hear each other over the announcements of call recording on/off, the  beeps and buzzes of the call recording you have in place.  But we do it , as it is all we have of contact you allow.

Re: Skype:  
Skype would be great, but I cannot rely on your internet working. Skype would be a daily option for [Daughter] with me and I would love for her to have that time with me. But, as we have experienced with you- the Skype video drops and then NO CALL back, so the contact is denied.

There was no call last night.  I called at 7pm, then 730pm - due to cheerleading schedule - 'travel time' to get home delays call- I was told.   But, you have a cell phone, no?  Then I called before 9pm.  YOu told us it was "10PM." I do not understand the distortions and lack of compliance.

So - please spare me the false 'offer' of skype.

(I will call now- to try to reach [Daughter] on the car line. --- The result: no answer- voicemail.  No contact.)








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From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>;
[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex]
[last name] <[email]@[the Ex's school].edu>; [The Ex]
<[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, January 10, 2011 7:46:10 PM
Subject: December Update

[Daughter] is doing remarkable, she is happy, healthy and enjoying time with her family.

Her school work is fantastic, as you know as Principal [Teacher] speaks with you weekly.

She is doing well with her palate extender and has been relatively healthy, but again you already know through your frequent calls to her providers.

Cheerleading is going well, she has opted to finish out the season and choose something else in the fall.

 FYI, you seem to have been confused - [Daughter] does

cheerleading  [days].  She has sessions with her therapist on Tuesday but not every week.  I know I emailed this to you and I know my wife had to explain this to you this evening but here it is again.

[Daughter] sent you pictures of her first snow day, some cheerleading photos and some every day stuff that she took pictures of.  She received a camera for Christmas and she will be taking her own pictures to share with you.


She sent you a package of pictures, a broken necklace and some school work that was delivered on Friday but she says you haven't picked it up as yet.  Please let me know if there is an issue using that address as I still have no idea where you may or may not be residing.

I know that [Daughter] keeps you well informed and that you are utilizing the contact information of all of her medical providers and teachers as provided to you.

Lastly, as always, if you can Skype, we are able to do so on Sundays.


Take Care;
[Custodial Dad]




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[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>  Tue, Jan 11, 2011 at 9:41 AM  
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> 
Bcc: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>  

I didn't "accuse" you of anything nor am I speculating.

I said it was almost 9PM and you muttered various digits to me and said "Oh" and hung up.  I knew what time it was, I assumed that you did not.

My internet connection has never dropped however when you are on a known free internet connection (i.e. Panara Bread) for hours, they do disconnect you at periodic times to free up bandwidth. However, I will point out that you have not even been logged in in weeks or months or even years depending on the multitude of Skype addresses you have listed. May I suggest that instead of being offended and repulsed by the idea that you TRY?


Again, you seem to be the only person with issue with our telephone line.  Perhaps, the issue is on your end? [Daughter] has not mentioned any issues with the calls except for your traveling and she can't hear you due to outside noises. For the last few weekends, you have been able to speak with [Daughter] between 30 minutes and an hour almost every night.  

And lastly, we did miss your call last night as [Daughter] ate dinner and went straight to bed.  This morning, as I texted you, we had a few minutes and you didn't call back.

My letter was to inform you but since you are taking it as confrontation or accusation, I will leave it as that.  Shall I end these monthly updates?


[Custodial Dad]
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[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>  Mon, Jan 10, 2011 at 7:46 PM  
To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, 
[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] <[email]@XX.edu>, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> 
Bcc: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <[email]@[email].com>  

[Daughter] is doing remarkable, she is happy, healthy and enjoying time with her family.

Her school work is fantastic, as you know as Principal [Teacher] speaks with you weekly.

She is doing well with her palate extender and has been relatively healthy, but again you already know through your frequent calls to her providers.

Cheerleading is going well, she has opted to finish out the season and choose something else in the fall.

 FYI, you seem to have been confused - [Daughter] does cheerleading  [days].  She has sessions with her therapist on Tuesday but not every week.  I know I emailed this to you and I know my wife had to explain this to you this evening but here it is again.

[Daughter] sent you pictures of her first snow day, some cheerleading photos and some every day stuff that she took pictures of.  She received a camera for Christmas and she will be taking her own pictures to share with you.

She sent you a package of pictures, a broken necklace and some school work that was delivered on Friday but she says you haven't picked it up as yet.  Please let me know if there is an issue using that address as I still have no idea where you may or may not be residing.

I know that [Daughter] keeps you well informed and that you are utilizing the contact information of all of her medical providers and teachers as provided to you.


Lastly, as always, if you can Skype, we are able to do so on Sundays.


Take Care;
[Custodial Dad]


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Text Messages (1/2011)

 
Me to [The Ex] 1/31/11 7:54 PM 24 hours ago  
Me: Supper is all done, perfect time to call 7:54 PM
  
[The Ex] 1/27/11 8:11 PM 5 days ago  Inbox
[The Ex]: Pls call w [Daughter]. 7:38 PM
[The Ex]: No call. No answer. Second day. Please call w my girl. 8:11 PM
    
[The Ex]  1/26/11 8:50 PM 5 days ago  Inbox
[The Ex]: Pls call w [Daughter]. 8:50 PM
Me: It's almost 9 pm. She is in bed. 10:16 PM

Me to [The Ex] 1/25/11 7:46 PM 7 days ago  
Me: Supper is all done, perfect time to call 7:46 PM

 
Me to [The Ex] 1/24/11 7:51 PM 8 days ago  
Me: Supper is all done, perfect time to call 7:51 PM

  
Me to [The Ex] 1/15/11 8:00 PM 2 weeks ago  Inbox
Me: Feel free to call our house line 7:12 PM
[The Ex]: Pls call back. Call dropped as I was loading [Daughter]s requested song. Waiting to say goodnight to my Girl. 8:00 PM
Me: Phone died - feel free to call back to say " good night." 8:03 PM
 

 Me to [The Ex] 1/14/11 7:27 PM 2 weeks ago  
 Me: I'm sure [Daughter] told you, tonight is her Winter Dance. If it's not too late tonight she will call, or call tomorrow after 8am 7:27 PM
Me: I'm sure [Daughter] told you, tonight is her Winter Dance. If it's not too late tonight she will call, or call tomorrow after 8am 7:40 PM
Me: I'm sure [Daughter] told you, tonight is her Winter  Dance. If it's not too late tonight she will call, or call tomorrow after 8am 7:49 PM

 Me to [The Ex] 1/11/11 8:21 AM 3 weeks ago  
 Me: Please call back 8:21 AM
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