[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Tue, Aug 24, 2010 at 6:59 PM
To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
[Custodial Dad],
DENIAL of PARENTAL communication:
Are you denying me communication with you about my daughter?
REFUSAL TO ANSWER simple question about name of teacher of child:
My daughter starts school in [home town] nect week.
You FAILED to answer the question.
Who is my daughter’s teacher?
VAGUE instructions for [daughter]’s galsses USE and Disuse Schedule:
You have very specific instructions for her glasses.
What will be on record at the school so the teacher and the nurse know wht to do with her glasses?
REQUEST FOR MEDICAL/ OPTICAL information:
What did you tell the eye doctor about [daughter]’s needs for her eyes?
As previous text record documents:
Why did you deny me information about OPEN HOUSE.
WHY?
WHy didn’t you tell me when you guys were going to be there so I could have seen [daughter] and been there for her?
(All of these inquiries are being asked of [Custodial Dad] [last name] as part of parental communication. Previous requests denied.)
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tue, August 24, 2010 6:12:53 PM
Subject: Re: Teacher and Instructions for [daughter]’s glasses
Not having this line of communication with you because our definitions of a “responsible parent” are clearly debatable. [daughter] is well cared for and taken care of. If you have a legitimate concern, please see to it through appropriate avenues and with appropriate communication minus animosity and hostility. Until you can do so, I will politely bow out and not respond further to your angry diatribes.
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On Aug 24, 2010, at 5:16 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
Parenting?
Rally, is that your diversion?
A responisble parent would make sure that the school nurse and teacher have written copiedsof your instruction for her glasses.
That is responsible parenting, [Custodial Dad].
You will probably JUST say YOUT TOLD THEM!
I’m wonder if you will be responsible to [daughter] to make sure these instructions are communcated on paper.
Guess I’ll just wait and see.
Would you know her teacher’s name? [daughter] said [spelled incorrectly Step Mother] told her that the school may have mailed that information out last week. Did you get the mailing? Who is the teacher so I can get in touch too.
Also, I hear [daughter]’s cough.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tue, August 24, 2010 3:20:07 PM
Subject: Re: [daughter]’s glasses
Do you really believe that her glasses will be better by a more expensive frame and she was able to choose a frame of her liking with in reason? Why is that relevant?
[daughter] is well provided for and your allegations that she is not is getting tiresome. Giving a child everything that they want does not make a better parent and by your present financial and living situation, it is clear that the lesson is foreign to you.
She has frames that are suited to a YOUTH and fitted to her face appropriately, she has glasses that are prescribed to her exact vision requirements. Also please not, she is ONLY to wear after reading doe a long time (long defined as three hours or more.) She is NOT to wear her glasses every time she reads and only to put them on when her eyes are tired.)
Please speak with the optometrist who stated that she probably needs a stronger prescription because she was wearing her reading glasses ALL the time instead of only in low light circumstances and after eye fatigue as was prescribed by Lens Crafters. It was also stated that because of the absolute symmetry of the prescription, it is probably muscular and with exercise, she probably will not need glasses in a year.
What is it that you say, “Hostility noted.”
Sent from my iPhone
On Aug 24, 2010, at 2:44 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
1. Was [daughter] seen by Lense Crafters for her glasses?
2. Did she NOT need glasses, s you have NOT let her have her prescribed glasses she came with?
3. Did you need a stronger prescription now that you did not give her her glasses for FIVE months?
3. Did you order frames that were comparable, or did you buy her a cheaper frame?
What was the cost of her frames- not prescription glasses in full- THE FRAMES ALONE?
4. Did you offer her the same frames she so loved- BULOVA KABUL -comfirmed by Costco - available EVERYWHERE- for $49.99. Available in 2-3 days to ANY provider fo glases you choose. Did you?
5. Is your replacement timely of glasses taken since MARCH 2010?
6. Is your replacement equalivalent to those furnished to child in JANUARY 2010.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com> Tue, Aug 24, 2010 at 8:04 PM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
You are being hostile and combative. You are really attempting to make a case but are failing miserably and instead, you are creating a hostile environment with me as well as with [daughter]’s medical providers.
We did not get official notice of the name nor homeroom of [daughter]’s teacher. If you did, please fill me in. We received the Emergency card, pick up instructions and other paper work only. There was an assumption on her name however, it was not officiaX You also may telephone the school to get any information that you may feel like I may have omitted. There is usually an introductory letter but it was not received as yet.
My instructions were not vague and practically reiterated what [daughter] stated verbatim this evening - and yes, she should understand the rules BETTER than anyone else as it is her vision in the balance here. As copied from below, “Also please not [sic], she is ONLY to wear after reading doe [sic] a long time (long defined as three hours or more.) She is NOT to wear her glasses every time she reads and only to put them on when her eyes are tired.)”
I am under no obligation to attend ANY function with you. If you want to attend the open house, you need neither my permission nor attendance to do so.
[daughter] is fine socially and yes, at 8 years old I feel it is her responsibility to get the correct phone numbers of her friends. I trust that if she wants to arrange a play date, she will be able to secure the phone number of her friends, which she did towards the end of the year. If [daughter] is able to comprehend the rules of play dates in our household, I can not imagine why you are still having such difficulties. We have a wide circle of friends and our social calendar isn’t lacking... if you spent more time speaking to [daughter] about her activities and less time about her food, you would understand that we keep her quite busy on most days. We do spend a considerable amount of time together as a family, as that is what families do, but she also gets to be social with children. Again, I am under no obligation to keep explaining this to you.
I have gone BEYOND what the order dictates including sending certified letters updating you on [daughter] and her various status concerning medical, dental, social well being. If you can not communicate in a mature and non-hostile fashion, I will cease to communicate with you entirely. You are merely proving the point Judge [Other State Judge] made in his order. You are entitled to the records and I have instructed all providers to communicate with you directly, but I am under no obligation legally to continue communicate with you which ultimately results in [daughter] being berated and interrogated by you thereby causing a detriment to [daughter].
[Step Mother] was sitting next to [daughter] and heard no less than 3 times explain how and why of her eye exams and her give you accurate details about her use of the glasses, which was explained to you in a previous letter and above. Further, is documenting [daughter]’s diet down to the ingredients of the spaghetti sauce really necessary? [daughter] mentioned your questioning on her food consumption and [Step Mother] was witness to the inquiry this evening. Spending 10 or so minutes inquiring on her diet of every meal is not conversation, its interrogation.
Attached you will see, spelled out, my legal obligation to keeping you informed. Again, until you correct your animosity and hostility, I am done communicating with you in this fashion.
[Custodial Dad] [last name] and [Step Mother] [last name] - [last name]
[sibling] • [daughter] • [sibling] • [sibling] • [sibling] • [sibling]
[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
([XXX]) [XXX] - 6052
On Aug 24, 2010, at 6:59 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad],
DENIAL of PARENTAL communication:
Are you denying me communication with you about my daughter?
REFUSAL TO ANSWER simple question about name of teacher of child:
My daughter starts school in [home town] nect week.
You FAILED to answer the question.
Who is my daughter’s teacher?
VAGUE instructions for [daughter]’s galsses USE and Disuse Schedule:
You have very specific instructions for her glasses.
What will be on record at the school so the teacher and the nurse know wht to do with her glasses?
REQUEST FOR MEDICAL/ OPTICAL information:
What did you tell the eye doctor about [daughter]’s needs for her eyes?
As previous text record documents:
Why did you deny me information about OPEN HOUSE.
WHY?
WHy didn’t you tell me when you guys were going to be there so I could have seen [daughter] and been there for her?
(All of these inquiries are being asked of [Custodial Dad] [last name] as part of parental communication. Previous requests denied.)
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tue, August 24, 2010 6:12:53 PM
Subject: Re: Teacher and Instructions for [daughter]’s glasses
Not having this line of communication with you because our definitions of a “responsible parent” are clearly debatable. [daughter] is well cared for and taken care of. If you have a legitimate concern, please see to it through appropriate avenues and with appropriate communication minus animosity and hostility. Until you can do so, I will politely bow out and not respond further to your angry diatribes.
Sent from my iPhone
On Aug 24, 2010, at 5:16 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
Parenting?
Rally, is that your diversion?
A responisble parent would make sure that the school nurse and teacher have written copiedsof your instruction for her glasses.
That is responsible parenting, [Custodial Dad].
You will probably JUST say YOUT TOLD THEM!
I’m wonder if you will be responsible to [daughter] to make sure these instructions are communcated on paper.
Guess I’ll just wait and see.
Would you know her teacher’s name? [daughter] said [spelled incorrectly Step Mother] told her that the school may have mailed that information out last week. Did you get the mailing? Who is the teacher so I can get in touch too.
Also, I hear [daughter]’s cough.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tue, August 24, 2010 3:20:07 PM
Subject: Re: [daughter]’s glasses
Do you really believe that her glasses will be better by a more expensive frame and she was able to choose a frame of her liking with in reason? Why is that relevant?
[daughter] is well provided for and your allegations that she is not is getting tiresome. Giving a child everything that they want does not make a better parent and by your present financial and living situation, it is clear that the lesson is foreign to you.
She has frames that are suited to a YOUTH and fitted to her face appropriately, she has glasses that are prescribed to her exact vision requirements. Also please not, she is ONLY to wear after reading doe a long time (long defined as three hours or more.) She is NOT to wear her glasses every time she reads and only to put them on when her eyes are tired.)
Please speak with the optometrist who stated that she probably needs a stronger prescription because she was wearing her reading glasses ALL the time instead of only in low light circumstances and after eye fatigue as was prescribed by Lens Crafters. It was also stated that because of the absolute symmetry of the prescription, it is probably muscular and with exercise, she probably will not need glasses in a year.
What is it that you say, “Hostility noted.”
Sent from my iPhone
On Aug 24, 2010, at 2:44 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
1. Was [daughter] seen by Lense Crafters for her glasses?
2. Did she NOT need glasses, s you have NOT let her have her prescribed glasses she came with?
3. Did you need a stronger prescription now that you did not give her her glasses for FIVE months?
3. Did you order frames that were comparable, or did you buy her a cheaper frame?
What was the cost of her frames- not prescription glasses in full- THE FRAMES ALONE?
4. Did you offer her the same frames she so loved- BULOVA KABUL -comfirmed by Costco - available EVERYWHERE- for $49.99. Available in 2-3 days to ANY provider fo glases you choose. Did you?
5. Is your replacement timely of glasses taken since MARCH 2010?
6. Is your replacement equalivalent to those furnished to child in JANUARY 2010.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
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