[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Tue, Sep 7, 2010 at 12:40 AM
To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
No offer of time, noted.
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, September 6, 2010 10:52:49 PM
Subject: Re: Shared time simplified Re: Questions to understand. Re: Resending Fw: Mom’s sixth attempt to get [daughter] for time this weekend. No response from father. .Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
Correct, this is simple.
Promising [daughter] that you are going to see her is not the same as arranging for time for others masked as a visit for yourself.
You can not tell a child and everyone else for that matter that you intend to visit with her and have no intention of showing up.
Correct, your arrival is none of my business and I could care less what your reasonings may be - however my daughter’s business in my business.
Clearly the point is being lost, maybe your attorney or even Dr. [home town therapist] can better spell that out for you.
On Sep 6, 2010, at 10:22 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
This is simple:
My Mom is responsible for [daughter]’s pick up and drop off.
My arrival and departure is our business, not yours, for good reason.
When I arrange time for us, please make it work and set the final pick up and drop off.
That’s all.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Sun, September 5, 2010 6:25:09 PM
Subject: Re: Questions to understand. Re: Resending Fw: Mom’s sixth attempt to get [daughter] for time this weekend. No response from father. .Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
Being deceitful and dishonest is NOT the way to arrange visitation.
A direct quote from your email message:
I want her to share time with me from probably September 2nd, 2010 through September 12,
2010. I would pick up from school on the first day of shared time.
I would bring her back to you on the eve of 9/12.
You clearly are not in [home state] or [THIRD STATE
What was stated (and even documented in email to your father) is that they may NOT schedule visitation with [daughter] directly and you all seem to be missing that vital point.
By your actions and statements, it is clear to any rational adult why I am leery to schedule additional contact.
On Sep 5, 2010, at 6:11 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
You tell my parents to schedule through me, Mom.
You tell me to have my parents to schedule directly with you.
Circles for months.
Same result. Denial of contact.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Sun, September 5, 2010 10:47:54 AM
Subject: Re: Questions to understand. Re: Resending Fw: Mom’s sixth attempt to get [daughter] for time this weekend. No response from father. .Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
Suffice to say I have made more of an effort in five months with [daughter] than you have made in five years towards me or anyone in my family including [daughter]’s Grandmother.
The court order is in place for very specific reasons. Your attorney has a motion for clarification pending, which I believe, will answer all of your questions.
If any one would like to schedule any visits with [daughter], please have them do so with me directly. I have received no inquires nor telephone calls from your family in the past few months. Last call from your mother and your sister were both in April and your father has not called since March.
I am unsure what it is you are attempting to do here, but please let them at least attempt to schedule calls or visits before you claim I am not allowing them.
On Sep 5, 2010, at 9:52 AM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
What is “Mom’s time share?”
What is your responsibility to set up time share for [daughter]?
What is your intention for fostering contact opportunities for [daughter]?
What is your goal in meeting the need for [daughter] to have time with Mom and Mom’s family?
Why do you repeatedly make statements and decisions that result in NO contact UNLESS specifically court ordered- as minimum time?
Please help me to understand.
I want to work with you to increase [daughter]’s time with us.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Sun, September 5, 2010 7:40:25 AM
Subject: Re: Resending Fw: Mom’s sixth attempt to get [daughter] for time this weekend. No response from father. .Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
First, [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] and [Ex’s fourth other state lawyer] were involved. I expected them to hash out the details prior to this weekend. Like I have stated previously, if you involve my attorney, I will defer to him.
Second, I sent you the schedule for Sunday that was neither accepted nor confirmed by you through acceptable means and all plans must be done in writing.
Lastly, but most importantly, we all know that you are neither in [home state] or [THIRD STATE
[daughter] said you were in [other state], despite the cat and mouse games you were playing with an 8 year old, even she caught on to the fact you were not really here. Why get her excited to see you when you have no intention of being present?
This underhanded nonsense needs to end. You can not set up visitation for YOURSELF and not show up. You can not set up visitation for OTHERS masked as your visitation.
Did you intend for [daughter] to lie (again) and say that you were present?
[Custodial Dad]
On Sep 4, 2010, at 10:18 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
Rsnd
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com; [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Sent: Sat, September 4, 2010 10:17:20 PM
Subject: Mom’s sixth attempt to get [daughter] for time this weekend. No response from father. .Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
[Custodial Dad]:
I asked you to set time share for [daughter] for weeks now.
I asked you for the time to start this morning.
That opportunity has passed. You did not respond to voicemail nor email.
I called three to four times this morning and once this evening with voicemail left to set this time for [daughter]’s time with us.
No call No text. No email from you.
Why?
Now, we are working with your limited 5 hour offer- though you could have agreed for [daughter] to have more time with us.
We would like to get [daughter] tomorrow, Sunday at noon and return her at 5pm.
Since you offered only 5 hours in the last email, we are trying to work with you.
Due to travel and work schedules, we can be there at noon, not eleven AM.
Pick up and drop off at police station as last time.
My Mom will be there if you can respond.
I will check email in the morning. Let’s leave it to email communication to confirm.
We would like to see you cooperate to share [daughter]’s time with her family.
Thank you.
[The Ex]
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com
Cc: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Sent: Fri, September 3, 2010 5:46:40 PM
Subject: Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
second attempt to arrange specific visit
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, September 3, 2010 10:39:08 AM
Subject: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
DCF only opens investigations for specific reasons. They are all reasons that cause concern. Self explainatory. Just answer please. Waste time to evade the question.
Also, I hae waited for over a week for a confirmation of my time with [daughter]. I see you have offered 5 hours on Sunday. It is rather impractical given my arrival and limited time in [THIRD STATE]/[home state]. How about we get [daughter] on Saturday morning and keep her through school drop off Tuesday?
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Thu, September 2, 2010 11:22:58 PM
Subject: Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
explain your “concern” for [daughter] ... or stop this repetitive nonsense
On Thu, Sep 2, 2010 at 11:10 PM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
Dishonesty noted.
Hostility noted.
Still not addressing DCF issues? My attorney does NOT know either..
Please share. Very concerned for my child.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Thu, September 2, 2010 9:15:48 AM
Subject: Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
Replies within....
On Sep 2, 2010, at 7:51 AM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad] & [spelled incorrectly Step Mother]:
1. There is no response on inquiries on [daughter]’s slow healing scab on her ankle.
The care given was the delay for healing. After removing the band aid, a scab formed and it healed by the 3rd day. I am surprised that nurse would give a child specific instructions that would cause a delay in healing.
2. There is no response on status of her cough.
I believe [daughter] told you several times she was feeling better. She had a COLD, pediatrician was called and we followed their instructions as you know.
3. There is no response on my tiem share with [daughter].
I responded through [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]. I am proposing 11AM until 4PM on Sunday, Sept 5th.
4. There is no response on your fare for [daughter]’s summer trip.
ANSWERED PREVIOUSLY: I am awaiting a RECEIPT... re-send it.
5. There is no respons on the number of uniforms she has so i may supplement.
ANSWERED PREVIOUSLY: Buy whatever it is you wish to buy but I am not itemizing her uniforms. She has a full YEARS worth of clothing including uniform and play clothes, suffice to say.
6. There is no response on why you will not cash the checks sent for child support.
What checks?
7. There is no response on time share for [daughter] for my mom and sister.
ANSWERED PREVIOUSLY: Neither have contacted me. Please direct them to telephone me at ([XXX])[XXX]-6052
8. There is no response to me about the altered call schedule - without [home town therapist]’s input.
Dr. [home town therapist] was very clear, if you need him to put it in writing I am sure he is willing to do so. Additionally, he contacted you inquiring about an upcoming session with [daughter]. Please respond.
9. There is no response to why you limit the call time with [daughter].
ANSWERED PREVIOUSLY: There are four hours in the afternoon which encompasses homework, family time, baths, dinner, chores, snacks, playtime, tv time, activities, etc. We have a lot to cram in four hours. Asking [daughter] to have an hour time to speak with you everyday is excessive, especially when after 10 minutes [daughter] is distracted and wanting to move on with her evening.
10. There is no response to why you are being investigated by DCF.
ANSWERED PREVIOUSLY: Lets not play dumb, YOUR allegations were found to be baseless and retalitorial. This was also addressed through [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] and [Ex’s fourth other state lawyer].
:Let’s start here. Please stop filling my text and email with distractors. Answer, please.
I have responded to all of your concerns multiple times and not getting the answer you want is not a distractor, it is reality.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
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