[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Tue, Sep 7, 2010 at 12:39 AM
To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
No offer of time for the remainder of the week, noted.
Failure to inform me of DCF investigation causes, noted.
False accusations of me, noted.
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, September 6, 2010 10:56:57 PM
Subject: Re: Time share request for remaining period... again Re: Moms location? Re: sd elbortn Re: Father finally replies: refuses Mom’s time share in [home state] Sept 2010 Re: Mom’s sixth attempt to get [daughter] for time this weekend. No response from father. .Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
I did respond, you failed to reply.
You also made a commitment to [daughter] with no intention of being present.
[daughter] was highly disappointed by the games you chose and continue to play with her.
The codes, the cat and mouse games, the children and youth, the accusations are all affecting [daughter]. Its a shame that you can’t see beyond yourself to see the further damage you are causing.
On Sep 6, 2010, at 10:13 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
As it is, you have not responded with any time commitment through September 14.
Please address the multitude of emails to you on specific time requests.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Sun, September 5, 2010 9:32:41 PM
Subject: Re: Moms location? Re: sd elbortn Re: Father finally replies: refuses Mom’s time share in [home state] Sept 2010 Re: Mom’s sixth attempt to get [daughter] for time this weekend. No response from father. .Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
Per YOUR statement /email to me (and your attorney’s statement to [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]) you were in the area beginning this past Friday.
You made it my business when you specifically told [daughter] that you were planning on being here when YOU WERE NOT HERE. Again, proof to the contrary is welcome but I can almost guarantee you were not here last week at all.
Correct, no one owns the child. She is a human being with a right to both parents and we are bound by the court order at the very least.
Glad to see you are finally on board with those statements but it is a shame the only real reason is because you are on the opposite side of the coin. Clearly your sentiment would not be the same if it were me looking for contact.
Again, if you intend to be in [home state], at [daughter]’s school, with Dr. [home town therapist], as you promised [daughter], please let me know so we can arrange something. Additionally, Dr. [home town therapist] also alloted time for you, please confirm or cancel as need be.
Good night.
On Sep 5, 2010, at 9:09 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
What makes you so sure I was not in [home state] last week?
Let me try to clarify this time share spiral you email into:
Pay attention to your business: deliver my daughter to my family as we arrange with you to fulfill [daughter]’s need for time with us all- NO matter WHERE I AM.
We travel to get [daughter]. We pay all costs. We ask for nothing but the child from you.
Please try and make the effort for [daughter]’s sake.
It’s not about doing me a favor.
Time share is to fulfill the emotional and bonding needs of the child.
You don’t own [daughter].
She is a person.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Sun, September 5, 2010 6:26:56 PM
Subject: Re: sd elbortn Re: Father finally replies: refuses Mom’s time share in [home state] Sept 2010 Re: Mom’s sixth attempt to get [daughter] for time this weekend. No response from father. .Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
That was a lot to say you were dishonest, deceitful and underhanded. Not only were you dishonest with me but you were blowing smoke to [daughter] for the last week.
She will see you at 7PM.
X
On Sep 5, 2010, at 6:09 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
That was alot to say: “request denied.”
So sad.
So sad for my daughter.
If a grandparent or a parent, it is our time share.
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Sun, September 5, 2010 10:33:43 AM
Subject: Re: Father finally replies: refuses Mom’s time share in [home state] Sept 2010 Re: Mom’s sixth attempt to get [daughter] for time this weekend. No response from father. .Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
I know that there was no response from [Ex’s fourth other state lawyer] in regards to visitation hence my proposal to you three days ago to ensure [daughter] had the opportunity to see you. And again, my statement of the Sunday exchange was out there, YOU needed to confirm, in writing, that it was indeed accepted. Calling is not confirmation in writing.
I am not speculating nor am I solely relying on [daughter]’s statements... you are NOT in the North[direction] at all, never mind [THIRD STATE
If you are going to be in town later this week or next weekend, as you promised to [daughter], we (as in YOU and I) will discuss this further.
I made an exception to the court order to schedule additional visitation with YOU. If your mother or any one else would like to schedule to see [daughter], you need to do so in a straight forward fashion. This underhanded, deceptiveness will not be tolerated further. Additionally, you should not have addressed this issue with [daughter] directly, but I digress.
The point is: you scheduled a visit for [daughter] to see YOU however you are not here. [daughter] knows you are not here. I know you are not here. You know you are not here. The games you are playing with [daughter] is more damaging to [daughter] than anything you could ever imagine. There is more emotional pain to [daughter] knowing that you had no intention of being present.
And lastly, I will NOT facilitate any further exchanges at the police station. That is unnecessary and harmful for [daughter] to witness. If your mother needs a witness, have her bring whomever it is that she needs to.
On Sep 5, 2010, at 9:47 AM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
I understand that you are refusing to accept time share for [daughter] today.
[Ex’s fourth other state lawyer] got nothing from [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] on Friday.
Anyway, you had all ability to set up with me via email or phone. I called your phones.
It is not of consequence if I am in [home state] or will be arriving in [THIRD STATE
The time share for [daughter] is for me, which includes time with her grandparents- that is part of my time share.
You speculate on my location.
You obviously asked [daughter] to make your guess.
I told you I was going to be in town last week.
It is unfortunate and damaging to the child that you decide to deny contact.
The point is;
You refuse contact for [daughter],
no matter the arrangements and efforts made to secure that time for her with me and my family.
No matter the emotional pain it causes [daughter] to be apart from all of us.
We will not be at the police station waiting for [daughter] as I understand your refusal.
This is very sad for my daughter.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Sun, September 5, 2010 7:38:37 AM
Subject: Re: Mom’s sixth attempt to get [daughter] for time this weekend. No response from father. .Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
First, [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] and [Ex’s fourth other state lawyer] were involved. I expected them to hash out the details prior to this weekend. Like I have stated previously, if you involve my attorney, I will defer to him.
Second, I sent you the schedule for Sunday that was neither accepted nor confirmed by you through acceptable means and all plans must be done in writing.
Lastly, but most importantly, we all know that you are neither in [home state] or [THIRD STATE
[daughter] said you were in [other state], despite the cat and mouse games you were playing with an 8 year old, even she caught on to the fact you were not really here. Why get her excited to see you when you have no intention of being present?
This underhanded nonsense needs to end. You can not set up visitation for YOURSELF and not show up. You can not set up visitation for OTHERS masked as your visitation.
Did you intend for [daughter] to lie (again) and say that you were present?
[Custodial Dad]
On Sep 4, 2010, at 10:17 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
I asked you to set time share for [daughter] for weeks now.
I asked you for the time to start this morning.
That opportunity has passed. You did not respond to voicemail nor email.
I called three to four times this morning and once this evening with voicemail left to set this time for [daughter]’s time with us.
No call No text. No email from you.
Why?
Now, we are working with your limited 5 hour offer- though you could have agreed for [daughter] to have more time with us.
We would like to get [daughter] tomorrow, Sunday at noon and return her at 5pm.
Since you offered only 5 hours in the last email, we are trying to work with you.
Due to travel and work schedules, we can be there at noon, not eleven AM.
Pick up and drop off at police station as last time.
My Mom will be there if you can respond.
I will check email in the morning. Let’s leave it to email communication to confirm.
We would like to see you cooperate to share [daughter]’s time with her family.
Thank you.
[The Ex]
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com
Cc: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Sent: Fri, September 3, 2010 5:46:40 PM
Subject: Fw: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
second attempt to arrange specific visit
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, September 3, 2010 10:39:08 AM
Subject: Visit schedule Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
DCF only opens investigations for specific reasons. They are all reasons that cause concern. Self explainatory. Just answer please. Waste time to evade the question.
Also, I hae waited for over a week for a confirmation of my time with [daughter]. I see you have offered 5 hours on Sunday. It is rather impractical given my arrival and limited time in [THIRD STATE
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Thu, September 2, 2010 11:22:58 PM
Subject: Re: Mom’s repeated DCF inquiry unanswered. Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
explain your “concern” for [daughter] ... or stop this repetitive nonsense
On Thu, Sep 2, 2010 at 11:10 PM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
Dishonesty noted.
Hostility noted.
Still not addressing DCF issues? My attorney does NOT know either..
Please share. Very concerned for my child.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Thu, September 2, 2010 9:15:48 AM
Subject: Re: [daughter]’s care 10 points
Replies within....
On Sep 2, 2010, at 7:51 AM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad] & [spelled incorrectly Step Mother]:
1. There is no response on inquiries on [daughter]’s slow healing scab on her ankle.
The care given was the delay for healing. After removing the band aid, a scab formed and it healed by the 3rd day. I am surprised that nurse would give a child specific instructions that would cause a delay in healing.
2. There is no response on status of her cough.
I believe [daughter] told you several times she was feeling better. She had a COLD, pediatrician was called and we followed their instructions as you know.
3. There is no response on my tiem share with [daughter].
I responded through [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]. I am proposing 11AM until 4PM on Sunday, Sept 5th.
4. There is no response on your fare for [daughter]’s summer trip.
ANSWERED PREVIOUSLY: I am awaiting a RECEIPT... re-send it.
5. There is no respons on the number of uniforms she has so i may supplement.
ANSWERED PREVIOUSLY: Buy whatever it is you wish to buy but I am not itemizing her uniforms. She has a full YEARS worth of clothing including uniform and play clothes, suffice to say.
6. There is no response on why you will not cash the checks sent for child support.
What checks?
7. There is no response on time share for [daughter] for my mom and sister.
ANSWERED PREVIOUSLY: Neither have contacted me. Please direct them to telephone me at ([XXX])[XXX]-6052
8. There is no response to me about the altered call schedule - without [home town therapist]’s input.
Dr. [home town therapist] was very clear, if you need him to put it in writing I am sure he is willing to do so. Additionally, he contacted you inquiring about an upcoming session with [daughter]. Please respond.
9. There is no response to why you limit the call time with [daughter].
ANSWERED PREVIOUSLY: There are four hours in the afternoon which encompasses homework, family time, baths, dinner, chores, snacks, playtime, tv time, activities, etc. We have a lot to cram in four hours. Asking [daughter] to have an hour time to speak with you everyday is excessive, especially when after 10 minutes [daughter] is distracted and wanting to move on with her evening.
10. There is no response to why you are being investigated by DCF.
ANSWERED PREVIOUSLY: Lets not play dumb, YOUR allegations were found to be baseless and retalitorial. This was also addressed through [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] and [Ex’s fourth other state lawyer].
:Let’s start here. Please stop filling my text and email with distractors. Answer, please.
I have responded to all of your concerns multiple times and not getting the answer you want is not a distractor, it is reality.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
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