[daughter]

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Sat, Mar 13, 2010 at 11:16 PM

To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[The Ex’s school].edu>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

[The Ex];

It has come to my attention that you are inquiring about my children’s schedule.  You asked [daughter] specifically where my children are in school, who is driving to pick them up and drop them off, their schedule, when my step son is with his father and other things that are of no concern to you.

This behavior needs to stop, if you inquire about MY children’s lives again, I will bring this matter before the [home town] Police as I feel it is a threat.  Luckily, [daughter] is blissfully unaware of their true schedule but I will not be made to feel unsafe nor will I alter our schedule to protect my family from you.  This is a cease and desist and you are on notice.  [daughter] is free to discuss [daughter] things: her school, her activities, her schedule.  My family is off limits effective immediately.  There is no reason to ask things that do not affect you.

Your family, specifically your mother, your sister, and your father are asking [daughter] to set up visitation with them.  That is simply not going to occur at this juncture especially in the manner which they are demanding.  They, as well as you, are not to set up A[other  state]THING with [daughter].  I have asked that you solely make requests in writing, as the order dictates.  Please respect this.  I have told [daughter] that we, as adults will discuss in writing, what schedule she has or doesn’t have and she shouldn’t concern herself with these things.

In addition, I extended myself to your family only to have my telephone ring incessantly with their attempts at trying to reach [daughter].  Your mother telephoned six times and your father three times over the course of 15 minutes.  You yourself call my home repeatedly, despite the order stating that you may call ONCE per day.  I am in awe of the audacity of you and your family members but it is obvious, you have no respect for court orders.  I have forwarded your families calls directly to voice mail since they have disregarded my request of leaving one message instead of calling repeatedly.  [daughter] will accept your call as long as we are not in the middle of something however, she will not be allowed to stay on the telephone all day as you requested she do today.

[daughter] is eating a balanced diet, she has clothing and shoes suitable to the weather, school supplies, plenty of underwear and toiletries including lotion, hair accessories, chapstick, scarves that were purchased by her for her. [daughter] has all that she requires for school and home.  My requests for her things were to make her comfortable not that I was begrudging buying her items.  We took her shopping already, anything you send will be of sentimental value as she really is not in need of anything.  She left her sleeping bag here last summer, everything else including her jewelry was purchased by myself or [Step Mother] over the years.

Lastly, please stop interrogating [daughter].  [daughter] is only 8 years old and doesn’t need to be grilled by you on a daily basis on what she is doing and what my schedule does or does not consist of. This behavior is akin to stalking and is very unhealthy. If you have a specific question, please direct it to me, in writing and stop asking [daughter].

[Custodial Dad]

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Mon, Mar 15, 2010 at 3:33 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Cc: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[The Ex’s school].edu>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

[The Ex];

[daughter] had a good visit with the doctor and the dentist today.  I’ve asked repeatedly for subsequent updates from you for other providers and you have yet to respond... we relied solely on the records I requested from [dentist] and Dr. [doctor].  I hope that no vaccines and/or tests were duplicated.

I am in awe with how much dental work [daughter] has needed in the past but we will ensure to put her on a good path.  She’ll get yearly physicals at the doctor and her teeth cleaned every six months, as recommended.  Her therapist, Dr. [home town therapist] has us meeting with him every week and there is nothing to really update as the last two appointments have been strictly intake.

She does have a talent show at school on Friday but I am unsure of the exact details.  I will fill you in on that when I get them, she is singing a Jonas Brothers song with some other kids in her school.  We will attempt to record it and if we are successful, I think I can email you a copy of her performance.  I’m not sure if its her first talent show but we are all excited to finally be apart of her school activities.

She had a great party yesterday which is why we were unable to call  She was having a blast with her friends and we all honestly forgot.  Will make sure she calls you this evening.  I realize for whatever reason you are simply refusing to respond to certain things but again, if you are able, I would love to schedule a [webcam software] session so that [daughter] can see you.

I am unsure of the information that you want, so if you find anything redundant or unnecessary, please just let me know.

x

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]

[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com

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[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]

[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Tue, Mar 16, 2010 at 8:26 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Cc: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[The Ex’s school].edu>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

[The Ex]:

After meeting with us and [daughter] alone on three occasions, [daughter]’s psychologist believes that we need to be very strict with the call schedule because all parties need a regulated time frame and a period of adjustment that is simply unable to occur as it stands...  The schedule he suggested, and I will be implementing, is an every other day call for 15 minutes with Sunday being an extended call or [webcam software] as I’ve requested.

The schedule will be Saturday, Monday, Wednesday and Friday with a [webcam software] on Sunday or an extended call dictated by [daughter].  This of course is in exclusion of when [daughter] requests to speak with you and she can decide when to do so but there will be a 15 minute limit on ALL calls excluding Sunday contact.  The timeframe will be about 7 pm as that is before bedtime rituals and after dinner, homework etc.

Thank you in advance.

[Custodial Dad]

On Mar 15, 2010, at 3:33 PM, [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] wrote:

[The Ex];

[daughter] had a good visit with the doctor and the dentist today.  I’ve asked repeatedly for subsequent updates from you for other providers and you have yet to respond... we relied solely on the records I requested from [dentist] and Dr. [doctor].  I hope that no vaccines and/or tests were duplicated.

I am in awe with how much dental work [daughter] has needed in the past but we will ensure to put her on a good path.  She’ll get yearly physicals at the doctor and her teeth cleaned every six months, as recommended.  Her therapist, Dr. [home town therapist] has us meeting with him every week and there is nothing to really update as the last two appointments have been strictly intake.

She does have a talent show at school on Friday but I am unsure of the exact details.  I will fill you in on that when I get them, she is singing a Jonas Brothers song with some other kids in her school.  We will attempt to record it and if we are successful, I think I can email you a copy of her performance.  I’m not sure if its her first talent show but we are all excited to finally be apart of her school activities.

She had a great party yesterday which is why we were unable to call  She was having a blast with her friends and we all honestly forgot.  Will make sure she calls you this evening.  I realize for whatever reason you are simply refusing to respond to certain things but again, if you are able, I would love to schedule a [webcam software] session so that [daughter] can see you.

I am unsure of the information that you want, so if you find anything redundant or unnecessary, please just let me know.

x

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]

[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com

On Mar 13, 2010, at 10:16 PM, [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] wrote:

[The Ex];

It has come to my attention that you are inquiring about my children’s schedule.  You asked [daughter] specifically where my children are in school, who is driving to pick them up and drop them off, their schedule, when my step son is with his father and other things that are of no concern to you.

This behavior needs to stop, if you inquire about MY children’s lives again, I will bring this matter before the [home town] Police as I feel it is a threat.  Luckily, [daughter] is blissfully unaware of their true schedule but I will not be made to feel unsafe nor will I alter our schedule to protect my family from you.  This is a cease and desist and you are on notice.  [daughter] is free to discuss [daughter] things: her school, her activities, her schedule.  My family is off limits effective immediately.  There is no reason to ask things that do not affect you.

Your family, specifically your mother, your sister, and your father are asking [daughter] to set up visitation with them.  That is simply not going to occur at this juncture especially in the manner which they are demanding.  They, as well as you, are not to set up A[other  state]THING with [daughter].  I have asked that you solely make requests in writing, as the order dictates.  Please respect this.  I have told [daughter] that we, as adults will discuss in writing, what schedule she has or doesn’t have and she shouldn’t concern herself with these things.

In addition, I extended myself to your family only to have my telephone ring incessantly with their attempts at trying to reach [daughter].  Your mother telephoned six times and your father three times over the course of 15 minutes.  You yourself call my home repeatedly, despite the order stating that you may call ONCE per day.  I am in awe of the audacity of you and your family members but it is obvious, you have no respect for court orders.  I have forwarded your families calls directly to voice mail since they have disregarded my request of leaving one message instead of calling repeatedly.  [daughter] will accept your call as long as we are not in the middle of something however, she will not be allowed to stay on the telephone all day as you requested she do today.

[daughter] is eating a balanced diet, she has clothing and shoes suitable to the weather, school supplies, plenty of underwear and toiletries including lotion, hair accessories, chapstick, scarves that were purchased by her for her. [daughter] has all that she requires for school and home.  My requests for her things were to make her comfortable not that I was begrudging buying her items.  We took her shopping already, anything you send will be of sentimental value as she really is not in need of anything.  She left her sleeping bag here last summer, everything else including her jewelry was purchased by myself or [Step Mother] over the years.

Lastly, please stop interrogating [daughter].  [daughter] is only 8 years old and doesn’t need to be grilled by you on a daily basis on what she is doing and what my schedule does or does not consist of. This behavior is akin to stalking and is very unhealthy. If you have a specific question, please direct it to me, in writing and stop asking [daughter].

[Custodial Dad]

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]

[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com

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[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Sun, Mar 21, 2010 at 10:31 AM

To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Cc: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[The Ex’s school].edu>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

[The Ex];

[daughter] sent you two letters to the [other state address] address that were returned.  She also sent you emails (to the ‘[the ex email] address that she knows) that were not responded to.  I have also requested for weeks now, that you find a way and a means to [webcam software] with [daughter] on Sunday and yet all of these requests and contacts are being ignored.  When [daughter] saw that her letters were returned, she cried.  I have no better address for you as all of my contacts with you and [daughter] were returned, but its important that you accept [daughter]’s letters and respond to them.

[Custodial Dad]

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