To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Are you in town Today- Tuesday, 10/21/08?
We can meet and talk if you wish to come to some agreement before mediation 10/22/08 AM.
Call me. Will not have e-mail access after 5 minutes from now.
Thanks for your efforts to try and work things out.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, October 14, 2008 10:08:46 AM
Subject: Re: Visit dates, Fees for [therapist in other state] & Check for [daughter](Thanks!
[The Ex]
I am wondering if there is anyway for us to best hash-out our mediation wants now before there is an hourly dollar figure hanging over our heads—the more time we spend in mediation the more it will cost out of pocket for us both—you are claiming to anyone that will listen you are broke and my family budget is suffering due to legal fees, here is an opportune time to come up with a mutually acceptable plan that will involve [daughter] with her entire family.
We might get a contact schedule agreed upon
We might get a schedule of visitation agreed upon on
And, any other issues wants needs satisfied all before we enter the mediation office—thus allowing us a huge legal - fee savins and givin me (potentially) more time during my trip to [other state] to visit with our daughter
X
On Wed, Oct 8, 2008 at 1:23 PM, [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> wrote:
I have never begrudged [daughter] A[other state] money, I was awaiting for your financial disclosure as I had no idea what I should be sending. Since that has to be worked out with the attorneys and the court system, please feel free to discuss future money with your attorney as there will be a hearing to decide what, if anything, I should be sending to [daughter]..
It is clear that you are determining when (if at all) I see or speak to [daughter]. As I said before, for the time being, whenever YOU allow her to visit I will make arrangements to be available.
I will be in [other state] for mediation obviously for the day. As I stated to you previously, I will not subject [daughter] to a visitation center again, as it was both unnecessary and insulting to both her and I. I would suggest we meet in a public place for the visitation exchange either the evening before or maybe in the morning prior to mediation or of course immediately following mediation… and I will have a few ideas of my own as to what [daughter] and I can do on our visit—I think she and I can figure out what to do.
I spoke with [other state therapist] on two separate occasions and compensated her for her time to speak with me directly. As I stated previously and as my attorney stated to your attorney, I will pay for one HALF of [daughter]’s session but you need to a) schedule her to speak with [other state therapist] and b) pay for the other half. As for payment, the money sent for child support should be utilized for such expenses. In addition, [insurance company] will reimburse 70% of any fees for [daughter] to meet with Ms. [therapist in other state]. Understand the mediation is quickly approaching and we can do this prior to mediation to save money or after when it is ordered. Either way, you will be responsible for half of the payment. It would serve you well to complete this prior to mediation as it will be unnecessary and foolish to delay the inevitable.I will also remind you that this is YOUR demand that we meet with [other state therapist] and I have not spoken with [daughter] since July 28th... Understand how cruel that is to [daughter] as I am sure you could care less about my feelings, so please think of how this is hurting our daughter.
I will also remind you that this is YOUR demand that we meet with [other state therapist] and I have not spoken with [daughter] since July 28th... Understand how cruel that is to [daughter] as I am sure you could care less about my feelings, so please think of how this is hurting our daughter.
You stated that you wanted to eliminate the cost of attorneys. If we can agree prior to mediation, that will mitigate the costs of attorneys and mediation greatly. To be very clear:
I think we should agree to utilize [other state therapist] as Custody Evaluator or whatever role she thinks she would best serve [daughter].
Please let me know your goals to mediation and hopefully you and I could finally come to some agreement to save us both time and money. I realize [Ex’s first other state lawyer] is a friend of yours, but I am sure it is just as costly to have her retained!
X
Have not gotten a message from you since 9/23/08. Today is 10/8/08. Guess all is very busy with family and work.
I did get a check for September of $1,000. Thank you, kindly [Custodial Dad].
Is this the amount to be expected monthly from this time forward?
I still await possible dates for [daughter] to visit you all up North, as requested in my past few e-mails (August- September).
thanksgiving and christmas are around the corner and I would like to get a chance to get the best plane fares for the trips.
Please, send dates on which you all may be available. We can begin to plan and confirm holiday plans.
I understand from [Ex’s first other state lawyer] that you may be in town late October;
Your choice.
She will enjoy any time.
I would appreciate a response of your preference of activity, funds available to allocate, and days, dates and times that work with your schedule while here in [other state].
[Custodial Dad], can you clarify whether you have paid Ms. [therapist in other state]? [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]’s communication states that you have.
Did you have an intake evaluation with her already?
Have you paid for [daughter] to be evaluated and for Ms. [therapist in other state] to work with [daughter]?
I can immediately begin to take [daughter] in for sessions here in [town in other state] as soon as I am aware of the option
to have [daughter] begin her journey to a better relationship with you and her [last name] family.
Kindly advise, ASAP.
Kind Regards to Mrs. [last name] and all your Darling N’s!
God Bless.
[The Ex] [last name]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, September 23, 2008 4:26:41 PM
Subject: Re: Fees for [therapist in other state] & Check for [daughter]
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Thanks for the reply.
[daughter] is well, as always and enjoying school and friends.
Her school schedule is the same as all students in [other state].
Please, supply possible dates for us to bring [daughter] to visit her [last name] family.
We are prepared to facilitate this proposed visit as soon as we can coordinate schedules with you all.
The question I called you about is:
Did you send any check for [daughter] for September as I did not receive it as yet.
Please, check on the status if you did have the bank issue it.
If not, please notify me of the situation.
Thanks for your time.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
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From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, September 23, 2008 11:01:14 AM
Subject: Re: Fees for [therapist in other state] & request for dates for [daughter]’s visit up Nort
[The Ex]
I just spoke with [insurance company] and out of network is a $500 deductible and then coverage is 70% and in network is $250 deductible and then coverage is 90%, if [daughter] has been seeing any Doctors etc to date her deductible may be met already and I am not certain if Ms [therapist in other state] is in our out of network.
I cannot send “possible dates” for a visit as you have not informed me which school she goes to so I do not know her vacation schedule. I can then choose an airline at that time.
Your phone call was not appreciated this morning, I am at work and unless the call is something very directly to do with [daughter] you have no reason to call me, at this time.
You had some question or questions you kept trying to ask over the phone, please feel free to respond here with it/them and I will answer to the best of my ability.
Thank you for taking the time to e-mail me, it may have been nicer to have some news of our daughter but at least from this I may assume you all weathered the hurricanes OK and [daughter] is at least healthy.
Thank you for your e-mail I await your response
X
On Tue, Sep 23, 2008 at 10:24 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Gald for your response.
Actually, your insurance does not cover Ms. [therapist in other state] at all.
The costs bear on me entirely.
Are you willing and able to cover the costs in full at this time
to get us started with Ms. [therapist in other state] ASAP?
Please send possible dates for [daughter] to visit and I will make the necessary accomodations, as we will be flying up with her.
Thank you for agreeing to pay [daughter]’s fare in fulX
We will e-mail with you to explore possible airlines for you to book her ticket with your funds. We will then book with the airline you can afford at this time.
Thanks for your time and attention.
God Bless.
[The Ex] [last name]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665
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From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, September 16, 2008 8:32:46 AM
Subject: Re: Fees for [therapist in other state] & request for dates for [daughter]’s visit up Nort
[The Ex];
As you are well aware Ms [therapist in other state]s fees are covered by [insurance company] at 70%. I am unsure if you have alternate insurance for [daughter] but that would possibly cover the balance of the fees. Again, since this is at your insistence the only way for me to gain contact with my daughter, I will agree to pay one half of the fees as my attorney suggested to yours. I will not negotiate on this further and neither will my attorney. I believe there is a motion already before Judge [Other State Judge] on this matter, but I agree if we could move forward it would bode well on us both.
As for her visit north, I am agreeable to pay for [daughter]’s travel fees 100%. I have stated that to you previously. I am curious how dire your financial situation is, all of a sudden, since your last message regarding her travel here—just in the last few weeks—indicated that you would accompany her at your expense. If you can not afford your own travel expense, I will be more than happy to fly down and retrieve her myself or have a family member do so. I did look into unaccompanied minor travel with an airline and by your accounts of [daughter], I think she would be suitable for such traveX Being that she will be consistently traveling to [home state] in a few short weeks, I think it is something you may want to look into as that is typical in these situations.
Understand that I am not being difficult, when you relocated to [other state] you insisted that you would have [daughter] visit consistently at YOUR expense being that you were the one to relocate. I am willing to work with you in paying for [daughter]’s expense but I will not bear your cost as that is both unreasonable and unfair.
[Custodial Dad]
On Tue, Sep 16, 2008 at 7:58 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Glad you got the updates on [daughter].
In reality, there is no issue with contracting Ms. [therapist in other state].
I would appreciate if you could pay her fees as I cannot do so right now.
At a later date, I will be able to bear the costs.
But, I have not been able to afford her fees and I do not want to initiate Ms. [therapist in other state]’s work with [daughter] with inconsistency.
I am working with [daughter] to find solutions to her contact with you all up north.
However, we could really benefit from Ms. [therapist in other state]’s guidance.
Please, let me know if you can pay. Save us some legal fees that we will be charged for this simple question:
[Custodial Dad], will you please pay the fees for Ms. [therapist in other state] to be hired by us to work with [daughter] and us?
Seperately, I would be happy to bring [daughter] to visit up north. Please let me know the dates and times and I will let you know ASAP possible matches to your availability.
What expences will you pay for this trip?
Please let me know so I can help make it happen!
Thanks, [Custodial Dad].
Kind regards to all!
God Bless.
[The Ex]
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Cc: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Sent: Monday, September 15, 2008 3:43:51 PM
Subject: Update
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
[daughter] is well and has adjusted to school beautifully!
She is a top reader and demonstrates leadership skills in the classroom and on the playground. As she is well ahead of her classmetes educationally, she is actively involved with assisting her peers to read and do math problems with the approach to problem solvin and “sounding out” words that we have employed as a parent-child team for years.
I am sure you are proud of her community spirit demonstrated in her investment of herself in her classmates- I certainly am overjoyed!
[daughter] is a great diplomat and her teachers entrust playground disagreements to her management... she is respectful to all sides and negotiates a situation which results in enjoyable community play and “happy campers” all around—including the teachers!
[daughter] remains a meat and potatoes [third state] Girl with a love of broccoli and homemade Italian food. Steak, seafood and spinach are consistently fulfilled requests.
She is lovin and adapts well to all environments- in the classroom, at private homes of family and friends and has established herself as an assist to the college girls in our favorite restaurants (Sushi and Classic American cuisine) - [daughter] is welcomed by name at the door and is invited (or requests!) to fold napkins and set tables with the staff. She is loved all around and enjoys enriching experiences in sports,, social times with classmates and their families, and of course with her indulgence in crafting and painting.
As you see from her pictures, she is georgeous and she’lll tell you: “I have beautiful hair like my Da-Da!”
I have made sure she understands that she is the best of us and is loved by us all. She is confident and secure... adn of course, at all times safe and handeled with white gloves, as the expression goes.
Please send recent photos. I have yet to upload my most recent photos as daily life is task oriented so that I can have time and energy to continue to nurture [daughter]’s growth and development.
Your box of [daughter]’s work is still being added to and I will get that out to you... may make a book of it all so that it is sequencially organized so you may see the changes in her art talents and letter writing skills.
Take good gare.
Will have [daughter] call
Looking forward to progress with your assistance from Ms. [therapist in other state]. [Ex’s first other state lawyer] has been in touch with your attorney and i hope for a prompt response to have the professional guidance and assistance which I think is imperative to help rebuild and continue your relationship with [daughter].
I have great hopes for a lifetime of progress working together to achieve peace and joy for [daughter] and all her sibblings and with [Step Mother].
I think we can do this.
Let us not let technical details and proceedures cloud our objectives for pleasant integrative family- building.
Take good care. warm regards to all the [last name] clan!
Kindly,
[The Ex]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Sent: Wednesday, August 27, 2008 2:00:39 PM
Subject: Re: Fwd: Case --[last name]
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Will mail full packet of docs required by Ms. [therapist in other state] by mid- September.
[daughter] is well and enjoying the sunshine and water parks! As always, top of her class and social butterfly!
Take care.
Kind regards to [Step Mother] and the Little Darlings!
God bless.
[The Ex]
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From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, August 26, 2008 3:12:44 PM
Subject: Fwd: Case --[last name]
If you can please forward me a copy of your release, after all you requested and received my copy to Ms [therapist in other state].
x
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From: [other state therapist] [therapist in other state] <[email]96@[email].com>
Date: Mon, Aug 25, 2008 at 4:08 PM
Subject: Re: Case --[last name]
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
We have been in contact and looks like we’ll meet this Wednesday. I will keep you informed. [other state therapist]-
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ The universe is a big place, perhaps the biggest.
Kilgore Trout, (Philip Jose Farmer), “Venus on the Half Shell”
pseud. of Philip Jose Farmer ~
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ If the world should blow itself up, the last audible voice would be that of an expert saying it can’t be done.
* Peter Ustinov ~
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ If the world should blow itself up, the last audible voice would be that of an expert saying it can’t be done.
* Peter Ustinov ~
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ Time is that quality of nature which keeps events from happening all at once. Lately it doesn’t seem to be working.
* Anonymous ~
[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
For time with [daughter] 10/21/08:
I have set up and will pay $50 toward your time at the “Little White House”- [visitation supervision center] on [street in town in other state] Street with [visitation site superviser] [visitation site superviser].
Your are scheduled for 4:30PM to 6:30PM today, Tuesday, 10/21/08 (today).
You need to be there at 4:15PM.
I will pick up [daughter] and bring her to visit with you.
I’m sure she will be happy to have time with you.
For time with [daughter] on 10/22/08 before your 5PM departure to [home state]:
Please find a supervisor and I’m sure she would love to go to the children’s theater / dinner or an event you all agree on with you. I will have her available after school Wednesday for you to share time.
Thanks, [Custodial Dad].
Kindly,
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Wednesday, October 8, 2008 1:23:02 PM
Subject: Re: Visit dates, Fees for [therapist in other state] & Check for [daughter](Thanks!
[The Ex]
I have never begrudged [daughter] ANY money, I was awaiting for your financial disclosure as I had no idea what I should be sending. Since that has to be worked out with the attorneys and the court system, please feel free to discuss future money with your attorney as there will be a hearing to decide what, if anything, I should be sending to [daughter]..
It is clear that you are determining when (if at all) I see or speak to [daughter]. As I said before, for the time being, whenever YOU allow her to visit I will make arrangements to be available.
I will be in [other state] for mediation obviously for the day. As I stated to you previously, I will not subject [daughter] to a visitation center again, as it was both unnecessary and insulting to both her and I. I would suggest we meet in a public place for the visitation exchange either the evening before or maybe in the morning prior to mediation or of course immediately following mediation… and I will have a few ideas of my own as to what [daughter] and I can do on our visit—I think she and I can figure out what to do.
I spoke with [other state therapist] on two separate occasions and compensated her for her time to speak with me directly. As I stated previously and as my attorney stated to your attorney, I will pay for one HALF of [daughter]’s session but you need to a) schedule her to speak with [other state therapist] and b) pay for the other half. As for payment, the money sent for child support should be utilized for such expenses. In addition, [insurance company] will reimburse 70% of any fees for [daughter] to meet with Ms. [therapist in other state]. Understand the mediation is quickly approaching and we can do this prior to mediation to save money or after when it is ordered. Either way, you will be responsible for half of the payment. It would serve you well to complete this prior to mediation as it will be unnecessary and foolish to delay the inevitable.I will also remind you that this is YOUR demand that we meet with [other state therapist] and I have not spoken with [daughter] since July 28th... Understand how cruel that is to [daughter] as I am sure you could care less about my feelings, so please think of how this is hurting our daughter.
I will also remind you that this is YOUR demand that we meet with [other state therapist] and I have not spoken with [daughter] since July 28th... Understand how cruel that is to [daughter] as I am sure you could care less about my feelings, so please think of how this is hurting our daughter.
You stated that you wanted to eliminate the cost of attorneys. If we can agree prior to mediation, that will mitigate the costs of attorneys and mediation greatly. To be very clear:
I think we should agree to utilize [other state therapist] as Custody Evaluator or whatever role she thinks she would best serve [daughter].
Please let me know your goals to mediation and hopefully you and I could finally come to some agreement to save us both time and money. I realize [Ex’s first other state lawyer] is a friend of yours, but I am sure it is just as costly to have her retained!
X
Hope all is well.
Have not gotten a message from you since 9/23/08. Today is 10/8/08. Guess all is very busy with family and work.
1. [daughter]’s monies:
I did get a check for September of $1,000. Thank you, kindly [Custodial Dad].
Is this the amount to be expected monthly from this time forward?
2. Dates for [daughter]’s holiday visits up North:
I still await possible dates for [daughter] to visit you all up North, as requested in my past few e-mails (August- September).
thanksgiving and christmas are around the corner and I would like to get a chance to get the best plane fares for the trips.
Please, send dates on which you all may be available. We can begin to plan and confirm holiday plans.
3. [daughter] available for you to visit in October in [other state] on your trip here:
I understand from [Ex’s first other state lawyer] that you may be in town late October;
I will ensure that [daughter] is availabe to spend time with you
at a local event/ children’s theater( which includes buffet lunch and desert)/ visit center/
pottery painting studio -all here in [town in other state].
Your choice.
She will enjoy any time.
Let’s set dates, times and fees to create realistic options for you and [daughter] to have time together on your October visit.
I would appreciate a response of your preference of activity, funds available to allocate, and days, dates and times that work with your schedule while here in [other state].
[Custodial Dad], can you clarify whether you have paid Ms. [therapist in other state]? [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]’s communication states that you have.
Would you please inform me of how much you have paid her and if the funds have been used as yet?
Did you have an intake evaluation with her already?
Have you paid for [daughter] to be evaluated and for Ms. [therapist in other state] to work with [daughter]?
I can immediately begin to take [daughter] in for sessions here in [town in other state] as soon as I am aware of the option
to have [daughter] begin her journey to a better relationship with you and her [last name] family.
Kindly advise, ASAP.
Kind Regards to Mrs. [last name] and all your Darling N’s!
God Bless.
[The Ex] [last name]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, September 23, 2008 4:26:41 PM
Subject: Re: Fees for [therapist in other state] & Check for [daughter]
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Thanks for the reply.
[daughter] is well, as always and enjoying school and friends.
Her school schedule is the same as all students in [other state].
Please, supply possible dates for us to bring [daughter] to visit her [last name] family.
We are prepared to facilitate this proposed visit as soon as we can coordinate schedules with you all.
The question I called you about is:
Did you send any check for [daughter] for September as I did not receive it as yet.
Please, check on the status if you did have the bank issue it.
If not, please notify me of the situation.
Thanks for your time.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
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From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, September 23, 2008 11:01:14 AM
Subject: Re: Fees for [therapist in other state] & request for dates for [daughter]’s visit up Nort
[The Ex]
I just spoke with [insurance company] and out of network is a $500 deductible and then coverage is 70% and in network is $250 deductible and then coverage is 90%, if [daughter] has been seeing any Doctors etc to date her deductible may be met already and I am not certain if Ms [therapist in other state] is in our out of network.
I cannot send “possible dates” for a visit as you have not informed me which school she goes to so I do not know her vacation schedule. I can then choose an airline at that time.
Your phone call was not appreciated this morning, I am at work and unless the call is something very directly to do with [daughter] you have no reason to call me, at this time.
You had some question or questions you kept trying to ask over the phone, please feel free to respond here with it/them and I will answer to the best of my ability.
Thank you for taking the time to e-mail me, it may have been nicer to have some news of our daughter but at least from this I may assume you all weathered the hurricanes OK and [daughter] is at least healthy.
Thank you for your e-mail I await your response
x
On Tue, Sep 23, 2008 at 10:24 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Gald for your response.
Actually, your insurance does not cover Ms. [therapist in other state] at all.
The costs bear on me entirely.
Are you willing and able to cover the costs in full at this time
to get us started with Ms. [therapist in other state] ASAP?
Please send possible dates for [daughter] to visit and I will make the necessary accomodations, as we will be flying up with her.
Thank you for agreeing to pay [daughter]’s fare in fulX
We will e-mail with you to explore possible airlines for you to book her ticket with your funds. We will then book with the airline you can afford at this time.
Thanks for your time and attention.
God Bless.
[The Ex] [last name]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665
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From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, September 16, 2008 8:32:46 AM
Subject: Re: Fees for [therapist in other state] & request for dates for [daughter]’s visit up Nort
[The Ex];
As you are well aware Ms [therapist in other state]s fees are covered by [insurance company] at 70%. I am unsure if you have alternate insurance for [daughter] but that would possibly cover the balance of the fees. Again, since this is at your insistence the only way for me to gain contact with my daughter, I will agree to pay one half of the fees as my attorney suggested to yours. I will not negotiate on this further and neither will my attorney. I believe there is a motion already before Judge [Other State Judge] on this matter, but I agree if we could move forward it would bode well on us both.
As for her visit north, I am agreeable to pay for [daughter]’s travel fees 100%. I have stated that to you previously. I am curious how dire your financial situation is, all of a sudden, since your last message regarding her travel here—just in the last few weeks—indicated that you would accompany her at your expense. If you can not afford your own travel expense, I will be more than happy to fly down and retrieve her myself or have a family member do so. I did look into unaccompanied minor travel with an airline and by your accounts of [daughter], I think she would be suitable for such traveX Being that she will be consistently traveling to [home state] in a few short weeks, I think it is something you may want to look into as that is typical in these situations.
Understand that I am not being difficult, when you relocated to [other state] you insisted that you would have [daughter] visit consistently at YOUR expense being that you were the one to relocate. I am willing to work with you in paying for [daughter]’s expense but I will not bear your cost as that is both unreasonable and unfair.
[Custodial Dad]
On Tue, Sep 16, 2008 at 7:58 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Glad you got the updates on [daughter].
In reality, there is no issue with contracting Ms. [therapist in other state].
I would appreciate if you could pay her fees as I cannot do so right now.
At a later date, I will be able to bear the costs.
But, I have not been able to afford her fees and I do not want to initiate Ms. [therapist in other state]’s work with [daughter] with inconsistency.
I am working with [daughter] to find solutions to her contact with you all up north.
However, we could really benefit from Ms. [therapist in other state]’s guidance.
Please, let me know if you can pay. Save us some legal fees that we will be charged for this simple question:
[Custodial Dad], will you please pay the fees for Ms. [therapist in other state] to be hired by us to work with [daughter] and us?
Seperately, I would be happy to bring [daughter] to visit up north. Please let me know the dates and times and I will let you know ASAP possible matches to your availability.
What expences will you pay for this trip?
Please let me know so I can help make it happen!
Thanks, [Custodial Dad].
Kind regards to all!
God Bless.
[The Ex]
----- Original Message ----
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Cc: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Sent: Monday, September 15, 2008 3:43:51 PM
Subject: Update
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
[daughter] is well and has adjusted to school beautifully!
She is a top reader and demonstrates leadership skills in the classroom and on the playground. As she is well ahead of her classmetes educationally, she is actively involved with assisting her peers to read and do math problems with the approach to problem solvin and “sounding out” words that we have employed as a parent-child team for years.
I am sure you are proud of her community spirit demonstrated in her investment of herself in her classmates- I certainly am overjoyed!
[daughter] is a great diplomat and her teachers entrust playground disagreements to her management... she is respectful to all sides and negotiates a situation which results in enjoyable community play and “happy campers” all around—including the teachers!
[daughter] remains a meat and potatoes Jersey Girl with a love of broccoli and homemade Italian food. Steak, seafood and spinach are consistently fulfilled requests.
She is lovin and adapts well to all environments- in the classroom, at private homes of family and friends and has established herself as an assist to the college girls in our favorite restaurants (Sushi and Classic American cuisine) - [daughter] is welcomed by name at the door and is invited (or requests!) to fold napkins and set tables with the staff. She is loved all around and enjoys enriching experiences in sports,, social times with classmates and their families, and of course with her indulgence in crafting and painting.
As you see from her pictures, she is georgeous and she’lll tell you: “I have beautiful hair like my Da-Da!”
I have made sure she understands that she is the best of us and is loved by us all. She is confident and secure... adn of course, at all times safe and handeled with white gloves, as the expression goes.
Please send recent photos. I have yet to upload my most recent photos as daily life is task oriented so that I can have time and energy to continue to nurture [daughter]’s growth and development.
Your box of [daughter]’s work is still being added to and I will get that out to you... may make a book of it all so that it is sequencially organized so you may see the changes in her art talents and letter writing skills.
Take good gare.
Will have [daughter] call
Looking forward to progress with your assistance from Ms. [therapist in other state]. [Ex’s first other state lawyer] has been in touch with your attorney and i hope for a prompt response to have the professional guidance and assistance which I think is imperative to help rebuild and continue your relationship with [daughter].
I have great hopes for a lifetime of progress working together to achieve peace and joy for [daughter] and all her sibblings and with [Step Mother].
I think we can do this.
Let us not let technical details and proceedures cloud our objectives for pleasant integrative family- building.
Take good care. warm regards to all the [last name] clan!
Kindly,
[The Ex]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665
----- Original Message ----
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Sent: Wednesday, August 27, 2008 2:00:39 PM
Subject: Re: Fwd: Case --[last name]
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Will mail full packet of docs required by Ms. [therapist in other state] by mid- September.
[daughter] is well and enjoying the sunshine and water parks! As always, top of her class and social butterfly!
Take care.
Kind regards to [Step Mother] and the Little Darlings!
God bless.
[The Ex]
----- Original Message ----
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, August 26, 2008 3:12:44 PM
Subject: Fwd: Case --[last name]
If you can please forward me a copy of your release, after all you requested and received my copy to Ms [therapist in other state].
x
---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: [other state therapist] [therapist in other state] <[email]96@[email].com>
Date: Mon, Aug 25, 2008 at 4:08 PM
Subject: Re: Case --[last name]
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
We have been in contact and looks like we’ll meet this Wednesday. I will keep you informed. [other state therapist]-
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ The universe is a big place, perhaps the biggest.
Kilgore Trout, (Philip Jose Farmer), “Venus on the Half Shell”
pseud. of Philip Jose Farmer ~
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ If the world should blow itself up, the last audible voice would be that of an expert saying it can’t be done.
* Peter Ustinov ~
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ If the world should blow itself up, the last audible voice would be that of an expert saying it can’t be done.
* Peter Ustinov ~
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