Restated request to cease eamils on Father's "position" Re: Father cancels ordered Christmas for Child with Mom Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Mon, Dec 20, 2010 at 9:53 AM
To: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad].  Just have the fare for [daughter] as per order- round trip- in fact.
I do not have additional funds for my [HOME  STATE] hotel, etc which will be required given your most unrealistic proposal and frustration of my child's time to [other state] this Christmas.
Please stop email on your repeated position.
Based on your refusal to comply, however justified you feel, I have spoken to [daughter] on revising our expectations for holiday plans for whenever she is able to come to her [other state] home.  Christmas will be there in your house in 2010.  Then, she will just have to have another Christmas with Mom later.
That's all.  I cannot repeat this futile topic with you.
Regards,
[The Ex]



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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 17, 2010 8:52:27 AM
Subject: Re: Father cancels ordered Christmas for Child with Mom Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

Again, I hope that you are willing to put your pride aside and choose a viable alternative to seeing [daughter] this holiday.
[Custodial Dad]

On Dec 17, 2010, at 8:17 AM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
You refuse repeatedly to allow cort ordered time or any additional time.
The phone call log speaks loudly - spare us the emailed fabrications, please.
I have NEVER refused having time with my child for Christmas.
In fact, I have offered to pay for her trip in full- as I did this summer.
Please let me know when you will allow [daughter] to her Mother, if not Christmas.  Anytime is a good time.  I am prepared to have my daughter at ANYTIME.
[The Ex]



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From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, December 15, 2010 10:55:46 PM
Subject: Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

[daughter] does know that she is not going to [other state] for this Christmas.  Your insistence of making her tell you that she is coming is hurtful to [daughter] and is making her uncomfortable.  Your telling [daughter] that it "won't be Christmas"  is disregarding and disrespecting of the fact that she has a home and will be celebrating Christmas with her family ... and while YOUR Christmas will be delayed based upon your refusals, [daughter] will indeed have a Christmas at Christmas time surrounded by family and friends.  We have discussed this at length with her therapist which is why, at his encouragement, she asked if she would be seeing you in [HOME  STATE] this christmas.

Your refusal to actually hear what our child is saying to you has resulted in her now telling you she is watching a movie (when she's not) or simply that she wants to go.  She was told that if you make her feel uncomfortable in anyway shape or form or that you are encouraging her to speak in code, that she has the power and ability to end the call. Clearly she is electing to use that ability.

I do want to make a suggestion to you, [daughter] has a lot to talk to you about but she is unable to get a word in edgewise.  Feel free to ask her about cheerleading, her school, her friends and then LISTEN.  She has a lot of great, wonderful things going on in her world that she is wanting to speak with you about but she feels as though you can't stop talking long enough to listen to her.

Again, I hope that you are willing to put your pride aside and choose a viable alternative to seeing [daughter] this holiday.
Have a good night.
[Custodial Dad]


On Wed, Dec 1, 2010 at 6:31 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
I reside in [other state] -- you know-- in [daughter]'s home.  I will not travel to [HOME  STATE] for obvious reasons.  I will be here waiting for my child's flight information.
OR... Let me know the tiems and dates agreeable and I will book her airfare.
OK?  Please. Please. Please.  Let her come home for Christmas.
[The Ex]

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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Cc: "[Custodial Dad]@[email].com" <[Custodial Dad]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, December 1, 2010 8:53:32 AM
Subject: Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

I do want [daughter] to have the ability to visit with you for Christmas but it is my job to keep her safe and mentally/physically unharmed.  By your past and current actions, I do not believe she will be safe with you.

I gave you two viable alternatives to ensure [daughter] spends time with you. For [daughter]'s sake, I hope you at the very least come visit her here OR to allow us all a chance to move forward, you get a psychological evaluation.

The ball is in your court as I am not budging on my requirements and I can assure you the court will agree.

[Custodial Dad]

On Dec 1, 2010, at 8:04 AM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
I am pleading with you to PLEASE let [daughter] come for Chirstmas.
This has been her Home for 6 years.
It is important for her to be in her home and see her mother.
It's Christmas.  Her friends are all waiting for her.
Please let her come home to [other state] for Christmas.  Please.
I'm begging.
[The Ex]
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[Custodial Dad]
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~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~



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[Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Mon, Dec 20, 2010 at 3:15 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>, [Custodial Dad] <[Custodial Dad]@[email].com>

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On Mon, Dec 20, 2010 at 9:53 AM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad].  Just have the fare for [daughter] as per order- round trip- in fact.

I am unsure what you mean by the above statement.

I do not have additional funds for my [HOME  STATE] hotel, etc which will be required given your most unrealistic proposal and frustration of my child's time to [other state] this Christmas.

My proposal is not unrealistic and certainly warranted.  I am uncertain where you believe I said you needed to have a hotel in [HOME  STATE].  What I said was that I would have acceptable accommodations to allow you the chance to visit with [daughter] this holiday.  I had assumed that you would be able to stay with your mother and travel to [HOME  STATE], as you did for the month and a half that you were in the area for September/October.

Please stop email on your repeated position.

If you do not want my reply, please stop emailing me on the same matter.

Based on your refusal to comply, however justified you feel, I have spoken to [daughter] on revising our expectations for holiday plans for whenever she is able to come to her [other state] home.


As I have said, [daughter] was and is well aware of the situation as it was discussed at length with her therapist.  I am very grateful that you are refraining from putting [daughter] in such an awkward position in regards to Christmas.  And while I am grateful to share ANY time with [daughter], especially Christmas, my statements are based on your current behavior and not any attempt to frustrate [daughter]'s contact with you.  Like I stated, my concerns have and continue to be validated and said concerns have been mirrored, in fact, by several people.

Christmas will be there in your house in 2010.  Then, she will just have to have another Christmas with Mom later.

I had hoped that you would put aside your feelings and visit with [daughter].  If you do change your mind, even if not the prescribed time as spelled out, we can accommodate your visit to [HOME  STATE] this holiday season as I am certain [daughter] wants to visit with you.

That's all.  I cannot repeat this futile topic with you.

The topic is actually not futile.  I have given you options and you are refusing to act on the options given to you, for whatever reason.
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