Normal - what Respect? Re: April Update

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Mon, May 16, 2011 at 7:42 AM

To: [email] <[email]@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:

Please share on your email- normal month?

What about a child not being with her Mother is normal?

What about the denial of all time-share is normal?

What about recording phone calls and NOT calling is normal? 

What about  emails and textes from your household are Normal?

This is far from normal, by any guage.

What are your thoughts?

From: [email] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[The ex school].edu>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Sent: Mon, May 9, 2011 5:56:57 PM

Subject: April Update

[Daughter] had a very normal month: play days, parties, school, a school dance and her school photos.  She had a Cultural Day at school and made Irish Potato Bread and drew the Guyanese Flag.  She had a great easter finding easter eggs and enjoying her easter basket as well as the presents you sent her.  I had her wait to open it on the telephone with you, hope that was okay as she was really anxious to open it. 

She did fantastic at her choral concert which I may be able to send the video to you, if you would like to see it.  She had an awards dinner at the roller rink and received another trophy for cheerleading. She is doing much better in her adjustment to having Mrs. [Teacher] as her teacher again but is thrilled to be able to see Ms [Teacher] in the halls. It is nearly the end of the year and I am still uncertain as to whether or not you were able to get access to her school reports etc.  My assumption is that you have obtained the information to your specifications.  She is still currently sending you photos and emails.  She did have a school dance where she wore the dress you purchased her.  I think she sent you a picture of that.  She is really good at sharing photos and her day via email and during your calls.

She has her yearly physical and dental cleaning coming up this month.  She is still maintaining her palate extender with Dr. [Home state orthodontist] and her therapy sessions with Dr. [Home state therapist].

[Custodial Dad]

[email] <[email]@[email].com>

Mon, May 16, 2011 at 9:12 AM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Bcc: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

You are correct about one thing... this is NOT normal. I am trying to make [Daughter]'s life as normal as possible under the conditions you have created.

[Daughter] had a normal, uneventful month free from YOUR Children and Youth allegations as they have REFUSED to come out based on your lies and "mental instability."

Free from the Police showing up based again on your lies and the fact that you will fabricate anything to get your way.

[Daughter] has been shielded from your insane behavior including asking a Judge to recuse himself based on racism, a legal strategy so absurd that your FIFTH lawyer dropped you.

[Daughter] has been given the understanding for the reason the calls are being recorded from not only myself but Children and Youth agency workers, her therapist and the police.  All of which, by the way, have ENDORSED the call recordings based upon the CONTENT of said phone calls.

To point out the obvious, I went YEARS without speaking to [Daughter] or even knowing anything of her and you have an issue when she is out late ONE night and YOU choose not to call when I say that she is in.  Even in your state, I am certain you can see the hilarity in that one. 

And finally the reason why she has been unable to see you is based on YOUR actions, how about you take responsibility for your behavior for a change?  Look at your own behavior  and see for a second why NO ONE trusts you with [Daughter].  

You find issue with everything I say to you.  If I say too much, its unnecessary.  If I say to little, its not enough.  You will never be satisfied and communicating with you seems to serve no purpose other than to fuel your paranoid-driven obsession with my family and my life.  You don't want to deal with me, we get it that is the reason you hang up as soon as someone other than [Daughter] answers.  If you don't want to deal with me, spend the money and get the Parent Communication program so that all the information is entered and I won't have to e-mail you any further.  That would save us all grief and time replying to your non-sense.

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[Custodial Dad] & [StepMom] 

[email]

(XXX XXX) XXX XXX - 6052

If two stand shoulder to shoulder against the gods,

Happy together, the gods themselves are helpless

Against them while they stand so.

~Maxwell Anderson

No visit details, etc. Re: PA may be OK- Easter Still option for [Daughter] w Mom

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 22, 2011 at 7:33 AM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:

These emails indicate a refusal to establish shared time for [Daughter].

You refused to communicate with your attorney about a court ordered mediation related to a fraud filing.

You violate the contact [Daughter] is ordered by phone each day and in person with her Mother.

Your actions render any communication with me to be futile.

Please communicate directly through the attorneys and the court.

This is out of my hands.

[The ex] 

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Sent: Wed, April 20, 2011 8:54:07 PM

Subject: Re: PA may be OK- Easter Still option for [Daughter] w Mom

As you are the one traveling, I will work with your schedule however we do have a dinner planned Sunday night and an appointment for a few hours on Monday, otherwise [Daughter] will be made available to visit with you during her Easter break, as you requested. 

Instead of going back-and-forth, when you have confirmed your travel arrangements, we can then firm up specifics. I have no time to discuss "possibilities."

The "terms" as you phrased it remain consistent with my court filings and my offer to you this past [Custodial Dad]tmas. 

[Custodial Dad]

On Apr 20, 2011, at 18:57, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:

Hey, [Custodial Dad].

For possible PA visit with [Daughter]:  Set up the place and times and let me know your specific terms for drop off, meals, - all details.. 

I'm glad to work with you.  Will check email in AM.  Thanks, [Custodial Dad].

[The ex]

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Sent: Wed, April 20, 2011 3:01:37 PM

Subject: Repeated Answer Re: Repeated request Re: Easter Still option for [Daughter] w Mom

[The ex];

I see that your answer is no, that you do not want to visit with [Daughter] in [Home State].  If you change your mind, please let me know at least 24 hours in advance.

[Custodial Dad]

On Apr 20, 2011, at 2:35 PM, [The Ex] wrote:

[Custodial Dad]:

I cannot bear the costs of staying away from home. 

I have home and car here and I can get [Daughter] from the airport in [Other State City].

Please let me know if you will send the child to [other state].  If not, then just say so- as you have already said no.

Thanks.

[The ex]

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [email]@[The ex school].edu; [email]@[email].com; [The ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Sent: Wed, April 20, 2011 10:13:51 AM

Subject: Re: Easter Still option for [Daughter] w Mom

[The ex]

As you stated, you are available and willing to bear the burden of the costs, then perhaps you should consider the offer I have made. I will make appropriate arrangements for YOU to visit with our daughter here in [Home State] as airfare is no less expensive for an adult or child.

[Custodial Dad]

On Wed, Apr 20, 2011 at 9:17 AM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:

[Custodial Dad];

As I have asked before, please send [Daughter] for time with Mom. 

I am off the whole holiday- all the days she is also off from school.

I asked and you declined for months.

But, if you change your mind, I will arrange w you for flights and travel. 

We can discuss all costs to me for her travel- if you want me to bear all costs.  No problem.

Please let me know.

[The Ex]

-- 

[Custodial Dad] [Custodial Dad] [Custodial Dad]

XXX XXX-xxx-0185

~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~

[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 22, 2011 at 7:57 AM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Due to your inability to simply READ what is said to you, I will agree that communication with you is "futile."  

However, I see that you are unwilling to make any arrangements to see [Daughter] on any of the days I have outlined that she is free.  I am sorry to hear that.

Again, there will be days [Daughter] will be unavailable by telephone.  Interesting that you of all people can not realize that.

As usual, your change of behavior did not last very long at all and we are back to litigation... by your actions I do believe though that you have never intended to change your ways.  

[Custodial Dad]

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PA may be OK- Easter Still option for [Daughter] w Mom

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Wed, Apr 20, 2011 at 6:57 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Hey, [Custodial Dad].

For possible PA visit with [Daughter]:  Set up the place and times and let me know your specific terms for drop off, meals, - all details.. 

I'm glad to work with you.  Will check email in AM.  Thanks, [Custodial Dad].

[The Ex]

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Sent: Wed, April 20, 2011 3:01:37 PM

Subject: Repeated Answer Re: Repeated request Re: Easter Still option for [Daughter] w Mom

[The ex];

I see that your answer is no, that you do not want to visit with [Daughter] in [Home State].  If you change your mind, please let me know at least 24 hours in advance.

[Custodial Dad]

On Apr 20, 2011, at 2:35 PM, [The Ex] wrote:

[Custodial Dad]:

I cannot bear the costs of staying away from home. 

I have home and car here and I can get [Daughter] from the airport in [Other State City].

Please let me know if you will send the child to [other state].  If not, then just say so- as you have already said no.

Thanks.

[The Ex]

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [email]@[The ex school].edu; [email]@[email].com; [The ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Sent: Wed, April 20, 2011 10:13:51 AM

Subject: Re: Easter Still option for [Daughter] w Mom

[The ex]

As you stated, you are available and willing to bear the burden of the costs, then perhaps you should consider the offer I have made. I will make appropriate arrangements for YOU to visit with our daughter here in [Home State] as airfare is no less expensive for an adult or child.

[Custodial Dad]

On Wed, Apr 20, 2011 at 9:17 AM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:

[Custodial Dad];

As I have asked before, please send [Daughter] for time with Mom. 

I am off the whole holiday- all the days she is also off from school.

I asked and you declined for months.

But, if you change your mind, I will arrange w you for flights and travel. 

We can discuss all costs to me for her travel- if you want me to bear all costs.  No problem.

Please let me know.

[The Ex]

-- 

[Custodial Dad] [Custodial Dad] [Custodial Dad]

XXX XXX-xxx-0185

~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~

[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Wed, Apr 20, 2011 at 8:54 PM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

As you are the one traveling, I will work with your schedule however we do have a dinner planned Sunday night and an appointment for a few hours on Monday, otherwise [Daughter] will be made available to visit with you during her Easter break, as you requested. 

Instead of going back-and-forth, when you have confirmed your travel arrangements, we can then firm up specifics. I have no time to discuss "possibilities."

The "terms" as you phrased it remain consistent with my court filings and my offer to you this past [Custodial Dad]tmas. 

[Custodial Dad]

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Repeated request Re: Easter Still option for [Daughter] w Mom

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Wed, Apr 20, 2011 at 2:35 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:

I cannot bear the costs of staying away from home. 

I have home and car here and I can get [Daughter] from the airport in [Other State City].

Please let me know if you will send the child to [other state].  If not, then just say so- as you have already said no.

Thanks.

[The Ex]

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [email]@[The ex school].edu; [email]@[email].com; [The ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Sent: Wed, April 20, 2011 10:13:51 AM

Subject: Re: Easter Still option for [Daughter] w Mom

[The ex]

As you stated, you are available and willing to bear the burden of the costs, then perhaps you should consider the offer I have made. I will make appropriate arrangements for YOU to visit with our daughter here in [Home State] as airfare is no less expensive for an adult or child.

[Custodial Dad]

On Wed, Apr 20, 2011 at 9:17 AM, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:

[Custodial Dad];

As I have asked before, please send [Daughter] for time with Mom. 

I am off the whole holiday- all the days she is also off from school.

I asked and you declined for months.

But, if you change your mind, I will arrange w you for flights and travel. 

We can discuss all costs to me for her travel- if you want me to bear all costs.  No problem.

Please let me know.

[The Ex]

-- 

[Custodial Dad] [Custodial Dad] [Custodial Dad]

XXX XXX-xxx-0185

~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~

Easter Still option for [Daughter] w Mom

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Wed, Apr 20, 2011 at 9:17 AM

To: [email]@[email].com, [email]@[email].com

[Custodial Dad];

As I have asked before, please send [Daughter] for time with Mom. 

I am off the whole holiday- all the days she is also off from school.

I asked and you declined for months.

But, if you change your mind, I will arrange w you for flights and travel. 

We can discuss all costs to me for her travel- if you want me to bear all costs.  No problem.

Please let me know.

[The ex]

Return of [Daughter]'s possessions sent from Mom which she is not allowed

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 8, 2011 at 3:17 PM

To: [email]@[email].com, [email]@[email].com

[Custodial Dad]:

Please return [Daughter]'s possessions via Fed -Ex / Us Mail with tracking number with 'signature required' for pick-up by Friday of next week.  Items were sent by us for her to play with/ wear/ enjoy.  I need them back to return so I can use those financial resources to purchase other things you do allow her to use/ have/ enjoy.  No discussion needed.  Simply post back to me.

Have a good weekend.

Thanks.

[The ex]

[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 8, 2011 at 3:40 PM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Cc: "[email]@[email].com" <[email]@[email].com>

Thank you for understanding. I will have it shipped upon receipt of your paid shipping label (FedEx and USPS can email it to me directly) or I can put it aside for when [Daughter] sees you next.)

Thanks again;

[Custodial Dad] 

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[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 8, 2011 at 3:47 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Great.  TO bring with at mediation is fine or send to same Fed ex address I sent from and I will pay on receipt at the shop.

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Cc: "[email]@[email].com" <[email]@[email].com>

Sent: Fri, April 8, 2011 3:40:51 PM

Subject: Re: Return of [Daughter]'s possessions sent from Mom which she is not allowed

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[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 8, 2011 at 5:28 PM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

If there will be mediation, I will be appearing by telephone or I will hang on to it until she sees you next. If it's imperative that you receive it soon, please send a label. 

[Custodial Dad]

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Returnof [Daughter]'s possessions sent from Mom which she is not allowed to have

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 8, 2011 at 3:13 PM

To: [email]@[email].com, [email]@[email].com

[Custodial Dad]:

Please return [Daughter]'s possessions via Fed -Ex / Us Mail with tracking number with 'signature required' for pick-up by Friday of next week.  Items were sent by us for her to play with/ wear/ enjoy.  I need them back to return so I can use those financial resources to purchase other things you do allow her to use/ have/ enjoy.  No discussion needed.  Simply post back to me.

Thanks.

[The ex]

Mediation for resolution Re: Response / Open door for [Daughter]

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 8, 2011 at 1:12 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

March on, [Custodial Dad].  See you at mediation.  Open minded approach will bring this to a better place. 

Thanks.

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Sent: Wed, April 6, 2011 5:23:21 PM

Subject: Re: Response / Open door for [Daughter]

You have chosen to involve my attorney and will not engage in simultaneous "discussions" so as to simplify the situation. 

You have decided to have a "third party" make decisions regarding [Daughter]'s time sharing. Clearly you are having second thoughts and "buyers remorse." I am uncertain as to what your position may or may not be after dragging this matter through six years of continuous litigation. 

If there will be mediation, I will remind you that I have always gone into mediation with an open mind, I do hope that at this juncture you are willing to do the same. Again, my position is not ever-evolving, self-serving or out of any hate or aggression. 

Any "evidence" I have cannot be compelled by you, it has and will be presented to the appropriate authorities and at the appropriate times.  

[Custodial Dad]

On Apr 6, 2011, at 15:34, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com> wrote:

[Custodial Dad]:

I wrote you last week to discuss options for time-share/ parenting.  I even tried to 'clear the slate' with forgiveness to move on, despite our clear and mutual distrust of each other, to say the least.  All of this-  for [Daughter]'s equal time with both of her parents.

Unfortunately, I received emails from you that do not offer discussion of  or actual dates/ times/ parenting responsibility. No Easter.  No summer.  In fact., no time- share for [Daughter] with her Mom is on the horizon for the duration of your current custody/ parenting authority- until she is eighteen. Is that correct?

Your messages express a rejection of my offer to come to resolution pre/ in mediation.

Is this correct?:  You want to go to court/ in front of authorities, etc. and have a third party make a decision about  the previous litigation you brought in [other state] and [Daughter]'s  current time without her Mother.

If you do not want to mediate for a solution, please say so.  If you do not want to share [Daughter]'s time because you feel you are protecting her from me, then say so.  If you are only wanting a judge to make decisions for this child's life, please just say so. 

I wrote you because I needed to know if you were open for discussion on custody.  Court ordered mediation is scheduled.  Please let us know if we are wasting time.  I will plan accordingly.  Thanks for your resonses to date. 

Kind Regards,

[The ex]

P.S . Please feel free to forward your documents of the allegations you continue to make about me in your emails.  I can receive the documents as attachments if you are willing to share so I can make sense of your claims. Thanks.

March Update

[email] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 1, 2011 at 8:19 PM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] <[email]@[The ex school].edu>, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Bcc: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

[The ex]:

This update was set to go out April 1, 2011.  Sorry for the delay.

Quick Update:

School: [Daughter] finished her [State Test]'s (State Exam) and she is confident she did well.  She is doing wonderful in school as you know. She had asked if you wanted to purchase a book that she made and was disappointed that you elected not to buy it after telling her that you would.  For the record, no the school will not photocopy the book for you.   I will attach more scans of her school work and will forward you the copy of her [State Test] results when we receive them if you are unable to get a copy of them.  Again, the school is able to mail results and work directly to you as well.

Cheerleading: She finished out the season and now is in wait mode until activity season starts up again in the fall.  She did get a 3rd place trophy which she sent you a picture of.  She had a good time but because the league was disorganized, she opted to not sign up next season.  I am not certain what she wants to do for the next year, I'll let you know as its confirmed.

Medical: [Daughter] has remained pretty healthy and as Children & Youth reported to you she neither had a 105 fever nor seizures on her birthday.  She did recover fairly quickly from her cold.  Her palate extender was replaced today and it will be coming out soon, per Dr. [Home state orthodontist].  She has been a model patient.

A few quick notes about the packages.  I am glad you were able to send [Daughter] some things up for [Daughter].  First, our daughter will not be wearing make-up.  I put it aside and if you'd like that back I'll be happy to set it aside for you. The bras that you are sending our daughter are inappropriate.  She is not going through puberty as yet and has no need for them.  We purchase her full under shirts that are age appropriate if you would like to send those up instead.  Additionally, [Daughter] cannot chew bubble gum as explained to you, please refrain from sending her up any gum or sticky candy as they will get stuck in her palate extender.  In addition, the caps that you had placed in 2007 (?) have the same restrictions on gum and sticky candy so I am surprised that you would encourage or allow any gum.  The first aid kit is not age appropriate.  The last time you gave [Daughter] a kit and medication, it delayed the healing of the bite she got in [other state] and caused scarring and an open wound.  Please refrain from giving her any kind of medication or first aid kit.  As explained to you, we have not only thermometers and medication but a more than adequate first aid kit.

[Daughter] is doing really well.  We continue to follow up with Dr. [Home state therapist] on a semi-regular basis.  She had a really fun birthday party, as she probably told you.  She had a few girl friends over and did crafts and danced and laughed.  She was all dressed up and [StepMom] did a fancy hair style in her hair.  Despite having a cold and having Children and Youth show up, she had a pretty great party.  

If you have any trouble with attachments or getting pictures from [Daughter], please let me know.  She has been using her camera to send you her own pictures.  We also have some pictures and a bracelet in the mail to you.  I hope that you received the card she made for your birthday this past month.

[Custodial Dad]

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[Custodial Dad] & [StepMom]

[email]

(XXX XXX) XXX XXX - 6052

If two stand shoulder to shoulder against the gods,

Happy together, the gods themselves are helpless

Against them while they stand so.

~Maxwell Anderson

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[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Wed, Apr 6, 2011 at 3:43 PM

To: [email] <[email]@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:

Kindley consider that this is my daughter, not a subject of a science experiment. 

[Daughter] and her Mom need time to be together, not a status 'report' mixed with your criticfism.

Please move forward with the big picture to correct this situation.

[The ex]

From: [email] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[The ex school].edu>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Sent: Fri, April 1, 2011 8:19:53 PM

Subject: March Update

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[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Wed, Apr 6, 2011 at 5:13 PM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

You are correct - [Daughter] and her Mom do need time to be together. Together in a whole and stable relationship, not one based on having to create 'codes' or what to say to authority figures.  I am thinking of the big picture and my corrections are not "criticism" but to bring your errors to your attention. No one is treating our daughter as a science experiment, the updates serve solely to keep you informed. 

[Custodial Dad]

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Response / Open door for [Daughter]

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Wed, Apr 6, 2011 at 3:34 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:

I wrote you last week to discuss options for time-share/ parenting.  I even tried to 'clear the slate' with forgiveness to move on, despite our clear and mutual distrust of each other, to say the least.  All of this-  for [Daughter]'s equal time with both of her parents.

Unfortunately, I received emails from you that do not offer discussion of  or actual dates/ times/ parenting responsibility. No Easter.  No summer.  In fact., no time- share for [Daughter] with her Mom is on the horizon for the duration of your current custody/ parenting authority- until she is eighteen. Is that correct?

Your messages express a rejection of my offer to come to resolution pre/ in mediation.

Is this correct?:  You want to go to court/ in front of authorities, etc. and have a third party make a decision about  the previous litigation you brought in [other state] and [Daughter]'s  current time without her Mother.

If you do not want to mediate for a solution, please say so.  If you do not want to share [Daughter]'s time because you feel you are protecting her from me, then say so.  If you are only wanting a judge to make decisions for this child's life, please just say so. 

I wrote you because I needed to know if you were open for discussion on custody.  Court ordered mediation is scheduled.  Please let us know if we are wasting time.  I will plan accordingly.  Thanks for your resonses to date. 

Kind Regards,

[The ex]

P.S . Please feel free to forward your documents of the allegations you continue to make about me in your emails.  I can receive the documents as attachments if you are willing to share so I can make sense of your claims. Thanks.

[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Wed, Apr 6, 2011 at 5:23 PM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

You have chosen to involve my attorney and will not engage in simultaneous "discussions" so as to simplify the situation. 

You have decided to have a "third party" make decisions regarding [Daughter]'s time sharing. Clearly you are having second thoughts and "buyers remorse." I am uncertain as to what your position may or may not be after dragging this matter through six years of continuous litigation. 

If there will be mediation, I will remind you that I have always gone into mediation with an open mind, I do hope that at this juncture you are willing to do the same. Again, my position is not ever-evolving, self-serving or out of any hate or aggression. 

Any "evidence" I have cannot be compelled by you, it has and will be presented to the appropriate authorities and at the appropriate times.  

[Custodial Dad]

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[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 8, 2011 at 1:02 PM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Cc: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

[The ex]:

I understand that you are wanting to start off on a "clean slate" and in that vein,  I will bring to your attention a few facts that [Daughter] discussed with me in regards to last night's phone call.  These are not criticisms but simply bringing to your attention a few issues for you to address.

a. I stated to you that I did not want our daughter to wear make up.  Your response was to tell her that it was "Okay for her to wear it in [other state]." For the record, she is allowed to wear chap stick and lip gloss but EYE SHADOW and BLUSH are not appropriate for little girls in my household.  I will let you know when I believe it is appropriate for her to wear make up.

b. [Daughter] asked you to send something up for her and your response was no because she will be "in [other state] when she will be in that size."  The inference [Daughter] understood was that she will be living in [other state] soon.  [Daughter] has long come to the realization that there will hopefully come a time that she can resume VISITING with you in [other state] but PA is her home.

c.  The "t-shirts" you sent to [Daughter] were training bras.  Did you read the label because it clearly states on the label that they are training bras.  [Daughter] is not going through puberty and I can assure you that we will take [Daughter] shopping for proper undergarments when the time comes. Because you embroidered the other bras, I allowed [Daughter] to have them but she is only allowed to wear undershirts/camisoles.

For reference:

Training bra: http://www.myfirstbra.us/bra_buying_guide.htm

Camisole/undershirt:  http://www.kidbean.com/lapsaky-girls-organic-cotton-undershirt-camisole.html

I am hoping that by addressing this with you, you are able to see my point clearly.  It is important that regardless of how you feel that you learn to not only respect my authority but do not continue to undermine me to [Daughter]. 

[Custodial Dad]

On Apr 6, 2011, at 5:23 PM, [Custodial Dad] wrote:

You have chosen to involve my attorney and I will not engage in simultaneous "discussions" so as to simplify the situation. 

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3v Open door for [Daughter]

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 1, 2011 at 6:43 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:

I just read your email.  Did [Other State Lawyer] talk to you yet? 

I can see that you are mad and I'm sure you  are justified in your feelings/ findings/ facts. 

But, this offer to heal [Daughter]'s life and advance starts with putting the anger and hate aside for a moment.

This is an open door for a resolution.  I was thinking more of an open door to the future - not to the past year of greviances.  To be stuck in the 'issues' we have simply wastes time.  Here is a starting point: We can say that we are both wrong and we are both right. If you want to be right, then- fine - you are right.

If you want to say I'm crazy, then no doctor is going to change your mind or your opinion - even with a clean bill of mental health for me- which I have.  Even if we were both certifiably crazy, [Daughter] would have a right to equal time with us.  Most divorced people think the other parent is nuts- they still have to raise their kids as a team.  We both have time to share with [Daughter] and so let's open the door to success for her.

Are you interested in any discussion on the time share and parenting? Will you share your thoughts with me to start? 

Even if you have all the undisputed proof for your statements, just maybe think for a moment that I am not guilty of the things you think I did and I will think that you are not guilty for what I think you did.  So we 'forgive" the other person because no one of us has all the facts, and even if we did- no one cares. I do not want to be in "control" so you take the lead- if you want to inform me of what you will mediate .   I do beleive we can take turns to care for [Daughter] and ensure her healthcare and expences.  She wants to be with her Dad and with her Mom. 

Even if you hate me- can you open a discussion on a different plan for [Daughter] to be in both our homes?

i have my thoughs on how she can have both of us and I am happy to share.

Thanks for sharing your feelings. 

[The ex]

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] <[email]@[The ex school].edu>

Cc: [email]@[email].com

Sent: Fri, April 1, 2011 1:01:54 PM

Subject: Re: Open door for [Daughter]

[The ex];

Whatever your thoughts are, I have moved on from the past and certainly what I may or may not have thought of you.  My only obligation towards you is ensuring our daughter has a healthy and nurturing relationship with BOTH of her parents. 

This past year, you have instructed our daughter to lie not only on me but her brother as well which caused her serious mental and emotional anguish.

This past year you have told [Daughter]'s principal, children & youth, the police, her doctors and medical providers and even the parents of her friends that I and/or the rest of her family are in some way abusing our daughter which not only embarrassed her but caused her to feel vulnerable and put upon.

This past year, you have and continue to abuse the various [Home State] agencies based on blatant lies, not facts, not "wrong or right" not even opinion but out-and-out LIES.

You continue to DAILY tell [Daughter] to make the "best" of her life here as if you are changing the circumstances.

You continue to DAILY cost me thousands upon thousands of dollars based on your lies and refusal to even attempt to co-parent or be a responsible human being who cares about her daughter.

This past year, we have no less than thirteen (13) e-mails regarding your "kind resolution on our daughter's life" only to end in more legal fees and more accusations. 

You have had no less than five attorney's attempt to make you aware of your detrimental behavior. 

Understand that my want to move on will not be clouded by your frequent and re-occuring requests of a "truce."  We have attempted resolution many, may times and I can not see that in the past few days that your behavior has changed so drastically to warrant a re-consideration.  Realize that I am not fighting you now nor have I ever made this about you, my concerns solely side with our daughter.  If [Daughter] were truly your focus as she has always been mine, this year would have been managed much, much differently.  

It is clear as it has always has been that there will be no other resolution besides a judge ordering you to undergo a mental evaluation and treatment.  The only thing I am certain of is that I do not know what compels you to behave in the manner that you continue to behave in. Unless you have suddenly voluntarily chosen to undergo a psychiatric evaluation by a provider approved by either [Other State Lawyer] or Judge [Other State Judge], I can assure you that my position is to remain unchanged and THAT is in [Daughter]'s best interest.

[Custodial Dad]

On Apr 1, 2011, at 12:23 PM, [The Ex] wrote:

[Custodial Dad]:

I am interested in your thoughts on a kind resolution on our daughter's life.

At one point in time we thought well enough of each other to conceive a child. 

The fighting match needs to be over. Here is my truce.  No parent will ever be "right" in their "facts" - and nobody cares- when the child is pulled in the middle. 

Maybe I'm wrong about you.  Maybe you are wrong about me.  And I'm sure [Daughter] only cares about "Dad" and "Mom"- not our thoughts on each other as parents. 

The one thing we have always agreed on is that SHE IS A GREAT KID and we both love her dearly.  She is part of both of us caring enough about each other at one time to bring her into the world.  Whatever the outcome of our time together and our concerns about the other parent, the objective expectation is that [Daughter] will do best knowing both of her parents, her other siblings and loving her step-Mom.

I was pleased to hear that our attorneys shared the same view when they had a child focused meeting yesterday and I hope you are considering the alternatives they discussed.

If [Other State Lawyer] has not yet spoken with you, just let me know your thoughts when he has.

I see some positive steps in you allowing [Daughter] a chance to open her box with me on the phone call yesterday.  I appreciate the contribution [StepMom] has made to [Daughter]'s diet and her time-management.  I have no problem financing -in full- the changes that we can make for [Daughter] as I believe we can move forward with kindness and cooperation. Let's make this better for [Daughter]'s heart. 

Kind Regards,

[The ex]

Open door for [Daughter]

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 1, 2011 at 12:23 PM

To: [email]@[email].com, [email]@[email].com

[Custodial Dad]:

I am interested in your thoughts on a kind resolution on our daughter's life.

At one point in time we thought well enough of each other to conceive a child. 

The fighting match needs to be over. Here is my truce.  No parent will ever be "right" in their "facts" - and nobody cares- when the child is pulled in the middle. 

Maybe I'm wrong about you.  Maybe you are wrong about me.  And I'm sure [Daughter] only cares about "Dad" and "Mom"- not our thoughts on each other as parents. 

The one thing we have always agreed on is that SHE IS A GREAT KID and we both love her dearly.  She is part of both of us caring enough about each other at one time to bring her into the world.  Whatever the outcome of our time together and our concerns about the other parent, the objective expectation is that [Daughter] will do best knowing both of her parents, her other siblings and loving her step-Mom.

I was pleased to hear that our attorneys shared the same view when they had a child focused meeting yesterday and I hope you are considering the alternatives they discussed.

If [Other State Lawyer] has not yet spoken with you, just let me know your thoughts when he has.

I see some positive steps in you allowing [Daughter] a chance to open her box with me on the phone call yesterday.  I appreciate the contribution [StepMom] has made to [Daughter]'s diet and her time-management.  I have no problem financing -in full- the changes that we can make for [Daughter] as I believe we can move forward with kindness and cooperation. Let's make this better for [Daughter]'s heart. 

Kind Regards,

[The ex]

[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 1, 2011 at 1:01 PM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] <[email]@[The ex school].edu>

Cc: [email]@[email].com

[The ex];

Whatever your thoughts are, I have moved on from the past and certainly what I may or may not have thought of you.  My only obligation towards you is ensuring our daughter has a healthy and nurturing relationship with BOTH of her parents. 

This past year, you have instructed our daughter to lie not only on me but her brother as well which caused her serious mental and emotional anguish.

This past year you have told [Daughter]'s principal, children & youth, the police, her doctors and medical providers and even the parents of her friends that I and/or the rest of her family are in some way abusing our daughter which not only embarrassed her but caused her to feel vulnerable and put upon.

This past year, you have and continue to abuse the various [Home State] agencies based on blatant lies, not facts, not "wrong or right" not even opinion but out-and-out LIES.

You continue to DAILY tell [Daughter] to make the "best" of her life here as if you are changing the circumstances.

You continue to DAILY cost me thousands upon thousands of dollars based on your lies and refusal to even attempt to co-parent or be a responsible human being who cares about her daughter.

This past year, we have no less than thirteen (13) e-mails regarding your "kind resolution on our daughter's life" only to end in more legal fees and more accusations. 

You have had no less than five attorney's attempt to make you aware of your detrimental behavior. 

Understand that my want to move on will not be clouded by your frequent and re-occuring requests of a "truce."  We have attempted resolution many, may times and I can not see that in the past few days that your behavior has changed so drastically to warrant a re-consideration.  Realize that I am not fighting you now nor have I ever made this about you, my concerns solely side with our daughter.  If [Daughter] were truly your focus as she has always been mine, this year would have been managed much, much differently.  

It is clear as it has always has been that there will be no other resolution besides a judge ordering you to undergo a mental evaluation and treatment.  The only thing I am certain of is that I do not know what compels you to behave in the manner that you continue to behave in. Unless you have suddenly voluntarily chosen to undergo a psychiatric evaluation by a provider approved by either [Other State Lawyer] or Judge [other state judge], I can assure you that my position is to remain unchanged and THAT is in [Daughter]'s best interest.

[Custodial Dad]

Verified Re: [Daughter]'s health insurance & information

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Mon, Mar 28, 2011 at 7:47 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

I understand that you are claiming that the [Custodial Dad Employer] Atena policy is up to date and valid.

I understand that you are claiming employment with [Custodial Dad Employer].

From: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Cc: [email]@[email].com

Sent: Fri, March 25, 2011 2:25:13 PM

Subject: Re: [Daughter]'s health insurance & information

Your information is incorrect and I have addressed this issue many, many times. In addition, to obtain complementary coverage for [Daughter]'s policy not only do you NOT require her insurance information but any legitimate insurance  company would be able to do so on [Daughter]'s behalf.  As I have come to learn, my Aetna coverage has been the only coverage [Daughter] has ever had in her entire life.

I am curious to know why you are purchasing a family plan of insurance when you are "single" and with no dependents specifically when duplicate coverage from an out-of-state plan is not only redundant but unnecessary.  It just seems to me that you have money to throw around on lawyers, filings and proving a case but have no concern or care to help our daughter on a daily basis.

[Custodial Dad] & [StepMom]

[email]

(XXX XXX) XXX XXX - 6052

If two stand shoulder to shoulder against the gods,

Happy together, the gods themselves are helpless

Against them while they stand so.

~Maxwell Anderson

On Mar 25, 2011, at 2:03 PM, [The Ex] wrote:

[Custodial Dad]:

Please provide [Daughter]'s current and past health care information since March 2010.  I need it immediately to have her receive coverage from my plan and to set up the best complementary coverage for her needs.

I need her eye health insurance and dental also.

Please ensure all info is current and valid when you reply.  Please send documents as email attachments to this address.

As you were fired from [Custodial Dad employer] in June 2009 the insurance cards I have on file from the medical offices in [home state] are invalid to my best knowledge.

Thank you.

[The ex]

[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Mon, Mar 28, 2011 at 7:53 PM

To: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

I am not "claiming" anything.  Can you simply READ what is in front of you?

I understand that you are trying to make a case but all that you are proving is that you are a sick person.  Your attempts are petty, useless and very honestly tiresome to EVERYONE you are dealing with.

You are a very sad and disturbed individual.  Please get the help that you very clearly need.  

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[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Mon, Mar 28, 2011 at 8:07 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Cc: [The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

As I texted, instead of wasting your time emailing me petty and ridiculous things, why not spend the time speaking to our daughter before her bedtime?

Never mind, don't bother answering that question as Its clear this is and has been all about you and has nothing to do with [Daughter].

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