Open door for [Daughter]

[The Ex] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 1, 2011 at 12:23 PM

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[Custodial Dad]:

I am interested in your thoughts on a kind resolution on our daughter's life.

At one point in time we thought well enough of each other to conceive a child. 

The fighting match needs to be over. Here is my truce.  No parent will ever be "right" in their "facts" - and nobody cares- when the child is pulled in the middle. 

Maybe I'm wrong about you.  Maybe you are wrong about me.  And I'm sure [Daughter] only cares about "Dad" and "Mom"- not our thoughts on each other as parents. 

The one thing we have always agreed on is that SHE IS A GREAT KID and we both love her dearly.  She is part of both of us caring enough about each other at one time to bring her into the world.  Whatever the outcome of our time together and our concerns about the other parent, the objective expectation is that [Daughter] will do best knowing both of her parents, her other siblings and loving her step-Mom.

I was pleased to hear that our attorneys shared the same view when they had a child focused meeting yesterday and I hope you are considering the alternatives they discussed.

If [Other State Lawyer] has not yet spoken with you, just let me know your thoughts when he has.

I see some positive steps in you allowing [Daughter] a chance to open her box with me on the phone call yesterday.  I appreciate the contribution [StepMom] has made to [Daughter]'s diet and her time-management.  I have no problem financing -in full- the changes that we can make for [Daughter] as I believe we can move forward with kindness and cooperation. Let's make this better for [Daughter]'s heart. 

Kind Regards,

[The ex]

[Custodial Dad] <[email]@[email].com>

Fri, Apr 1, 2011 at 1:01 PM

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[The ex];

Whatever your thoughts are, I have moved on from the past and certainly what I may or may not have thought of you.  My only obligation towards you is ensuring our daughter has a healthy and nurturing relationship with BOTH of her parents. 

This past year, you have instructed our daughter to lie not only on me but her brother as well which caused her serious mental and emotional anguish.

This past year you have told [Daughter]'s principal, children & youth, the police, her doctors and medical providers and even the parents of her friends that I and/or the rest of her family are in some way abusing our daughter which not only embarrassed her but caused her to feel vulnerable and put upon.

This past year, you have and continue to abuse the various [Home State] agencies based on blatant lies, not facts, not "wrong or right" not even opinion but out-and-out LIES.

You continue to DAILY tell [Daughter] to make the "best" of her life here as if you are changing the circumstances.

You continue to DAILY cost me thousands upon thousands of dollars based on your lies and refusal to even attempt to co-parent or be a responsible human being who cares about her daughter.

This past year, we have no less than thirteen (13) e-mails regarding your "kind resolution on our daughter's life" only to end in more legal fees and more accusations. 

You have had no less than five attorney's attempt to make you aware of your detrimental behavior. 

Understand that my want to move on will not be clouded by your frequent and re-occuring requests of a "truce."  We have attempted resolution many, may times and I can not see that in the past few days that your behavior has changed so drastically to warrant a re-consideration.  Realize that I am not fighting you now nor have I ever made this about you, my concerns solely side with our daughter.  If [Daughter] were truly your focus as she has always been mine, this year would have been managed much, much differently.  

It is clear as it has always has been that there will be no other resolution besides a judge ordering you to undergo a mental evaluation and treatment.  The only thing I am certain of is that I do not know what compels you to behave in the manner that you continue to behave in. Unless you have suddenly voluntarily chosen to undergo a psychiatric evaluation by a provider approved by either [Other State Lawyer] or Judge [other state judge], I can assure you that my position is to remain unchanged and THAT is in [Daughter]'s best interest.

[Custodial Dad]