Text Messages (12/2010)

Me to [The Ex] 12/31/10 6:12 PM 3 days ago
Me: Supper is all done, perfect time to call 6:12 PM


Me to [The Ex] 12/29/10 8:11 PM 5 days ago
Me: Feel free to call 8:11 PM

[The Ex] 12/22/10 7:38 PM 12 days ago Inbox

[The Ex]: Glad to wait until after dinner. I'm here. Thanks. 7:38 PM
Me: Great 7:39 PM




[The Ex] 12/22/10 7:33 AM 13 days ago Inbox

[The Ex]: Please have [daughter] call me during daytime if she will not be in school today. I have students and will take her calls no matter the time. Tnx. 7:26 AM
Me: Glad to hear you ate working, I will forward that to [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]. [daughter] is in school today, if you wish between 8:05 and 8:30 AM is a great time to call her as 7:30 AM
Me: we'll be in the car line 7:30 AM
[The Ex]: Will call at carline. Thanks. 7:31 AM
[The Ex]: For financials let's email and just submit required docs to court. [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] or not- our financial docs are required. Glad to know u want to disclose.Submit anytime 7:33 AM




[The Ex] 12/20/10 8:07 PM 2 weeks ago Inbox

[The Ex]: Please call after cheerleading if dinner will be late. Or call after eight if that gives more time for call. Thanks. 6:42 PM
Me: Please try and not hang up when people are speaking to you. Its quite rude, hello and goodbye will and does suffice. 8:07 PM




[The Ex] 12/19/10 7:52 PM 2 weeks ago Inbox
[The Ex]: Pls call. Tried earlier. Waiting for my girl. 7:13 PM
Me: Call on the house line xxx-503-6052 7:21 PM
Me: Sorry the phone was in use, please call back 7:50 PM
[The Ex]: Ok. Tnx. 7:52 PM




[The Ex] 12/18/10 6:28 PM 2 weeks ago Inbox

[The Ex]: Please call before dinner if dinner will be late. Waiting for my girl. 6:26 PM
Me: OUR daughter is currently eating 6:27 PM
[The Ex]: Ok. 6:28 PM




[The Ex] 12/16/10 7:54 PM 2 weeks ago Inbox


[The Ex]: Just called. You said u r having.a late dinner and will call back when done. Waiting to speak with my girl. Tnx. 7:22 PM
[The Ex]: I just called again. No answer. Again. 7:54 PM

[The Ex] 12/14/10 8:37 AM 3 weeks ago Inbox

 [The Ex]: No call last night again. Please call with [daughter] before school today. Please book flight for her trip for Christmas. 7:27 AM
Me: Feel free to call [daughter] after 8am as we will be in car line -/ AFTER 8am 7:29 AM
[The Ex]: Flight? 7:36 AM
Me: Feel free to call [daughter] after 8am as we will be in car line -/ AFTER 8am 7:36 AM
[The Ex]: I called. Answering person said [daughter] was not there. Number is not available to me for call to my child when u said to call? How so? 8:05 AM
Me: if your done being silly please feel free to cal back 8:06 AM
Me: [daughter] enters school in about 15 minutes do if you are calling you should do so soon 8:13 AM
Me: Miscommunication- please call. My wife wasn't aware I could accept the call. 8:19 AM
[The Ex]: Please call w my daughter tonight. Tnx. Cease you unnecessary and rude comments. Its simple to just call as ordered. 8:32 AM
[The Ex]: If you have a phone then ypu can press one button and call. Anytime is good for me to talk to my child. 8:33 AM
Me: You can still chat RIGHT now 8:33 AM
Me: Then call 8:33 AM
[The Ex]: We will have a minute if I call based on ypu last texts. And I know you won't allow another call tonight when it could be longer. So I. Have no choice but wait. 8:37 AM




Me to [The Ex] 12/12/10 12:15 PM 3 weeks ago
Me: Feel free to call back. Thanks! 12:15 PM





[The Ex] 12/11/10 7:37 PM 3 weeks ago Inbox

[The Ex]: No call. No answer. Please call w my daughter. It is already close to eight. 7:37 PM





[The Ex] 12/8/10 7:26 PM 3 weeks ago Inbox

[The Ex]: No answer. Second day. Please call w my daughter tonight. I am concerned. No return text. Nothing. 6:46 PM
Me: Just in from cheerleading feel free to call now 7:18 PM
Me: And no missed call logged. Check the number and try again, [daughter] is waiting. 7:26 PM



[The Ex] 12/7/10 10:04 PM 3 weeks ago Inbox


[The Ex]: No call. I will call now. 8:30 PM
[The Ex]: No call. I will call now. 8:30 PM
[The Ex]: No answer. Please call w [daughter] even for a few minutes before bed tonight. Tnx. 8:31 PM
[The Ex]: No call. Np response to text. Concerned. Please respond immediately. 10:04 PM



Me to [The Ex] 12/6/10 8:22 PM 4 weeks ago
Me: Please call prior to 8 PM thanks. Your call is cutting into [daughter]'s bedtime. 8:22 PM




Me to [The Ex] 12/5/10 5:34 PM 4 weeks ago
Me: At a party will call later. Thanks. 5:34 PM




[The Ex] 12/3/10 9:09 PM 4 weeks ago Inbox


[The Ex]: Pls call w [daughter]. No call again. Again. 8:35 PM
Me: We honestly forgot and [daughter] is already in bed. Please call prior to 8 pm. Will ensure she calls you tomm. 8:53 PM
[The Ex]: No call. " Forgot." 8:54 PM
Me: Yes, I said we forgot. FORGOT. Had you have called, you would have spoken to her. Clearly you forgot as well. 8:57 PM
[The Ex]: Stop texting me your nonsense. All you have to do is call me with my child for her to talk to Mom. My phone is not for your excuses. Cease this type of texting. 8:58 PM
[The Ex]: Goognight. 8:59 PM
Me: What? I said you forgot as well. You have just as much of an obligation to call as we do. If you want to speak to [daughter], please call prior to 8 pm 9:02 PM
Me: Sorry we forgot, but please feel free to call as well. You have had no problem doing so previously 9:03 PM
Me: But if your want is to build a case to show no contact be prepared for the days that we forget and just document each and every infraction 9:04 PM
Me: because clearly a case is more important than speaking with OUR daughter. Sad to see you can not use the correct possessive adjective. She is OUR daughter 9:08 PM
Me: Goodnight. 9:09 PM



Me to [The Ex] 12/2/10 7:09 PM 4 weeks ago
Me: Please try calling, your voicemail is gull 7:09 PM
Me: Full 7:09 PM


2 messages

Mom requests proof. Re: Monm asks; What is the purpose of this email? - unadressed issues.

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> Tue, Jan 4, 2011 at 10:00 AM
To: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:
Please have your receipts of your mailings to me ready- certified to verify that you actually sent ANYTHING.  Any emailed attachments are verifiable.

Just saying so is NOT enough- (Re: "You are a writer because you SAY you write."- and such history... you get me?)

A 'red cent" eh?  Neither for you nor I to say.

And- please prepare your records of ALL payments to [daughter] for child support.  Back it up.
  

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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, January 3, 2011 8:04:47 PM
Subject: Re: Monm asks; What is the purpose of this email? - unadressed issues.

Clearly these issues that you raise are not only redundant but fuel to your fire/paranoia.  I won't address them (again.)

[daughter]'s school is able to send you any school related items however, I have sent you many items and [daughter] has mailed you work herself.

You removed our daughter from ALL contact with me and you want me to pay what?! When your first left I paid and paid and paid. And then you disappeared with our daughter... And when I did locate once again her I paid ABOVE and BEYOND state guidelines... You are hilarious to think I owe you a red cent. You however have a judgement against you but being you live like a squatter and don't own anything/mooch off of everyone around you... I'll never see a dime of the drawn out litigation expenses and wasted time.

And lastly, what checks? I have not received anything from you whatsoever.

[Custodial Dad]

On Jan 3, 2011, at 7:36 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:

[Custodial Dad]:
What is the purpose of this email to me?
Issues you have left unaddressed from my emails are important - more important than this message:
1.  Will you agree to me buying [daughter]'s school breakfast/ lunch?  If no, why not?  Are you able to qualify for government aid for her school meals due to your unemployment? Why not allow her to be fed by the school as other families do in your financial situation?

2. Will you set up homework time for [daughter] with me?  Can you send homework each week for me? Can you send some of [daughter]'s schoolwork for me?

3. Can you send me pictures of her first day of school?
4.  Can I have a picture of [daughter] in her glasses?
5.  What rules are you insisting that she follows about using her glasses?

6. Did you seek medical care for my child when she was sick in the last week of December?    What was the outcome?

7.  What time can you offer for future time share?  Will you share [daughter]'s time at Easter- or anytime?
8.  Why won;t you cash the checks I sent for [daughter]'s care?  Why won't you work with me to set up child support from me to [daughter]- through payment to you?

9.  Why not settle the back support you owe [daughter] from 2005 to 2010?
Please- Can you take the time to address these points?

Thank you for your consideration of this request.
[The Ex]
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From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 31, 2010 11:05:05 PM
Subject: Re: calls recorded and repeatedly interrupted- no answer on your line after calls cut for child and Mother

One last note... Your inability to recognize that simple fact that [daughter] is just as much my daughter as she is yours, shows that you have never had any intention of allowing me any chance to have a normal relationship with [daughter].  Its very sad but also very telling to see that you can not bring yourself to even share the proper noun....

And she isn't "the child", or "child," nor am I "father." You are separating a very human aspect of this situation.  Just as you are 'mom,' I am simply her Da Da as I have always been and as I always will be.

Its the new year, lets work on changing our patterns of writing/speech and maybe the behaviors and attitudes will changes along side of them as well.
On Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 10:13 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
Note:
Last night's call- recording on/ off repeated and interrupted child sharing with Mom and [other state friend].

Tonight's call- New Year's Eve- Call cut mid sentence - I tried to call back.  Voicemail only heard.  I tried later again- voicemail only.

At least allow my child to talk without the interruption of your recording equiptment and allow her to have a chance to say goodbyes to her Mother.

Please facilitate adequate phone contact for my daughter's phone communication.

(Please spare me your useless banter- you have the recorded calls and we all have phone logs.  All will be required in court at the right time.  No need to 'defend' with your version.   Just change these behaviors for the child's phone contact. )
Thanks.
[The Ex]

--
[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185


~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~




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[Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 at 10:16 AM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>

Just stop your non sense already. I am done indulging your insanity, as are the multitude of lawyers who have dropped your case for that very reason.

I proved my case in court. It's up to you to prove that your insanity is not harmful to [daughter] and not to me.

Because you have refused all the options I have given to you, I have nothing more to say on this matter and especially to you.

Have a good day.
[Custodial Dad]
[Quoted text hidden]

Please verify the Eight calls you claim I made Re: calls recorded and repeatedly interrupted- no answer on your line after calls cut for child and Mother

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 at 7:23 PM
To: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:
Please emial the times and dispositin of the EIGHT calls you say I made.  I am interested to see your detail of this.
Thanks.
[The Ex]

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From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 31, 2010 10:45:58 PM
Subject: Re: calls recorded and repeatedly interrupted- no answer on your line after calls cut for child and Mother

Why are you noting these things to me? Like you said, the phone logs will reflect the true and actual record as it has done so in the past.

Why are you bothering to email we when you you do not want to hear any response?

Yes, I can see that you called EIGHT times today. Why can't you leave a voicemail and wait for a call back?  If we are available, we accept the call.  If we are not, we will call you back or text as we always do. Eight times is excessive, don't you agree?

And since you are noting things, please note that our phone line died after [daughter] spent nearly an hour on the telephone. Actually, never mind, you will believe whatever it is you want to.  You are right this is useless because you will believe whatever it is you wish with no regard to reality. If you don't want a response, note it on your own accord or otherwise expect my reiteration of reality.

Have a good night.
[Custodial Dad]


On Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 10:13 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:

Note:
Last night's call- recording on/ off repeated and interrupted child sharing with Mom and [other state friend].

Tonight's call- New Year's Eve- Call cut mid sentence - I tried to call back.  Voicemail only heard.  I tried later again- voicemail only.

At least allow my child to talk without the interruption of your recording equiptment and allow her to have a chance to say goodbyes to her Mother.

Please facilitate adequate phone contact for my daughter's phone communication.

(Please spare me your useless banter- you have the recorded calls and we all have phone logs.  All will be required in court at the right time.  No need to 'defend' with your version.   Just change these behaviors for the child's phone contact. )
Thanks.
[The Ex]

--
[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185
~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~


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[Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 at 7:29 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>


No. Thank you.

[Custodial Dad]
[Quoted text hidden]

Mom asks: What permits Father's authority to act? Re: Father denies make-up time for non-compliance with Christmas time share order Re: Reasons for Denail of Christmas for [daughter]? - Mom's inquiry

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 at 7:45 PM
To: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>


[Custodial Dad]:
What are your newfound credentials to make these statements?
What do you believe qualifies you to determine any other person's mental health?
What gives you such authority to 'prescribe' a mental health evaluation for anyone?
What basis do you have to determine the 'abuse' allegations you made in these emailed messages over the months regarding my care of my daughter?
What allows you to defy the court order- all on your own decision?
What makes you believe you have such authority to refuse to comply with a COURT order from a JUDGE?

Please, share on your thought processes and your facts.
I am very curious to read your response.
[The Ex]



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From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 31, 2010 5:27:21 PM
Subject: Re: Father denies make-up time for non-compliance with Christmas time share order Re: Reasons for Denail of Christmas for [daughter]? - Mom's inquiry

I have done nothing BUT cooperate.  And your refusal to compromise is based on ...?? ... These are the crossroads we are at and have been since her birth.

What is apparent is that you will not even entertain the idea to seek a SIMPLE evaluation and/or the help you so desperately need (again.)

[daughter] needs you in her life, but she needs you mentally healthy and whole. I will not put [daughter]'s safety at risk as she still bears the PHYSICAL and EMOTIONAL scars from her last visit with you.

I have given you viable alternatives.  We can move forward but as I said, the ball is in your court.  If you do not want to get an evaluation, I have offered to host time-share outside of school at a PUBLIC location while you are in the area.

And I have suggested that you take the time to visit with [daughter]'s therapist at a SCHEDULED appointment time (please do not barge in on him unannounced) so that he can better aid OUR daughter in her adjustment, and maybe a professional can point out the damage that you are doing to OUR daughter... whether unintentional or not.

I am trying my best to be clear with you.  Please read the words that are written and do not assume what it is you THINK I mean.
On Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 3:53 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
Again, I see your answer is "NO."
It is clear you will not cooperate for [daughter] to have time with her Mom.
[The Ex]

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From: [Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Cc: [Custodial Dad]@[email].com
Sent: Thu, December 30, 2010 6:51:36 PM
Subject: Re: Reasons for Denail of Christmas for [daughter]? - Mom's inquiry

I did email you several times and in detail.  You emailed me with the subject line
"Restated request to cease eamils [sic] on Father's "position"
What specifically are you asking for at this juncture?  I am certain your inbox will be able to answer any and all questions you may have on my "position."  Further, the motion that my attorney had filed was explained in detail to your latest two attorneys, they may be able to better clarify any ambiguities.
[Custodial Dad]

On Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 6:38 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
 Please detail your reasons for denial of Christmas for [daughter] with her mother.

The house awaits her with Christmas still alive here.

Care to arrange the next long weekend per school schedule for me to fly her to her [other state] home for a belated Christmas?

I am prepared to have my daughter at any time.

This time is seperate from any time I request in the months to come.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
--
[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185


~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~


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[Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 at 8:22 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>


I am not the only one questioning your sanity, in actuality the general consensus is in agreement with me.

Your diagnosis is not new, as you and I both know as you did leave many records in my possession.

You tell me me I'm being redundant but you ask the same questions and I give you the same answers. You do know what the "definition of insanity is," right?

And lastly, where are you residing? Where do you say [daughter] spent her time in [other state]? How often do you call per day? Do you schedule visitation with [daughter] directly? Do you have your family scheduling visits with [daughter]? Are you still bad-mouthing me and her family? What precisely have you said to Principal [teacher] and [daughter]'s medical/dental providers or children & youth or the police? Have you scheduled any time with our daughters therapist?  Do you answer any questions directly posed to you?

My statements are well documented and with the proper authorities.

Have a good night.
[Custodial Dad]
[Quoted text hidden]


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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 at 10:06 AM
To: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>


"General consensus"?

I knew your response would be interesting.
Thanks.
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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, January 3, 2011 8:22:16 PM
Subject: Re: Mom asks: What permits Father's authority to act? Re: Father denies make-up time for non-compliance with Christmas time share order Re: Reasons for Denail of Christmas for [daughter]? - Mom's inquiry

[Quoted text hidden]



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[Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Tue, Jan 4, 2011 at 10:23 AM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>


Need me to define general consensus or will google suffice?

Care to address the questions asked or will you choose to dodge and evade as usual? Where are you squatting these days?
[Quoted text hidden]

Monm asks; What is the purpose of this email? - unadressed issues.

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 at 7:36 PM
To: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:
What is the purpose of this email to me?
Issues you have left unaddressed from my emails are important - more important than this message:

1.  Will you agree to me buying [daughter]'s school breakfast/ lunch?  If no, why not?  Are you able to qualify for government aid for her school meals due to your unemployment? Why not allow her to be fed by the school as other families do in your financial situation?

2. Will you set up homework time for [daughter] with me?  Can you send homework each week for me? Can you send some of [daughter]'s schoolwork for me?

3. Can you send me pictures of her first day of school?
4.  Can I have a picture of [daughter] in her glasses?
5.  What rules are you insisting that she follows about using her glasses?

6. Did you seek medical care for my child when she was sick in the last week of December?    What was the outcome?

7.  What time can you offer for future time share?  Will you share [daughter]'s time at Easter- or anytime?
8.  Why won;t you cash the checks I sent for [daughter]'s care?  Why won't you work with me to set up child support from me to [daughter]- through payment to you?

9.  Why not settle the back support you owe [daughter] from 2005 to 2010?
Please- Can you take the time to address these points?

Thank you for your consideration of this request.
[The Ex]
________________________________________
From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 31, 2010 11:05:05 PM
Subject: Re: calls recorded and repeatedly interrupted- no answer on your line after calls cut for child and Mother

One last note... Your inability to recognize that simple fact that [daughter] is just as much my daughter as she is yours, shows that you have never had any intention of allowing me any chance to have a normal relationship with [daughter].  Its very sad but also very telling to see that you can not bring yourself to even share the proper noun....

And she isn't "the child", or "child," nor am I "father." You are separating a very human aspect of this situation.  Just as you are 'mom,' I am simply her Da Da as I have always been and as I always will be.

Its the new year, lets work on changing our patterns of writing/speech and maybe the behaviors and attitudes will changes along side of them as well.

On Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 10:13 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
Note:
Last night's call- recording on/ off repeated and interrupted child sharing with Mom and [other state friend].

Tonight's call- New Year's Eve- Call cut mid sentence - I tried to call back.  Voicemail only heard.  I tried later again- voicemail only.

At least allow my child to talk without the interruption of your recording equiptment and allow her to have a chance to say goodbyes to her Mother.

Please facilitate adequate phone contact for my daughter's phone communication.

(Please spare me your useless banter- you have the recorded calls and we all have phone logs.  All will be required in court at the right time.  No need to 'defend' with your version.   Just change these behaviors for the child's phone contact. )
Thanks.
[The Ex]

--
[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185


~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~



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[Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 at 8:04 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>

Clearly these issues that you raise are not only redundant but fuel to your fire/paranoia.  I won't address them (again.)

[daughter]'s school is able to send you any school related items however, I have sent you many items and [daughter] has mailed you work herself.

You removed our daughter from ALL contact with me and you want me to pay what?! When your first left I paid and paid and paid. And then you disappeared with our daughter... And when I did locate once again her I paid ABOVE and BEYOND state guidelines... You are hilarious to think I owe you a red cent. You however have a judgement against you but being you live like a squatter and don't own anything/mooch off of everyone around you... I'll never see a dime of the drawn out litigation expenses and wasted time.

And lastly, what checks? I have not received anything from you whatsoever.

[Custodial Dad]
[Quoted text hidden]

Prepare your records. Re: Please verify the Eight calls you claim I made Re: calls recorded and repeatedly interrupted- no answer on your line after calls cut for child and Mother

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 at 7:48 PM
To: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>


That's ok.  Just have it ready to present to me later.  I will as more formally.
[The Ex]

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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, January 3, 2011 7:29:40 PM
Subject: Re: Please verify the Eight calls you claim I made Re: calls recorded and repeatedly interrupted- no answer on your line after calls cut for child and Mother


No. Thank you.
[Custodial Dad]

On Jan 3, 2011, at 7:23 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
Please emial the times and dispositin of the EIGHT calls you say I made.  I am interested to see your detail of this.
Thanks.
[The Ex]

________________________________________
From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 31, 2010 10:45:58 PM
Subject: Re: calls recorded and repeatedly interrupted- no answer on your line after calls cut for child and Mother

Why are you noting these things to me? Like you said, the phone logs will reflect the true and actual record as it has done so in the past.

Why are you bothering to email we when you you do not want to hear any response?

Yes, I can see that you called EIGHT times today. Why can't you leave a voicemail and wait for a call back?  If we are available, we accept the call.  If we are not, we will call you back or text as we always do. Eight times is excessive, don't you agree?

And since you are noting things, please note that our phone line died after [daughter] spent nearly an hour on the telephone. Actually, never mind, you will believe whatever it is you want to.  You are right this is useless because you will believe whatever it is you wish with no regard to reality. If you don't want a response, note it on your own accord or otherwise expect my reiteration of reality.

Have a good night.
[Custodial Dad]





On Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 10:13 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
Note:
Last night's call- recording on/ off repeated and interrupted child sharing with Mom and [other state friend].

Tonight's call- New Year's Eve- Call cut mid sentence - I tried to call back.  Voicemail only heard.  I tried later again- voicemail only.

At least allow my child to talk without the interruption of your recording equiptment and allow her to have a chance to say goodbyes to her Mother.

Please facilitate adequate phone contact for my daughter's phone communication.

(Please spare me your useless banter- you have the recorded calls and we all have phone logs.  All will be required in court at the right time.  No need to 'defend' with your version.   Just change these behaviors for the child's phone contact. )
Thanks.
[The Ex]




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[Custodial Dad]
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~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~




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[Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Mon, Jan 3, 2011 at 8:24 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>


For which attorney this time?
[Quoted text hidden]

calls recorded and repeatedly interrupted- no answer on your line after calls cut for child and Mothere

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 10:13 PM
To: the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com
Cc: [Custodial Dad]@[email].com

Note:
Last night's call- recording on/ off repeated and interrupted child sharing with Mom and [other state friend].

Tonight's call- New Year's Eve- Call cut mid sentence - I tried to call back.  Voicemail only heard.  I tried later again- voicemail only.

At least allow my child to talk without the interruption of your recording equiptment and allow her to have a chance to say goodbyes to her Mother.

Please facilitate adequate phone contact for my daughter's phone communication.

(Please spare me your useless banter- you have the recorded calls and we all have phone logs.  All will be required in court at the right time.  No need to 'defend' with your version.   Just change these behaviors for the child's phone contact. )
Thanks.
[The Ex]


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[Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 10:45 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>

Why are you noting these things to me? Like you said, the phone logs will reflect the true and actual record as it has done so in the past.

Why are you bothering to email we when you you do not want to hear any response?

Yes, I can see that you called EIGHT times today. Why can't you leave a voicemail and wait for a call back?  If we are available, we accept the call.  If we are not, we will call you back or text as we always do. Eight times is excessive, don't you agree?

And since you are noting things, please note that our phone line died after [daughter] spent nearly an hour on the telephone. Actually, never mind, you will believe whatever it is you want to.  You are right this is useless because you will believe whatever it is you wish with no regard to reality. If you don't want a response, note it on your own accord or otherwise expect my reiteration of reality.

Have a good night.
[Custodial Dad]
[Quoted text hidden]
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[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185


~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~


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[Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 11:05 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>

One last note... Your inability to recognize that simple fact that [daughter] is just as much my daughter as she is yours, shows that you have never had any intention of allowing me any chance to have a normal relationship with [daughter].  Its very sad but also very telling to see that you can not bring yourself to even share the proper noun....

And she isn't "the child", or "child," nor am I "father." You are separating a very human aspect of this situation.  Just as you are 'mom,' I am simply her Da Da as I have always been and as I always will be.

Its the new year, lets work on changing our patterns of writing/speech and maybe the behaviors and attitudes will changes along side of them as well.

On Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 10:13 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Quoted text hidden]

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[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185
~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~

Father denies make-up time for non-compliance with Christmas time share order Re: Reasons for Denail of Christmas for [daughter]? - Mom's inquiry

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 3:53 PM
To: [Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
[Custodial Dad]:


Again, I see your answer is "NO."
It is clear you will not cooperate for [daughter] to have time with her Mom.
[The Ex]


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From: [Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Cc: [Custodial Dad]@[email].com
Sent: Thu, December 30, 2010 6:51:36 PM
Subject: Re: Reasons for Denail of Christmas for [daughter]? - Mom's inquiry

I did email you several times and in detail.  You emailed me with the subject line
"Restated request to cease eamils [sic] on Father's "position"
What specifically are you asking for at this juncture?  I am certain your inbox will be able to answer any and all questions you may have on my "position."  Further, the motion that my attorney had filed was explained in detail to your latest two attorneys, they may be able to better clarify any ambiguities.
[Custodial Dad]

On Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 6:38 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
 Please detail your reasons for denial of Christmas for [daughter] with her mother.

The house awaits her with Christmas still alive here.

Care to arrange the next long weekend per school schedule for me to fly her to her [other state] home for a belated Christmas?

I am prepared to have my daughter at any time.

This time is seperate from any time I request in the months to come.
Thanks.
[The Ex]




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[Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com> Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 5:27 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
I have done nothing BUT cooperate.  And your refusal to compromise is based on ...?? ... These are the crossroads we are at and have been since her birth.

What is apparent is that you will not even entertain the idea to seek a SIMPLE evaluation and/or the help you so desperately need (again.)

[daughter] needs you in her life, but she needs you mentally healthy and whole. I will not put [daughter]'s safety at risk as she still bears the PHYSICAL and EMOTIONAL scars from her last visit with you.

I have given you viable alternatives.  We can move forward but as I said, the ball is in your court.  If you do not want to get an evaluation, I have offered to host time-share outside of school at a PUBLIC location while you are in the area.

And I have suggested that you take the time to visit with [daughter]'s therapist at a SCHEDULED appointment time (please do not barge in on him unannounced) so that he can better aid OUR daughter in her adjustment, and maybe a professional can point out the damage that you are doing to OUR daughter... whether unintentional or not.

I am trying my best to be clear with you.  Please read the words that are written and do not assume what it is you THINK I mean.
On Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 3:53 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
Again, I see your answer is "NO."
It is clear you will not cooperate for [daughter] to have time with her Mom.
[The Ex]

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From: [Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Cc: [Custodial Dad]@[email].com
Sent: Thu, December 30, 2010 6:51:36 PM
Subject: Re: Reasons for Denail of Christmas for [daughter]? - Mom's inquiry

I did email you several times and in detail.  You emailed me with the subject line
"Restated request to cease eamils [sic] on Father's "position"
What specifically are you asking for at this juncture?  I am certain your inbox will be able to answer any and all questions you may have on my "position."  Further, the motion that my attorney had filed was explained in detail to your latest two attorneys, they may be able to better clarify any ambiguities.
[Custodial Dad]

On Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 6:38 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
 Please detail your reasons for denial of Christmas for [daughter] with her mother.

The house awaits her with Christmas still alive here.

Care to arrange the next long weekend per school schedule for me to fly her to her [other state] home for a belated Christmas?

I am prepared to have my daughter at any time.

This time is seperate from any time I request in the months to come.
Thanks.
[The Ex]

--
[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185
~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~

Father denies January 2011 for child with MOm in [HOME STATE] Re: [daughter] for January 2011 time-share- Mom's request

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Fri, Dec 31, 2010 at 3:51 PM
To: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:
I got your answer:  No.
It is clear.
[The Ex]


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From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Thu, December 30, 2010 7:28:11 PM
Subject: Re: [daughter] for January 2011 time-share- Mom's request

ANSWER: No, I find your behavior and actions to be a DANGER to [daughter].  At one point you tell me I am redundant and alternatively, you are asking for clarification. Location does not change my fear for [daughter]'s safety...

TIME: If you would like to see [daughter], outside of the time I am sure you are planning to see her in school, I will happily make accommodations to allow you the opportunity to see you, with supervision as is spelled out in the motion and in the emails and letters written to you.

REQUEST: Please make time to see Dr. [home state therapist] while you are here, I am sure with ample time, he can make arrangements to meet with you at a SCHEDULED appointment with or without [daughter]. If you arrange a time with him specifically, I will ensure that our daughter can be available.

COUNTER OFFER: Again, if you can afford a flight and accommodations in [HOME  STATE], I would suggest you use your resources to find an acceptable psychologist to evaluate your mental stability. Upon that evaluation and your acceptance of any or all of those recommendations, my requirements are sure to change or not, as the situation/recommendations warrants. If you would prefer to do it up here, I can provide you a doctor or possibly two that does the evaluations in [HOME  STATE] that are court appointed/approved. I believe even Dr. [home state therapist] can point to a psychologist who is able to do an evaluation.

QUALIFICATION: Lastly, your demands of police escorts/police station exchanges and notarized statements are absurd.  I have no intentions of indulging your paranoid behavior. The school is aware of the requirements as they have not only dealt with you in the past but have a copy of the FULL order on file.

INFORMATIONAL REQUEST: And as a PS.  Where are you residing these days? This concerns me as it is clear you have no 'roots' in any particular locale and are, again, trying to remain off the grid for some particular reason.

[Custodial Dad]

On Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 6:35 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:

[Custodial Dad]:

Request: Please let me know if I can have [daughter] for the first week of school, as you determine dates and times.
Time:  I can keep her throughout the first weekend after school resumes, returning her to school on Monday, for you to resume your pick up on Monday afterschool.
Written Verification: Please provide written authorizations to the school and to me- as notarized letters to confirm these arrangements- as you decide the details.

I have accomodations in [home  state] and I can transport her to and from school for the week.
Please understand that her time with Mom is important for her.
I will carry all her expences, including all meals and accomodations for her for the week- in full- no costs to you.

Thanks for your consideration.
[The Ex]

[daughter] for January 2011 time-share- Mom's request

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 6:35 PM
To: the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com
Cc: [Custodial Dad]@[email].com

[Custodial Dad]:

Request: Please let me know if I can have [daughter] for the first week of school, as you determine dates and times.
Time:  I can keep her throughout the first weekend after school resumes, returning her to school on Monday, for you to resume your pick up on Monday afterschool.
Written Verification: Please provide written authorizations to the school and to me- as notarized letters to confirm these arrangements- as you decide the details.

I have accomodations in [home  state] and I can transport her to and from school for the week.
Please understand that her time with Mom is important for her.
I will carry all her expences, including all meals and accomodations for her for the week- in full- no costs to you.

Thanks for your consideration.
[The Ex]


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[Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 7:28 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>

ANSWER: No, I find your behavior and actions to be a DANGER to [daughter].  At one point you tell me I am redundant and alternatively, you are asking for clarification. Location does not change my fear for [daughter]'s safety...

TIME: If you would like to see [daughter], outside of the time I am sure you are planning to see her in school, I will happily make accommodations to allow you the opportunity to see you, with supervision as is spelled out in the motion and in the emails and letters written to you.

REQUEST: Please make time to see Dr. [home state therapist] while you are here, I am sure with ample time, he can make arrangements to meet with you at a SCHEDULED appointment with or without [daughter]. If you arrange a time with him specifically, I will ensure that our daughter can be available.

COUNTER OFFER: Again, if you can afford a flight and accommodations in [HOME  STATE], I would suggest you use your resources to find an acceptable psychologist to evaluate your mental stability. Upon that evaluation and your acceptance of any or all of those recommendations, my requirements are sure to change or not, as the situation/recommendations warrants. If you would prefer to do it up here, I can provide you a doctor or possibly two that does the evaluations in [HOME  STATE] that are court appointed/approved. I believe even Dr. [home state therapist] can point to a psychologist who is able to do an evaluation.

QUALIFICATION: Lastly, your demands of police escorts/police station exchanges and notarized statements are absurd.  I have no intentions of indulging your paranoid behavior. The school is aware of the requirements as they have not only dealt with you in the past but have a copy of the FULL order on file.

INFORMATIONAL REQUEST: And as a PS.  Where are you residing these days? This concerns me as it is clear you have no 'roots' in any particular locale and are, again, trying to remain off the grid for some particular reason.

[Custodial Dad]
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Reasons for Denail of Christmas for [daughter]? - Mom's inquiry

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 6:38 PM
To: the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com
Cc: [Custodial Dad]@[email].com

[Custodial Dad]:

Please detail your reasons for denial of Christmas for [daughter] with her mother.

The house awaits her with Christmas still alive here.

Care to arrange the next long weekend per school schedule for me to fly her to her [other state] home for a belated Christmas?

I am prepared to have my daughter at any time.

This time is seperate from any time I request in the months to come.
Thanks.
[The Ex]


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[Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Thu, Dec 30, 2010 at 6:51 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Cc: [Custodial Dad]@[email].com
Bcc: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

I did email you several times and in detail.  You emailed me with the subject line
"Restated request to cease eamils [sic] on Father's "position"
What specifically are you asking for at this juncture?  I am certain your inbox will be able to answer any and all questions you may have on my "position."  Further, the motion that my attorney had filed was explained in detail to your latest two attorneys, they may be able to better clarify any ambiguities.
[Custodial Dad]
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[daughter]'s health

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Wed, Dec 22, 2010 at 3:41 PM
To: the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com

[Custodial Dad]:
Please take [daughter] to her pediatrician.  She continues to sound really stuffy and cough is not going away.  I would appreciate to know from her doctor if the fever is related- or not related-to any respiratory infection she may have.  Please take her in to the medical doctor so we can be sure.
Thanks.
[The Ex]

Restated request to cease eamils on Father's "position" Re: Father cancels ordered Christmas for Child with Mom Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Mon, Dec 20, 2010 at 9:53 AM
To: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad].  Just have the fare for [daughter] as per order- round trip- in fact.
I do not have additional funds for my [HOME  STATE] hotel, etc which will be required given your most unrealistic proposal and frustration of my child's time to [other state] this Christmas.
Please stop email on your repeated position.
Based on your refusal to comply, however justified you feel, I have spoken to [daughter] on revising our expectations for holiday plans for whenever she is able to come to her [other state] home.  Christmas will be there in your house in 2010.  Then, she will just have to have another Christmas with Mom later.
That's all.  I cannot repeat this futile topic with you.
Regards,
[The Ex]



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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 17, 2010 8:52:27 AM
Subject: Re: Father cancels ordered Christmas for Child with Mom Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

Again, I hope that you are willing to put your pride aside and choose a viable alternative to seeing [daughter] this holiday.
[Custodial Dad]

On Dec 17, 2010, at 8:17 AM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
You refuse repeatedly to allow cort ordered time or any additional time.
The phone call log speaks loudly - spare us the emailed fabrications, please.
I have NEVER refused having time with my child for Christmas.
In fact, I have offered to pay for her trip in full- as I did this summer.
Please let me know when you will allow [daughter] to her Mother, if not Christmas.  Anytime is a good time.  I am prepared to have my daughter at ANYTIME.
[The Ex]



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From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, December 15, 2010 10:55:46 PM
Subject: Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

[daughter] does know that she is not going to [other state] for this Christmas.  Your insistence of making her tell you that she is coming is hurtful to [daughter] and is making her uncomfortable.  Your telling [daughter] that it "won't be Christmas"  is disregarding and disrespecting of the fact that she has a home and will be celebrating Christmas with her family ... and while YOUR Christmas will be delayed based upon your refusals, [daughter] will indeed have a Christmas at Christmas time surrounded by family and friends.  We have discussed this at length with her therapist which is why, at his encouragement, she asked if she would be seeing you in [HOME  STATE] this christmas.

Your refusal to actually hear what our child is saying to you has resulted in her now telling you she is watching a movie (when she's not) or simply that she wants to go.  She was told that if you make her feel uncomfortable in anyway shape or form or that you are encouraging her to speak in code, that she has the power and ability to end the call. Clearly she is electing to use that ability.

I do want to make a suggestion to you, [daughter] has a lot to talk to you about but she is unable to get a word in edgewise.  Feel free to ask her about cheerleading, her school, her friends and then LISTEN.  She has a lot of great, wonderful things going on in her world that she is wanting to speak with you about but she feels as though you can't stop talking long enough to listen to her.

Again, I hope that you are willing to put your pride aside and choose a viable alternative to seeing [daughter] this holiday.
Have a good night.
[Custodial Dad]


On Wed, Dec 1, 2010 at 6:31 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
I reside in [other state] -- you know-- in [daughter]'s home.  I will not travel to [HOME  STATE] for obvious reasons.  I will be here waiting for my child's flight information.
OR... Let me know the tiems and dates agreeable and I will book her airfare.
OK?  Please. Please. Please.  Let her come home for Christmas.
[The Ex]

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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Cc: "[Custodial Dad]@[email].com" <[Custodial Dad]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, December 1, 2010 8:53:32 AM
Subject: Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

I do want [daughter] to have the ability to visit with you for Christmas but it is my job to keep her safe and mentally/physically unharmed.  By your past and current actions, I do not believe she will be safe with you.

I gave you two viable alternatives to ensure [daughter] spends time with you. For [daughter]'s sake, I hope you at the very least come visit her here OR to allow us all a chance to move forward, you get a psychological evaluation.

The ball is in your court as I am not budging on my requirements and I can assure you the court will agree.

[Custodial Dad]

On Dec 1, 2010, at 8:04 AM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
I am pleading with you to PLEASE let [daughter] come for Chirstmas.
This has been her Home for 6 years.
It is important for her to be in her home and see her mother.
It's Christmas.  Her friends are all waiting for her.
Please let her come home to [other state] for Christmas.  Please.
I'm begging.
[The Ex]
--
[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185


~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~



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[Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Mon, Dec 20, 2010 at 3:15 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>, [Custodial Dad] <[Custodial Dad]@[email].com>

My replies are contained within the message:

On Mon, Dec 20, 2010 at 9:53 AM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad].  Just have the fare for [daughter] as per order- round trip- in fact.

I am unsure what you mean by the above statement.

I do not have additional funds for my [HOME  STATE] hotel, etc which will be required given your most unrealistic proposal and frustration of my child's time to [other state] this Christmas.

My proposal is not unrealistic and certainly warranted.  I am uncertain where you believe I said you needed to have a hotel in [HOME  STATE].  What I said was that I would have acceptable accommodations to allow you the chance to visit with [daughter] this holiday.  I had assumed that you would be able to stay with your mother and travel to [HOME  STATE], as you did for the month and a half that you were in the area for September/October.

Please stop email on your repeated position.

If you do not want my reply, please stop emailing me on the same matter.

Based on your refusal to comply, however justified you feel, I have spoken to [daughter] on revising our expectations for holiday plans for whenever she is able to come to her [other state] home.


As I have said, [daughter] was and is well aware of the situation as it was discussed at length with her therapist.  I am very grateful that you are refraining from putting [daughter] in such an awkward position in regards to Christmas.  And while I am grateful to share ANY time with [daughter], especially Christmas, my statements are based on your current behavior and not any attempt to frustrate [daughter]'s contact with you.  Like I stated, my concerns have and continue to be validated and said concerns have been mirrored, in fact, by several people.

Christmas will be there in your house in 2010.  Then, she will just have to have another Christmas with Mom later.

I had hoped that you would put aside your feelings and visit with [daughter].  If you do change your mind, even if not the prescribed time as spelled out, we can accommodate your visit to [HOME  STATE] this holiday season as I am certain [daughter] wants to visit with you.

That's all.  I cannot repeat this futile topic with you.

The topic is actually not futile.  I have given you options and you are refusing to act on the options given to you, for whatever reason.
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Please Reconsider Re: Father cancels ordered Christmas for Child with Mom Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Fri, Dec 17, 2010 at 8:58 AM
To: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:
This kind of action to sever time-share hurts [daughter] more than you can imagine.
Your emails reflect an consistent effort to prevent time-share- Since March 2010.  I ask repeatedly for time with my child.  You refuse always.
COSTS rationale:  Please evaluate the costs related to my travel, lodging, Christmas preparations, and transportation
as compared to my purchase of a ticket for [daughter] to come to her home in [other state].
It is less expense for me to fly her here to [other state] than for me afford the costs of coming to [HOME  STATE].
TIME considerations:  Though I will take the <48 hours of Christmas ordered, please consider extending the <48 hours required time share to a longer time share period and I will book her flight accordingly.
Please condider following the order and fostering this contact with considerations to time and money- at least.
[The Ex]



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From: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 17, 2010 8:17:17 AM
Subject: Father cancels ordered Christmas for Child with Mom Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

[Custodial Dad]:
You refuse repeatedly to allow cort ordered time or any additional time.
The phone call log speaks loudly - spare us the emailed fabrications, please.
I have NEVER refused having time with my child for Christmas.
In fact, I have offered to pay for her trip in full- as I did this summer.
Please let me know when you will allow [daughter] to her Mother, if not Christmas.  Anytime is a good time.  I am prepared to have my daughter at ANYTIME.
[The Ex]



________________________________________
From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, December 15, 2010 10:55:46 PM
Subject: Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

[daughter] does know that she is not going to [other state] for this Christmas.  Your insistence of making her tell you that she is coming is hurtful to [daughter] and is making her uncomfortable.  Your telling [daughter] that it "won't be Christmas"  is disregarding and disrespecting of the fact that she has a home and will be celebrating Christmas with her family ... and while YOUR Christmas will be delayed based upon your refusals, [daughter] will indeed have a Christmas at Christmas time surrounded by family and friends.  We have discussed this at length with her therapist which is why, at his encouragement, she asked if she would be seeing you in [HOME  STATE] this christmas.

Your refusal to actually hear what our child is saying to you has resulted in her now telling you she is watching a movie (when she's not) or simply that she wants to go.  She was told that if you make her feel uncomfortable in anyway shape or form or that you are encouraging her to speak in code, that she has the power and ability to end the call. Clearly she is electing to use that ability.

I do want to make a suggestion to you, [daughter] has a lot to talk to you about but she is unable to get a word in edgewise.  Feel free to ask her about cheerleading, her school, her friends and then LISTEN.  She has a lot of great, wonderful things going on in her world that she is wanting to speak with you about but she feels as though you can't stop talking long enough to listen to her.

Again, I hope that you are willing to put your pride aside and choose a viable alternative to seeing [daughter] this holiday.
Have a good night.
[Custodial Dad]


On Wed, Dec 1, 2010 at 6:31 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
I reside in [other state] -- you know-- in [daughter]'s home.  I will not travel to [HOME  STATE] for obvious reasons.  I will be here waiting for my child's flight information.
OR... Let me know the tiems and dates agreeable and I will book her airfare.
OK?  Please. Please. Please.  Let her come home for Christmas.
[The Ex]

________________________________________
From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Cc: "[Custodial Dad]@[email].com" <[Custodial Dad]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, December 1, 2010 8:53:32 AM
Subject: Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

I do want [daughter] to have the ability to visit with you for Christmas but it is my job to keep her safe and mentally/physically unharmed.  By your past and current actions, I do not believe she will be safe with you.

I gave you two viable alternatives to ensure [daughter] spends time with you. For [daughter]'s sake, I hope you at the very least come visit her here OR to allow us all a chance to move forward, you get a psychological evaluation.

The ball is in your court as I am not budging on my requirements and I can assure you the court will agree.

[Custodial Dad]

On Dec 1, 2010, at 8:04 AM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:

[Custodial Dad]:
I am pleading with you to PLEASE let [daughter] come for Chirstmas.
This has been her Home for 6 years.
It is important for her to be in her home and see her mother.
It's Christmas.  Her friends are all waiting for her.
Please let her come home to [other state] for Christmas.  Please.
I'm begging.
[The Ex]

--
[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185


~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~





________________________________________
[Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Dec 17, 2010 at 9:47 AM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>, [Custodial Dad] <[Custodial Dad]@[email].com>


And how do you suppose your behavior is and has made her feel?

My concerns for [daughter] and her timeshare with you have been and continue to be validated by your obsessional, delusional and paranoid behavior.  I can assure you that while I feel strongly that [daughter] be able to have a relationship with you, I doubly feel that [daughter] has a right to not be mentally, emotionally and physically abused by you.

As much as I try to shield [daughter] from your behavior, she is still exposed daily through your calls and by your contacts to her friends' parents, her health care providers and her school administration.  If that is true (that you want to keep [daughter] safe and unharmed) I implore you - as others have as well - to get an evaluation of your mental issues to learn to better cope with the situation and to be a better parent to [daughter]. [daughter] needs you in her life but she needs you to be healthy and mentally sound.

Again, I hope that you are willing to put your pride aside and choose a viable alternative to seeing [daughter] this holiday.


[Quoted text hidden]

Father cancels ordered Christmas for Child with Mom Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

________________________________________
[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Fri, Dec 17, 2010 at 8:17 AM
To: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:
You refuse repeatedly to allow cort ordered time or any additional time.
The phone call log speaks loudly - spare us the emailed fabrications, please.
I have NEVER refused having time with my child for Christmas.
In fact, I have offered to pay for her trip in full- as I did this summer.
Please let me know when you will allow [daughter] to her Mother, if not Christmas.  Anytime is a good time.  I am prepared to have my daughter at ANYTIME.
[The Ex]



________________________________________
From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, December 15, 2010 10:55:46 PM
Subject: Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

[daughter] does know that she is not going to [other state] for this Christmas.  Your insistence of making her tell you that she is coming is hurtful to [daughter] and is making her uncomfortable.  Your telling [daughter] that it "won't be Christmas"  is disregarding and disrespecting of the fact that she has a home and will be celebrating Christmas with her family ... and while YOUR Christmas will be delayed based upon your refusals, [daughter] will indeed have a Christmas at Christmas time surrounded by family and friends.  We have discussed this at length with her therapist which is why, at his encouragement, she asked if she would be seeing you in [HOME  STATE] this christmas.

Your refusal to actually hear what our child is saying to you has resulted in her now telling you she is watching a movie (when she's not) or simply that she wants to go.  She was told that if you make her feel uncomfortable in anyway shape or form or that you are encouraging her to speak in code, that she has the power and ability to end the call. Clearly she is electing to use that ability.

I do want to make a suggestion to you, [daughter] has a lot to talk to you about but she is unable to get a word in edgewise.  Feel free to ask her about cheerleading, her school, her friends and then LISTEN.  She has a lot of great, wonderful things going on in her world that she is wanting to speak with you about but she feels as though you can't stop talking long enough to listen to her.

Again, I hope that you are willing to put your pride aside and choose a viable alternative to seeing [daughter] this holiday.
Have a good night.
[Custodial Dad]


On Wed, Dec 1, 2010 at 6:31 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
I reside in [other state] -- you know-- in [daughter]'s home.  I will not travel to [HOME  STATE] for obvious reasons.  I will be here waiting for my child's flight information.
OR... Let me know the tiems and dates agreeable and I will book her airfare.
OK?  Please. Please. Please.  Let her come home for Christmas.
[The Ex]

________________________________________
From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Cc: "[Custodial Dad]@[email].com" <[Custodial Dad]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, December 1, 2010 8:53:32 AM
Subject: Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

I do want [daughter] to have the ability to visit with you for Christmas but it is my job to keep her safe and mentally/physically unharmed.  By your past and current actions, I do not believe she will be safe with you.

I gave you two viable alternatives to ensure [daughter] spends time with you. For [daughter]'s sake, I hope you at the very least come visit her here OR to allow us all a chance to move forward, you get a psychological evaluation.

The ball is in your court as I am not budging on my requirements and I can assure you the court will agree.

[Custodial Dad]

On Dec 1, 2010, at 8:04 AM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
I am pleading with you to PLEASE let [daughter] come for Chirstmas.
This has been her Home for 6 years.
It is important for her to be in her home and see her mother.
It's Christmas.  Her friends are all waiting for her.
Please let her come home to [other state] for Christmas.  Please.
I'm begging.
[The Ex]





--
[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185


~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~



________________________________________
[Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Dec 17, 2010 at 8:52 AM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>


Again, I hope that you are willing to put your pride aside and choose a viable alternative to seeing [daughter] this holiday.

[Custodial Dad]
[Quoted text hidden]

Not your rule- Rule of LAW - Stop repeated emails restating your contempt of court order. Re: The scales are tipped? Re: Clarify your Two Options for Christmas and Concerns Re: November Update

________________________________________
[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sun, Dec 12, 2010 at 11:04 AM
To: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>


[Custodial Dad]:
You refuse my PAYMENT for all the child's travel expences for Christmas visit with Mom.
You do not comply with the call schedule/ order.
When you do call or answer, you RECORD the calls- a felony- repeated.
Each call recorded is a felony- You get it?   Why do this?
You are refusing to pay your portion of Summer travel fees.
You are refusing to ensure [daughter]'s visit for Christmas- against Court order.
You are in violation of [other state] Law- at minimum.
Please cease the repetitive emails restating:
1. the same excused for "no receipt" for travel fares
2. psych eval requirement for child's time share at Christmas
3. excuses for lack of call compliance.
Let your next message be to your attorney- as communication  with you and [Step Mother] is futile in it's redundancy.
These issues I raise are questions for the courts- You are in blatant contempt of the "order."

[The Ex]





________________________________________
From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, November 29, 2010 7:25:27 PM
Subject: Re: The scales are tipped? Re: Clarify your Two Options for Christmas and Concerns Re: November Update


Correct, your behavior has long tipped the scales and it is now my job to protect [daughter] from you and further phsyical and mental harm.

It is apparent that you have no interest in my offer to either GET A PSYCHOLOGICAL EVALUATION or VISIT [DAUGHTER] IN [HOME  STATE] until you are ordered to undergo such an evaluation.

If you change your mind, let me know.  [daughter], I am sure, would love to visit with you this Christmas.

Any further questions or clarifications, have your lawyer contact my lawyer.

Thanks.


PS Attached for your review:

It has come to my attention that you are, again, digging through my past in hopes to find something, I am unsure as to what.  Trial is over and you are solidifying the fact that you will lose ALL contact with [daughter] by your unhealthy and crazy behavior.

Please know that all of your calls, faxes and "anonymous contacts" have been thoroughly documented by ALL parties and steps taken to ensure you are not privy to my personal information.

This is the EXACT behavior that concerns me - this is stalking behavior and is illegal. Your interest into my and my family's life is NOT about [daughter] but about some paranoid delusion to further your agenda.  Clearly, this is not the first time your behavior has reached this escalation, you once sought help for this, I hope you do so again.

I am putting you on notice, this behavior will no longer be tolerated.  I am taking steps to prohibit your insane behavior immediately.

Please do yourself a favor and get the help you so need.

[Custodial Dad]
On Mon, Nov 29, 2010 at 6:52 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
Weigh these:  The COURT ORDER vs. your FILING.
Let me know th eplans for [daughter]'s Chrstmas here in [other state].
Thanks.

________________________________________
From: [Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Thu, November 25, 2010 9:50:23 PM
Subject: Re: Clarify your Two Options for Christmas and Concerns Re: November Update

Cut/pasted and bolded for your convenience:

Please note, as stated in the [other state] filing for modification, if you are willing to undergo a psychiatric evaluation, by a doctor that [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] agrees with PRIOR to Christmas, based on those results and your commitment to follow those specific recommendations, I would then be willing to fly [daughter] to [other state] for this Christmas-time-share. In addition, as is required by the court, I would then request the proof of the physical address in which [daughter] would be spending her time, unlike what transpired this summer.

Otherwise, I am willing to pay for one half of your plane ticket to [home  state] for this Christmas and I will set up acceptable accommodations for [daughter] to share time with you.  I hope that you will make an effort to see [daughter] instead of cutting off your nose to spite your face as those are the only to options available to you at this time.

I am unsure how or why you failed to understand my statements.
[Custodial Dad]

On Thu, Nov 25, 2010 at 3:11 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
Please simplify [daughter]'s only two options for Christmas time- share.
I am unable to extract the conditions for time-share in your email below.
Thanks.
[The Ex]

________________________________________
From: [Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, November 24, 2010 1:34:26 PM
Subject: Re: Christmas and Concerns Re: November Update

[The Ex];

Any perceived hostility is probably a direct response to your combative communication. Look at this email where again you imply that I didn't prove any of my allegations at trial (I assume), which was not and is not the case. You need not look further than the court order for a clear picture of what actually transpired despite what you may or may not believe in that mind of yours.

It is not for me to prove your insanity, as it is plainly evident to ALL those that have come into contact with you for any length of time, it is for you to prove that your obsessional, paranoid, delusional behavior is somehow sane or healthy for our daughter or that she is not being continually harmed by your actions and words.  Your behavior has not stopped nor has it improved. In addition, your paranoia is, once again, spilling over and affecting [daughter]. I would strongly suggest that you come up to [home  state] and see [daughter] for the allotted christmas-time-share (which will give you more time with her.)  I can not trust that you will not harm [daughter] physically or mentally (again) in some way and/or that you have any intention of returning her to her home.

Please note, as stated in the [other state] filing for modification, if you are willing to undergo a psychiatric evaluation, by a doctor that [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] agrees with PRIOR to Christmas, based on those results and your commitment to follow those specific recommendations, I would then be willing to fly [daughter] to [other state] for this Christmas-time-share. In addition, as is required by the court, I would then request the proof of the physical address in which [daughter] would be spending her time, unlike what transpired this summer.

Otherwise, I am willing to pay for one half of your plane ticket to [home  state] for this Christmas and I will set up acceptable accommodations for [daughter] to share time with you.  I hope that you will make an effort to see [daughter] instead of cutting off your nose to spite your face as those are the only to options available to you at this time.

[Custodial Dad]

--
[Custodial Dad]
xxx-xxx-0185


~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~

Not your rule- Rule of LAW - Stop repeated emails restating your contempt of court order. Re: The scales are tipped? Re: Clarify your Two Options for Christmas and Concerns Re: November Update

[Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Sun, Dec 12, 2010 at 1:27 PM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

I have not "refused" payment for any travel "expences" for [daughter]. I have offered to pay for HALF of your travel expenses to [HOME  STATE] to allow you a visit with our daughter.

I do indeed comply with the court order in regards to telephone and [webcam], however, there are and will be times that [daughter] will be unable to get to the phone.  Again, I direct you to [daughter]'s two weeks in [other state] where she was unable, for whatever reason, to reach me.
The recording of the calls are in the best interest of [daughter] as the psychological and emotional pressure in which you subject [daughter] to is akin to emotional and psychological abuse. When [daughter] returned speaking in code, we were ALL very concerned about her behavior.   Additionally, your attempts to lure [daughter] to areas that she is not allowed to travel to, make me fear for her safety and whether you may or may not attempt to kidnap her again.  Recordings were and are shared with Children and Youth; the local police department; [daughter]'s therapist as necessary.  Not every call is recorded.   The calls, when they are recorded announce it at the beginning and ending of a call of any such recording.   You were also  notified via email and registered letter when [daughter] first came to live at her home. For the record, [daughter] is well aware that the calls are being recorded as it has been discussed, at length, with her therapist.  You may want to review the law in that regard because your interpretation, as you have relayed to me, is incorrect.
My refusal to send [daughter] to [other state] is based on your inability to behave in a manner which I feel is healthy or acceptable for our daughter.  Your statements to [daughter], again, are emotional and psychological abuse.  Sending [daughter] to you while you are in this mindset, whether mental illness or not, would be detrimental and harmful to [daughter].
And lastly, my redundancy in asking a receipt has gotten tiresome.  If you would like to be reimbursed, please forward an actual receipt and not a screen shot of a proposal. I will not be asking again.
I would suggest your next letter be to your attorney as my attorneys are well aware what is occurring in this situation.  If this email was intended for the courts, why are you emailing me?
We were in very late last night and slept in this morning. [daughter] will be returning your call shortly, she is working on a christmas present which I believe is for you, first.  We will be leaving shortly to visit with Grandma, feel free to try again or we will see you on [webcam] at 7pm/or a telephone call (whichever you are able.)
[Custodial Dad]
[Quoted text hidden]





[The Ex]
 <[The Ex]@[email].com>
 Sun, Dec 12, 2010 at 11:04 AMTo: [Custodial
 Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>


[Custodial Dad]:
 You refuse my PAYMENT for all the child's
 travel expences for Christmas visit with Mom.
 You do not comply with the call schedule/
 order.
 When you do call or answer, you RECORD the
 calls- a felony- repeated.
 Each call recorded is a felony- You get
 it? Why do this?
 You are refusing to pay your portion of Summer
 travel fees.
 You are refusing to ensure [daughter]'s visit
 for Christmas- against Court order.
 You are in violation of [other state] Law- at
 minimum.
 Please cease the repetitive emails restating:
 1. the same excused for "no
 receipt" for travel fares
 2. psych eval requirement for child's time
 share at Christmas
 3. excuses for lack of call compliance.
 Let your next message be to your attorney- as
 communication with you and [Step Mother] is futile in it's
 redundancy.
 These issues I raise are questions for the
 courts- You are in blatant contempt of the "order."

[The Ex]






--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last
 name][Last name]s@[email].com>
 To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
 Sent: Mon, November 29, 2010
 7:25:27 PM
 Subject: Re: The scales are
 tipped? Re: Clarify your Two Options for Christmas and Concerns Re:
 November Update


Correct, your behavior has long tipped the scales and it
 is now my job to protect [daughter] from you and further phsyical and
 mental harm.

It is apparent that you have no interest in my offer to either GET A
 PSYCHOLOGICAL EVALUATION or VISIT [DAUGHTER] IN [HOME STATE] until you are ordered to
 undergo such an evaluation.

If you change your mind, let me know. [daughter], I am sure, would
 love to visit with you this Christmas.

Any further questions or clarifications, have your lawyer contact my
 lawyer.

Thanks.


PS Attached for your review:

It has come to my attention that you are, again, digging
 through my past in hopes to find something, I am unsure as to what.
Trial is over and you are solidifying the fact that you will lose ALL
 contact with [daughter] by your unhealthy and crazy behavior.

Please know that all of your calls, faxes and "anonymous
 contacts" have been thoroughly documented by ALL parties and steps
 taken to ensure you are not privy to my personal information.

This is the EXACT behavior that concerns me - this is stalking behavior and
 is illegal. Your interest into my and my family's life is NOT about [daughter]
 but about some paranoid delusion to further your agenda. Clearly,
 this is not the first time your behavior has reached this escalation, you
 once sought help for this, I hope you do so again.

I am putting you on notice, this behavior will no longer be
 tolerated. I am taking steps to prohibit your insane behavior
 immediately.

Please do yourself a favor and get the help you so need.

[Custodial Dad]
 On Mon, Nov 29, 2010 at 6:52 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
 [Custodial
 Dad]:
 Weigh
 these: The COURT ORDER vs. your FILING.
 Let
 me know th eplans for [daughter]'s Chrstmas here in [other state].
 Thanks.


--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

From: [Last name] & [Last name]s
 <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
 To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
 Sent: Thu, November 25, 2010
 9:50:23 PM
 Subject: Re: Clarify your Two
 Options for Christmas and Concerns Re: November Update

Cut/pasted and bolded for your convenience:

Please
 note, as stated in the [other state] filing for modification, if you are willing to
 undergo a psychiatric evaluation, by a doctor that [Custodial Dad’s other
 state lawyer] agrees with PRIOR to Christmas, based on those results and
 your commitment to follow those specific recommendations, I would then
 be willing to fly [daughter] to [other state] for this
 Christmas-time-share. In
 addition, as is required by the court, I would then request the proof of
 the physical address in which [daughter] would be spending her time, unlike
 what transpired this summer.

Otherwise, I am willing to pay for one half
 of your plane ticket to [home state]
 for this Christmas and I will set up acceptable accommodations for [daughter]
 to share time with you. I hope that you will make an effort to
 see [daughter] instead of cutting off your nose to spite your face as those
 are the only to options available to you at this time.

I am
 unsure how or why you failed to understand my statements.
 [Custodial
 Dad]

On Thu, Nov 25, 2010 at 3:11 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
 [Custodial
 Dad]:
 Please
 simplify [daughter]'s only two options for Christmas time- share.
 I
 am unable to extract the conditions for time-share in your email below.
 Thanks.
 [The
 Ex]


--------------------------------------------------------------------------------

From: [Last
 name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
 To: [The
 Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
 Sent: Wed,
 November 24, 2010 1:34:26 PM
 Subject: Re: Christmas and Concerns Re: November Update
 [The Ex];

Any perceived hostility is probably a direct response to
 your combative communication. Look at this email where again you imply that
 I didn't prove any of my allegations at trial (I assume), which was not and
 is not the case. You need not look further than the court order for a clear
 picture of what actually transpired despite what you may or may not believe
 in that mind of yours.

It is not for me to prove your insanity, as it is
 plainly evident to ALL those that have come into contact with you for any
 length of time, it is for you to prove that your obsessional, paranoid,
 delusional behavior is somehow sane or healthy for our daughter or that she
 is not being continually harmed by your actions and words. Your
 behavior has not stopped nor has it improved. In addition, your paranoia
 is, once again, spilling over and affecting [daughter]. I would strongly
 suggest that you come up to [home
state] and see [daughter] for the allotted christmas-time-share
 (which will give you more time with her.) I can not trust that you
 will not harm [daughter] physically or mentally (again) in some way and/or that you have any intention of
 returning her to her home.

Please note, as stated in the [other state] filing for
 modification, if you are willing to undergo a psychiatric evaluation, by a
 doctor that [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] agrees with PRIOR to
 Christmas, based on those results and your commitment to follow those
 specific recommendations, I would then be willing to fly [daughter] to
 [other state] for this Christmas-time-share. In addition, as is required by
 the court, I would then request the proof of the physical address in which [daughter]
 would be spending her time, unlike what transpired this summer.

Otherwise, I am willing to pay for one half of your
 plane ticket to [home state] for
 this Christmas and I will set up acceptable accommodations for [daughter]
 to share time with you. I hope that you will make an effort to
 see [daughter] instead of cutting off your nose to spite your face as those
 are the only to options
 available to you at this time.

[Custodial Dad]






--
[Custodial Dad]
 xxx-xxx-0185


~ “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”
Harry S Truman ~











[Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last
 name][Last name]s@[email].com>
 Sun, Dec 12, 2010 at 1:27 PM
 To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
 Bcc: [Custodial Dad]and [Step
 Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>



I have not "refused" payment for any travel
 "expences" for [daughter]. I have offered to pay for HALF of your travel expenses to [HOME STATE]
 to allow you a visit with our daughter.

I do indeed comply with the court order in regards to
 telephone and [webcam], however, there are and will be times that [daughter]
 will be unable to get to the phone. Again, I direct you to [daughter]'s
 two weeks in [other state] where she was unable, for whatever reason, to
 reach me.

The recording of the calls are in the best interest of [daughter]
 as the psychological and emotional pressure in which you subject [daughter]
 to is akin to emotional and psychological abuse. When [daughter] returned
 speaking in code, we were ALL very concerned about her behavior.
Additionally, your attempts to lure [daughter] to areas that she is not
 allowed to travel to, make me fear for her safety and whether you may or
 may not attempt to kidnap her again. Recordings were and are shared
 with Children and Youth; the local police department; [daughter]'s
 therapist as necessary. Not every call is recorded. The calls,
 when they are recorded announce it at the beginning and ending of a
 call of any such recording. You were also notified via email
 and registered letter when [daughter] first came to live at her
 home. For the record, [daughter] is well aware that the calls are
 being recorded as it has been discussed, at length, with her therapist.
 You may want to review the law in that regard because your
 interpretation, as you have relayed to me, is incorrect.

My refusal to send [daughter] to [other state] is based
 on your inability to behave in a manner which I feel is healthy or
 acceptable for our daughter. Your statements to [daughter], again,
 are emotional and psychological abuse. Sending [daughter] to you
 while you are in this mindset, whether mental illness or not, would be
 detrimental and harmful to [daughter].
And lastly, my redundancy in asking a receipt has gotten
 tiresome. If you would like to be reimbursed, please forward an
 actual receipt and not a screen shot of a proposal. I will not be asking
 again.

I would suggest your next letter be to your attorney as
 my attorneys are well aware what is occurring in this situation. If
 this email was intended for the courts, why are you emailing me?

We were in very late last night and slept in this
 morning. [daughter] will be returning your call shortly, she is
 working on a christmas present which I believe is for you, first. We
 will be leaving shortly to visit with Grandma, feel free to try again or we
 will see you on [webcam] at 7pm/or a telephone call (whichever you are able.)
 [Custodial Dad]
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