Please Reconsider Re: Father cancels ordered Christmas for Child with Mom Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

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[The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Fri, Dec 17, 2010 at 8:58 AM
To: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:
This kind of action to sever time-share hurts [daughter] more than you can imagine.
Your emails reflect an consistent effort to prevent time-share- Since March 2010.  I ask repeatedly for time with my child.  You refuse always.
COSTS rationale:  Please evaluate the costs related to my travel, lodging, Christmas preparations, and transportation
as compared to my purchase of a ticket for [daughter] to come to her home in [other state].
It is less expense for me to fly her here to [other state] than for me afford the costs of coming to [HOME  STATE].
TIME considerations:  Though I will take the <48 hours of Christmas ordered, please consider extending the <48 hours required time share to a longer time share period and I will book her flight accordingly.
Please condider following the order and fostering this contact with considerations to time and money- at least.
[The Ex]



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From: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, December 17, 2010 8:17:17 AM
Subject: Father cancels ordered Christmas for Child with Mom Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

[Custodial Dad]:
You refuse repeatedly to allow cort ordered time or any additional time.
The phone call log speaks loudly - spare us the emailed fabrications, please.
I have NEVER refused having time with my child for Christmas.
In fact, I have offered to pay for her trip in full- as I did this summer.
Please let me know when you will allow [daughter] to her Mother, if not Christmas.  Anytime is a good time.  I am prepared to have my daughter at ANYTIME.
[The Ex]



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From: [Custodial Dad] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, December 15, 2010 10:55:46 PM
Subject: Re: IMom wil pay fo [daughter]'s flights. . Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

[daughter] does know that she is not going to [other state] for this Christmas.  Your insistence of making her tell you that she is coming is hurtful to [daughter] and is making her uncomfortable.  Your telling [daughter] that it "won't be Christmas"  is disregarding and disrespecting of the fact that she has a home and will be celebrating Christmas with her family ... and while YOUR Christmas will be delayed based upon your refusals, [daughter] will indeed have a Christmas at Christmas time surrounded by family and friends.  We have discussed this at length with her therapist which is why, at his encouragement, she asked if she would be seeing you in [HOME  STATE] this christmas.

Your refusal to actually hear what our child is saying to you has resulted in her now telling you she is watching a movie (when she's not) or simply that she wants to go.  She was told that if you make her feel uncomfortable in anyway shape or form or that you are encouraging her to speak in code, that she has the power and ability to end the call. Clearly she is electing to use that ability.

I do want to make a suggestion to you, [daughter] has a lot to talk to you about but she is unable to get a word in edgewise.  Feel free to ask her about cheerleading, her school, her friends and then LISTEN.  She has a lot of great, wonderful things going on in her world that she is wanting to speak with you about but she feels as though you can't stop talking long enough to listen to her.

Again, I hope that you are willing to put your pride aside and choose a viable alternative to seeing [daughter] this holiday.
Have a good night.
[Custodial Dad]


On Wed, Dec 1, 2010 at 6:31 PM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
I reside in [other state] -- you know-- in [daughter]'s home.  I will not travel to [HOME  STATE] for obvious reasons.  I will be here waiting for my child's flight information.
OR... Let me know the tiems and dates agreeable and I will book her airfare.
OK?  Please. Please. Please.  Let her come home for Christmas.
[The Ex]

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From: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Cc: "[Custodial Dad]@[email].com" <[Custodial Dad]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, December 1, 2010 8:53:32 AM
Subject: Re: PLEASE, PLEASE PLEASE let [daughter] come for Christmas

I do want [daughter] to have the ability to visit with you for Christmas but it is my job to keep her safe and mentally/physically unharmed.  By your past and current actions, I do not believe she will be safe with you.

I gave you two viable alternatives to ensure [daughter] spends time with you. For [daughter]'s sake, I hope you at the very least come visit her here OR to allow us all a chance to move forward, you get a psychological evaluation.

The ball is in your court as I am not budging on my requirements and I can assure you the court will agree.

[Custodial Dad]

On Dec 1, 2010, at 8:04 AM, [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com> wrote:

[Custodial Dad]:
I am pleading with you to PLEASE let [daughter] come for Chirstmas.
This has been her Home for 6 years.
It is important for her to be in her home and see her mother.
It's Christmas.  Her friends are all waiting for her.
Please let her come home to [other state] for Christmas.  Please.
I'm begging.
[The Ex]

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[Custodial Dad]
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~  “Actions are the seed of fate deeds grow into destiny.”    Harry S Truman  ~





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[Last name] & [Last name]s <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>
Fri, Dec 17, 2010 at 9:47 AM
To: [The Ex] <[The Ex]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Custodial Dad]and [Step Mother] <the[Last name][Last name]s@[email].com>, [Custodial Dad] <[Custodial Dad]@[email].com>


And how do you suppose your behavior is and has made her feel?

My concerns for [daughter] and her timeshare with you have been and continue to be validated by your obsessional, delusional and paranoid behavior.  I can assure you that while I feel strongly that [daughter] be able to have a relationship with you, I doubly feel that [daughter] has a right to not be mentally, emotionally and physically abused by you.

As much as I try to shield [daughter] from your behavior, she is still exposed daily through your calls and by your contacts to her friends' parents, her health care providers and her school administration.  If that is true (that you want to keep [daughter] safe and unharmed) I implore you - as others have as well - to get an evaluation of your mental issues to learn to better cope with the situation and to be a better parent to [daughter]. [daughter] needs you in her life but she needs you to be healthy and mentally sound.

Again, I hope that you are willing to put your pride aside and choose a viable alternative to seeing [daughter] this holiday.


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