[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Wed, Mar 10, 2010 at 7:15 PM
To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
[Custodial Dad];
Contact
Please email reply with a schedule for [daughter] to speak to her grandparents and close family and friends.
Please also send a few times for my daily calls with [daughter].
[daughter] is respectful to rules. Telling her she can call me at “any time” may be confusing to her since there is a call window daily.
Phone:
All our old cell phones are donated. I am happy to provide a phone to [daughter] when I can. Please let me know.
[daughter]’s things:
As you suggested, I will discuss [daughter]’s requests with her and then send her items.
Thank you.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Cc: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Thu, March 4, 2010 10:52:00 PM
Subject: Re: Final Order
[The Ex];
In order to facilitate contact between you and [daughter], please send her cell phone back to me. I will not purchase her a new one until I receive the old one. In the interim, she will be allowed to use the house line ([XXX]) [XXX] - 6052 but the times are restricted to when she is not in school, when we are not at a meal and when she is not involved in an activity. I will ensure she will always return your call She knows that she may call you at any time. We would like to set a mutually convenient time to allow for an extended contact (i.e [webcam software] or phone.) We will be unable to always accommodate overly lengthy calls as certain other things takes precedence. In no way, will I restrict her contact with you however, we need to ensure she is getting into routine and following our household rules accordingly. I will remind you the order states between 9 am and 8 pm, please do not encourage [daughter] to sneak and use the telephone or disobey the rules of our household.
Again, please inform me as to whether you intend to follow through and send [daughter] up her Beary Bear or any of the other items she asked for. I was making a list of items but she insisted you two would discuss that. I did purchase her the items that she needed and will continue doing so but she needs her personal belongings to feel at home.
I am taking [daughter] to a therapist on Tuesday who was heavily recommended by several lawyers and friends in the area. He specializes in child psychology but also in parental alienation and other similar family situations. I am sending him the order, communication between us and some recorded [webcam software] conversations for background. If there are things you want him to see, I would be happy to forward them along so please send them ASAP. I am uncertain if he wants to include you or I into her sessions but I will let you know how it goes though.
[daughter] is scheduled for a well visit at the pediatrician and a dental exam/cleaning on March 15. She has a very loose tooth that is bothering her but I think its just going to fall out soon. As I asked previously, is there an update to [daughter]’s medical file or any additional doctors that she has seen? Can you also forward up her eye glass prescription as I’d like to have it on file.
Understand that this situation is most likely permanent, I want to include you as much as you will allow but your refusal to communicate is making that impossible. Please put your animosity aside and lets work together to make sure [daughter] is comfortable and happy. I am and have extended myself to your father, your mother, [The Ex’s Current Husband] and your in-laws, the [last name]s, to include them in [daughter]’s life. Please provide them my phone number and address so that they may all keep in contact with [daughter]. I believe I still have [granpa] number and will let [daughter] call him directly since she spent so much time with him.
To give you an update: She had a good day. Unfortunately it was spent shopping and at various appointments as we, obviously, were not expecting her to come home so soon. She had questions about how things happened and the answer [Step Mother] gave her was that the Judge decided we were a better fit to raise her for right now. I’m trying to lessen the severity of the order as much as possible but its clear that you have said many, many things to [daughter] and she is definitely confused. We hope the therapy sessions will help but we all know that it will take time. For right now, she misses you and I encourage her to write you or email you.. please feel free to respond to [daughter] in the same manner she contacts you. But again I stress this must be upbeat and positive, our daughter deserves nothing less.
Take good care;
[Custodial Dad]
On Mar 4, 2010, at 12:51 PM, [Custodial dad email] wrote:
Please read the order... I assume you have a copy of it.
As [Step Mother] stated to you, we were traveling and unable to communicate.
She left you a message this am at 11 and returned your call shortly after.
Please, let’s move forward in a positive and productive manner. Please mail [daughter]’s Beary Bear ASAP.
X
Please excuse spelling and or grammatical errors
Sent from my iPhone
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
On Mar 4, 2010, at 12:40 PM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad];
You picked [daughter] up inthe middle of her schol day without any notice to anyone, including her.
You did not answer any of my calls from 515pm, when I found out attempting to pick her up from school, through the 8 pm call window.
You did not have her call when you got her.
You did not call enroute.
You did not call on arrival.
You did not call this morning.
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[The Ex’s school].edu>
Sent: Wed, March 3, 2010 2:22:36 PM
Subject: Final Order
[The Ex];
Pursuant to the final order entered on March 1, 2010, I picked [daughter] up from school this morning and brought her home to [home state] to reside. I attempted to call you last night but, as usual, my calls were forwarded to voicemail.
I am certain [daughter] will be wanting to have some of her things. I will have her call you either this evening or in the morning with what she wants you to send so please mail them to my home at the address listed below. Please feel free to mail any additional belongings of [daughter]’s that you want her to have.
My address remains the same: [home state address]reet; [home town], [home state] [zip] and phone number is ([XXX]) [XXX] - 6052. The order is broad on contact, please feel free to call, write or email [daughter] ([email]@[email].com) at your leisure. We will maintain the status quo of a 7PM call every night, a Sunday [webcam software], if you are able and visitation as provided in the order.
I will be enrolling [daughter] in at [school] School located on [home address] in the [home town] school district this week. I will provide the teacher’s contact information once the transfer is accepted and she is enrolled. I have obtained her records and submitted a record release to [school] Charter to facilitate the transfer.
I will be scheduling a physical for her at our pediatrician: [town in home state] Pediatrics ([xxx]) [xxx] - 3151 and a cleaning/dental exam at our dentist: [town in home state] Pediatric Dentistry ([xxx]) [xxx] - 0711. I have the contact information for Dr. [doctor] and [dentist], is there any additional records that I need to obtain so her files can be complete? Please feel free to contact the providers and I will contact you with the findings of the exams once they have been preformed and/or scheduled.
I am hoping this transition goes as smooth as possible. I look forward to making a new life for [daughter] and I welcome your input and perspectives; I wish to ensure you are involved with [daughter] as much as possible. Please feel free to email and/or text me if you have any questions or concerns.
Take Care;
[Custodial Dad]
[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]
[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]
[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
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