[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Fri, Jul 11, 2008 at 5:19 PM
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com, [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
[daughter] stated that she would not like to web cam on Sunday. Maybe Monday- she said. I will put her on cam Monday,
if you are able to accomodate her request.
I am working to get an evaluator for [daughter] so this contact issue can be resolved.
I recieved
3 emails, 319pm, 334pm, 409pm
2 text messages, 318pm, 337pm
1 voicemail and
2 phone calls -
one of which I picked up, all contact Re: to [daughter]’s phone call to you this PM at ~3.
That sums up to 8 contacts - in a [Ex’s fourth other state lawyer]er of minutes.
I clearly said:
You did not loose the connection.
[daughter] was done and the call was ended.
This (meaning the constant calls and texts within a few minuites) is ridiculous.
What I stated to you in no way translates into the conversation and accusation which you reported on e-mail
I am doing my best to facilitate calls and cam with our child -who is not willing to speak with you.
Please, work with me.
At this juncture, I would like to ask you to just e-mail me.
We will place outgoing calls to you at scheduled times and at [daughter]’s requests.
Thank you.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
----- Original Message ----
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com; [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Sent: Thursday, July 10, 2008 5:05:06 PM
Subject: No Issue...Just low cost inquiry.
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Let there not be any misunderstandings or distortion of my call to you.
Simply, called with the belief that we have a mutual goal of making communication and legal costs easier on all of us.
I just wanted to know your understanding of things and your take on working directly on some issues-
to help [daughter] and lessen financial strains.
Separately-
1. Child support is a law, not a request by me.
Please do not hold me responsible for [other state] laws.
2. The contact schedule will continue as we discussed, according to your’s and [Step Mother]’s input-
Mon, Wed. calls and Sun AM cam-
with open option for [daughter] to call or cam at any time I ask and she agrees to share events with you all
or at her request.
Monday’s rescheduled call from the Weekend of The Fourth did not happen, as I stated to you on a call, because [daughter] refused to contact you.
Hence, my suggestion of a counselor to work through this issue with her for long term benefits to all. I will pay the fees. I’m not asking for money. I just wanted your input on the idea of a professional to work with [daughter].
I can see that we should just write. Things are clearer this way right now.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
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[The Ex] [last name]’s June 9th email
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Since we agree that we need to move forward with [daughter] adjusting to regular contact with you,
what do you think of having a counselor work with [daughter]
to make progress with your calls and web contact?
I have done some research, and this is one of the names I found.
[other state therapist] [therapist in other state], ACSW, LCSW P.O. Box 07212, [town in other state], [other state] [zip]
Phone: [XXX]-[XXX]-7066
Please check her out and give me your thoughts.
Best Regards,
[The Ex]
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Response to 7/2/08 email
[Custodial Dad]:
I am not clear as to the relevance of the attached schedule for Attorney [last name] to yours and [daughter]’s contact schedule.
Please clarify.
[The Ex]
----- Original Message ----
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com; [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Sent: Tuesday, July 1, 2008 8:41:53 AM
Subject: Web cam Update
[Custodial Dad],
Thanks for agreeing to try for cam session at 7pm tonight.
You & [daughter] can have the same 7PM cam session Wednesday and Thursday also.
This will enable a fun weekend of firework shows and later mornings for [daughter] this holiday.
Maybe these can be a few nights of bedtime stories for all little tikes?
Thanks, [Custodial Dad] & [spelled incorrectly Step Mother].
I appreciate you accommodating this adjustment to July 6th cam session.
[daughter] can cam on Monday, July 7th AM or PM to share firework stories!
Will e-mail photos before session.
God Bless.
[The Ex]
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On Thu, Jun 26, 2008 at 10:46 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Thanks, [Custodial Dad].
We can IM for parenting conference.
It is best for me weekdays, early in the AM-
I am up at 4:30AM to start the day and I can schedule slots from 5AM. End time is at 6AM.
Afternoons are Ok for IM. Any weekday. Let me know.
Evenings/nights are not good with [daughter]’s bed/bathtime and my school-work.
FYI: [daughter] is not in psych therapy. She will warm up to the regular calls over time.
Thanks for working with me to take calls any night this week. Just gives me more options for a good moment in which she might be likely to agree to the call
Option: We can do web cam next week on Wednesday night instead of Sunday?
I respect that you and [Step Mother] may have holiday weekend plans.
I can have cam instead of calls available on Mon and Wed of the following week also since N will be here at home. Maybe that will work.
Let’s keep trying.
Let me know.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
--- On Sun, 6/22/08, [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> wrote:
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Subject: Re: 2nd June Request for Parenting Communication Sessions Set-up
To: [the ex email]@[email].com
Date: Sunday, June 22, 2008, 8:26 AM
[The Ex]
It is now 8:27am and I will have my computer on until 9am
On Fri, Jun 20, 2008 at 10:03 AM, [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> wrote:
[The Ex]
After our phone call I decided to memorialize the facts of the conversation:
a. We re-confirmed the phone schedule of Monday and Wednesday at 6 pm even if [daughter] gets on and just says “Good Night.” The length of the call will always be dictated by [daughter], as always.
We also mentioned the Sunday morning webcam, and again it is quality of visit and dependence of schedule that is MORE important then length or content of contact/conversation....
b. I can not view pictures sent to text message... instead of my phone number, please enter [Custodial dad email]@[email].com and that will achieve the same goals by similar means.
c. There is no need to call and say [daughter] is going to call Please have [daughter] call me directly or not as the case may be.
d. I am very curious (and concerned) as to why [daughter] has a “Psych team” involved in her daily care. Please let me know why she is undergoing such extensive therapy. I understand that she is probably traumatized with not seeing her father for close to four years but does it warrant a “team?”
e. We can begin the “Parental Communication” immediately according to your schedule... like I stated I believe and email will suffice but I am available most nights after 9 pm excluding Thursdays for IM.
Thanks again
[Custodial Dad]
On Thu, Jun 19, 2008 at 7:12 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
--- On Wed, 6/18/08, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Subject: Parenting Communication Sessions Set-up
To: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com, [Custodial dad email]@[email].com
Date: Wednesday, June 18, 2008, 1:35 PM
--- On Wed, 6/18/08, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.
Earl Mac Rauch, from “Buckaroo Bansai” ~
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.
Earl Mac Rauch, from “Buckaroo Bansai” ~
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.
Earl Mac Rauch, from “Buckaroo Bansai” ~
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.
Earl Mac Rauch, from “Buckaroo Bansai” ~
[Custodial Dad] [last name]
<[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Fri, Jul 11, 2008 at 5:37 PM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Step Mother] <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>
[The Ex]
I will NOT get in to a discourse regards your language, I know what you said; you said it and so you know too... I will ‘let it go’ as you seem to indicate it should be...
That being done, I await my daughters contact....
What will an “evaluator” do? What are your expectations of this “evaluator”? What kind of an “evaluator”??
At this juncture and since the first time I requested it, I prefer a viable, readable and traceable discourse with you; so e-mails (timely e-mails and responses) do make the most sense.
Also if [daughter] uses HER phone (the suggested and requested ONE) then I do not need to call your phone back when it disconnects, do I?!??!
Last, your total accounting seems almost correct.... except it was THREE phone calls, one of which you picked up one and one of which was the voicemail...
Thank you for filling me in.... which is ALL I wanted in the first place and a simple call-back/text/e-mail when you realized I had no idea what [daughter]s intent was would have avoided this all-to-silly discourse
x
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[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Fri, Jul 11, 2008 at 5:44 PM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Cc: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Can I simply ask why [daughter] is not wishing to webcam on Sunday as it is Friday afternoon? Does she have alternate plans? This seems quite suspicious since her last web cams were made to end due to your wishes and plans and she seemed quite disappointed to end so abruptly. Furthermore, children are by nature fickle.. to cancel this early would simply be foolish... unless of course there is an alternate reason?
[Custodial Dad] called back twice and texted you once stating he “lost connection” as it was abruptly ended and was trying to “reconnect.” He did not hear [daughter] say “Goodbye” which in and of itself is poor manners but I suspect he anticipated their ritual “squeezy kiss” goodbye instead of silence.
One email was from me after I got wind of the language you utilized... I highly suspect two grown men have a good idea of poor language when they hear it... maybe it slipped as you seem quite annoyed with the attempt to re-connect. You yourself have telephoned and texted [Custodial Dad] by similar means, in similar quantity in order to connect. But I digress, like [Custodial Dad] has stated to you, its clear by this afternoon’s contact that you are both better off in a documented form of communication.
We hope that you will entertain the thought to proceed with a qualified professional as it appears to be very much needed in this situation. Both attorneys are in agreement to get the ball rolling in regards to intervention by a professional. I, personally, can locate one willing to do an evaluation in the immediate future if you’d like. I have already begun the research since the interest was stated recently.
Understand my annoyance with the tone and language used towards my husband. I am fiercely protective of him as I hope your partner is of you.
Have a great day and we still will look forward to Sunday...
[Step Mother]
PS If my thoughts are not wanted, please refrain from CC-ing me otherwise I will assume you want my input.
[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] plus all of our [siblings]’s
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