Fees for [therapist in other state] & Check for [daughter]

[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>  Tue, Sep 23, 2008 at 4:26 PM 
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> 
 Hi, [Custodial Dad].
 Thanks for the reply.
 [daughter] is well, as always and enjoying school and friends.
 Her school schedule is the same as all students in [other state].

Please, supply possible dates for us to bring [daughter] to visit her [last name] family.
We are  prepared to facilitate this proposed visit as soon as we can coordinate schedules with you all.
The question I called you about is:
Did you send any check for [daughter] for September as I did not receive it as yet.
Please, check on the status if you did have the bank issue it.
If not, please notify me of the situation.
Thanks for your time.
Kindly,
[The Ex]

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From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, September 23, 2008 11:01:14 AM
Subject: Re: Fees for [therapist in other state] & request for dates for [daughter]’s visit up Nort

[The Ex]
I just spoke with [insurance company] and out of network is a $500 deductible and then coverage is 70% and in network is $250 deductible and then coverage is 90%, if [daughter] has been seeing any Doctors etc to date her deductible may be met already and I am not certain if Ms [therapist in other state] is in our out of network.
I cannot send “possible dates” for a visit as you have not informed me which school she goes to so I do not know her vacation schedule. I can then choose an airline at that time.
Your phone call was not appreciated this morning, I am at work and unless the call is something very directly to do with [daughter] you have no reason to call me, at this time.
You had some question or questions you kept trying to ask over the phone, please feel free to respond here with it/them and I will answer to the best of my ability.
Thank you for taking the time to e-mail me, it may have been nicer to have some news of our daughter but at least from this I may assume you all weathered the hurricanes OK and [daughter] is at least healthy.
Thank you for your e-mail I await your response
x


On Tue, Sep 23, 2008 at 10:24 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Gald for your response.
Actually, your insurance does not cover Ms. [therapist in other state] at all.
The costs bear on me entirely.
Are you willing and able to cover the costs in full at this time
to get us started with Ms. [therapist in other state] ASAP?
Please send possible dates for [daughter] to visit and I will make the necessary accomodations, as we will be flying up with her.
Thank you for agreeing to pay [daughter]’s fare in fulX
We will e-mail with you to explore possible airlines for you to book her ticket with your funds.  We will then book with the airline you can afford at this time.
Thanks for your time and attention.
God Bless.
[The Ex] [last name]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665

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From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, September 16, 2008 8:32:46 AM
Subject: Re: Fees for [therapist in other state] & request for dates for [daughter]’s visit up Nort

[The Ex];
As you are well aware Ms [therapist in other state]s fees are covered by [insurance company] at 70%.  I am unsure if you have alternate insurance for [daughter] but that would possibly cover the balance of the fees.  Again, since this is at your insistence the only way for me to gain contact with my daughter, I will agree to pay one half of the fees as my attorney suggested to yours.  I will not negotiate on this further and neither will my attorney.  I believe there is a motion already before Judge [Other State Judge] on this matter, but I agree if we could move forward it would bode well on us both.

As for her visit north, I am agreeable to pay for [daughter]’s travel fees 100%.  I have stated that to you previously.  I am curious how dire your financial situation is, all of a sudden, since your last message regarding her travel here—just in the last few weeks—indicated that you would accompany her at your expense. If you can not afford your own travel expense, I will be more than happy to fly down and retrieve her myself or have a family member do so. I did look into  unaccompanied minor travel with an airline and by your accounts of [daughter], I think she would be suitable for such traveX Being that she will be consistently traveling to [home state] in a few short weeks, I think it is something you may want to look into as that is typical in these situations.
Understand that I am not being difficult, when you relocated to [other state] you insisted that you would have [daughter] visit consistently at YOUR expense being that you were the one to relocate. I am willing to work with you in paying for [daughter]’s expense but I will not bear your cost as that is both unreasonable and unfair. 
[Custodial Dad]

On Tue, Sep 16, 2008 at 7:58 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Glad you got the updates on [daughter].

In reality, there is no issue with contracting Ms. [therapist in other state].

I would appreciate if you could pay her fees as I cannot do so right now. 
At a later date, I will be able to bear the costs.
But, I have not been able to afford her fees and I do not want to initiate Ms. [therapist in other state]’s work with [daughter] with inconsistency.

I am working with [daughter] to find solutions to her contact with you all up north.
However, we could really benefit from Ms. [therapist in other state]’s guidance.

Please, let me know if you can pay.  Save us some legal fees that we will be charged for this simple question:

[Custodial Dad], will you please pay the fees for Ms. [therapist in other state] to be hired by us to work with [daughter] and us?

Seperately, I would be happy to bring [daughter] to visit up north.  Please let me know the dates and times and I will let you know ASAP possible matches to your availability. 
What expences will you pay for this trip?
Please let me know so I can help make it happen!

Thanks, [Custodial Dad].
Kind regards to all!

God Bless.
[The Ex]


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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Cc: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Sent: Monday, September 15, 2008 3:43:51 PM
Subject: Update

Hi, [Custodial Dad].
[daughter] is well and has adjusted to school beautifully!
She is a top reader and demonstrates leadership skills in the classroom and on the playground.  As she is well ahead of her classmetes educationally, she is actively involved with assisting her peers to read and do math problems with the approach to problem solvin and “sounding out” words that we have employed as a parent-child team for years.
I am sure you are proud of her community spirit demonstrated in her investment of herself in her classmates- I certainly am overjoyed!
[daughter] is a great diplomat and her teachers entrust playground disagreements to her management... she is respectful to all sides and negotiates a situation which results in enjoyable community play and “happy campers” all around—including the teachers!
[daughter] remains a meat and potatoes Jersey Girl with a love of broccoli and homemade Italian food.  Steak, seafood and spinach are  consistently fulfilled requests. 
She is lovin and adapts well to all environments- in the classroom, at private homes of family and friends and has established herself as an assist to the college girls in our favorite restaurants (Sushi and Classic Am[Step Mother]n cuisine) -  [daughter] is welcomed by name at the door and is invited (or requests!) to fold napkins and set tables with the staff.  She is loved all around and enjoys enriching experiences in sports,, social times with classmates and their families, and of course with her indulgence in crafting and painting. 
As you see from her pictures, she is georgeous and she’lll tell you: “I have beautiful hair like my Da-Da!” 
I have made sure she understands that she is the best of us and is loved by us all.  She is confident and secure... adn of course, at all times safe and handeled with white gloves, as the expression goes. 
Please send recent photos.  I have yet to upload my most recent photos as daily life is task oriented so that I can have time and energy to continue to nurture [daughter]’s growth and development. 
Your box of [daughter]’s work is still being added to and I will get that out to you... may make a book of it all so that it is sequencially organized so you may see the changes in her art talents and letter writing skills.
Take good gare.
Will have [daughter] call
Looking forward to progress with your assistance from Ms. [therapist in other state].   [Ex’s first other state lawyer] has been in touch with your attorney and i hope for a prompt response to have the professional guidance and assistance which I think is imperative to help rebuild and continue your relationship with [daughter]. 
I have great hopes for a lifetime of progress working together to achieve peace and joy for [daughter] and all her sibblings and with [Step Mother].
I think we can do this. 
Let us not let technical details and proceedures cloud our objectives for pleasant integrative family- building.
Take good care.  warm regards to all the [last name] clan!
Kindly,
[The Ex]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665

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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Sent: Wednesday, August 27, 2008 2:00:39 PM
Subject: Re: Fwd: Case --[last name]

Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Will mail full packet of docs required by Ms. [therapist in other state] by mid- September.
[daughter] is well and enjoying the sunshine and water parks!  As always, top of her class and social butterfly!
Take care.
Kind regards to [Step Mother] and the Little Darlings!
God bless.
[The Ex]

----- Original Message ----
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, August 26, 2008 3:12:44 PM
Subject: Fwd: Case --[last name]

If you can please forward me a copy of your release, after all you requested and received my copy to Ms [therapist in other state].
x
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From: [other state therapist] [therapist in other state] <[email]96@[email].com>
Date: Mon, Aug 25, 2008 at 4:08 PM
Subject: Re: Case --[last name]
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>

We have been in contact and looks like we’ll meet this Wednesday.  I will keep you informed.  [other state therapist]-




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