Follow-up RE: [The Ex]’s Solutions for Successful Father- Daughter Communication

[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>  Wed, Jan 14, 2009 at 2:30 PM 

To:   [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> 

     

Hi, [Custodial Dad].

I. Visit at any time with [daughter], as per our agreement/ court order

You are free to arrange visits at anytime with [Second visitation Supervisor] Bailer, LCSW, as we have previously utilized her services and have both been happy with her working with us.

Your visits with [daughter] have no time limits nor limits on frequency, so please feel free to make arrangements.

I do not require advanced notice for you to visit, as per our agreement. 

Remember that you called on thanksgiving Eve to request visits for the next 2 days to which both [Second visitation Supervisor] and I happily brought [daughter].

Just let me know the time and place and I am happy to bring [daughter] to the agreed upon supervisor for your visits.

My agreement for visits is a consistent affirmative;   I have already agreed to any and all visits by you in our court order.

II.  [daughter] [last name]’s Counseling to foster Father-Daughter Communication via phone/ web-cam

As you have indicated your support in your e-mail for having [daughter] in counseling,

1. Please arrange with your insurance to have Dr. [psychologist in other state]’s practice authorized to accept [daughter] [last name] for treatment and for payment through the coverage you claim to have for her.  I am prepared to schedule [daughter] as soon as you set up billing with medical coverage you have for her. If you do not have coverage, please let me know and we can work out the costs between us to get her the help she may need to foster joyful contact with you.

2. Also, please provide the insurance information and card to me at your earliest convenience so I may also have a copy in our files for [daughter].

3. Please remain on-line for [daughter] to complete her call with you and conclude her web-cam sessions. 

Even if she refuses to talk to you, she may comply with my encouragement to say “I love you” and “Goodnight” wishes.

4. Please understand that I would like to work through any and all issues in mediation. 

Would you be willing to commit to mediation with me to achieve resolutions and create the best options and opportunities for [daughter] to have a healthy and full family life with all of us?

Thanks for your kind cooperation.

God Bless.

[The Ex] [last name]

From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

To:   [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>

Sent: Monday, January 12, 2009 8:14:32 PM

Subject:    [The Ex]’s Solutions for Successful Father- Daughter Communication

Re:   [webcam software] 1/11/08

      A.[webcam software] Records

      Your statements are untrue.

      Contrary documentation exist on [webcam software] records.

B. Counseling for [daughter]

To my most recent knowledge, Ms. [therapist in other state] is not covered by your insurance.

I am agreement to have [daughter] in counseling at the professional practice of [psychologist in other state] Psych, in [town in other state].

Please send your authorization and valid insurance information so that we may move forward with seeeking assistance for your efforts to foster a healthy relationship with [daughter].

Can we agree that by Thursday, January 15th, 2009 by 9AM you will fax to [psychologist in other state] Psych the following documents/ authorizations?

1.  Notarized document authorizing [daughter] to be in counseling with professionals at [psychologist in other state] Psych Associates practice.  (Address and contact info available on web.)

2.  Valid copy of insurance card/ necessary documents for the office to bill your coverage of [daughter] [last name].  Please provide the office with valid contact number for your insurance and handle communication with your insurance company so that the care and billing are smoother for the office team.

I am prepared to schedule [daughter]’s appointments as early as Thursday evening, January 15th, 2009.

Do we have an agreement? 

If so, please notify me via email when you have successfully  completed items 1 and 2 above to allow me to have [daughter] in counseling.

I believe you will both benefit from professional assitance in your efforts to communicate with [daughter].

Thanks.

God bless.

[The Ex] [last name]

From: [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>

To:   [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

Cc:   [CUSTODIAL DAD’S OTHER STATE LAWYER] <[Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]@[Custodial Dad's Law Firm]>

Sent: Sunday, January 11, 2009 9:00:09 PM

Subject:    Re: Tonight’s [webcam software]

[The Ex],

We were, as always, logged in at 6:30 as you are on at different times each night... Our logs show that we were not only logged in but chatting online at, during and after the scheduled time.

I am and have been in agreement with you.  I even went so far as to have a session with the person of YOUR chosing despite your failure to comply with submitting your agreement/authorization to Ms. [therapist in other state].  My authorization will be forthcoming to whom and whenever you take [daughter] to seek the help that you and I agree she needs.

I am always here for [daughter] and will do my best to assist her in anway that you choose to allow me to, that is, until the courts interject on my behalf.

x

Please excuse spelling and or grammatical errors

Sent from my iPhone

[Custodial dad email]@[email].com

On Jan 11, 2009, at 8:30 PM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:

Hi, Dad.

Connected at the scheduled time tonight.

However,as you heard, [daughter] was pleading and crying not to talk to you tonight via phone or web.

(This is the same issue for which I suggested a certified professional provide solutions to enable and set up success. 

The issues from the summer remain despite the scheduled sessions to phone and web cam;

[daughter] and your relationship may need a bridge to allow her to want to communicate with you. 

Please consider the option at my pleading, again.

Allowing her the time to change her mind, I have been trying to connect to you since [webcam software] is tonight.

You are not on.

I will continue to try for another 15 minutes.

Just thought I’d send this in case you were checking email.

Thanks.

God Bless.

[The Ex]