Cast of Characters

[Custodial Dad]
[The Ex]
[daughter]

My wife [StepMother]
My other children [siblings]
My many brothers, sisters, nieces and nephews.
My mother
Our pets

The Ex's FOUR fiances and The Ex's ex husband
The Ex's past in-laws
The Ex's parents and sister

The Ex's NINE different attorneys
Custodial Dad's two attorneys

Four therapists in [other state]
Daughter's therapist in [home state]

Teachers, Principals, Superintendents and Guidance Counselors at [school] in [home state]

[Home State] Department of Children and Youth
[Home State] Police Department

Friends, strangers and passerby's who witness the insanity that has become our life.

Monday

Parenting Communication Help Re: Further Communication

[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Wed, Apr 21, 2010 at 4:14 PM
To: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com

Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Don t you agree that it is important to [daughter] and to our families that we communicate as we parent [daughter] together.
I would like to have an opportunity to have us be advised by parenting counselors, either the same one or different ones to help us be effective and supportive parents to [daughter] as we transition to the new parenting format.
Can you please work with me and with the very recent chnages and keep the lines of emaill communication open?  At least, please don t cut off this very important and efficient avenue of sharing about medical, dental, school and social decisions for [daughter]. I am able to work with a counselor at any time. We have practices here in for [town in other state]. I can inquire about webcaming you in and feel free to ask if I can be webcamed into a clinician in your town. I d be glad if [spelled incorrectly Step Mother] could participate as she shares so much time with [daughter] now, as I understand.
Please let me know. I would like the best for [daughter]. I m sure you can agree on the same and seek help to bridge our shortcomings in communicating. We will all benefit.
Thanks, [Custodial Dad].
[The Ex]

On Tue Apr 20th, 2010 1:19 PM EDT [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] wrote:

>[The Ex];
>These emails are getting ridiculous, redundant and inane.  I will no longer engage you in email communication outside of urgent matters or matters that require a reply within one week’s time period.  I will, of course, continue to text you reminders for phone contact but will not engage in extraneous text messages either unless it involves altering the call schedule.
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>It would serve the same purpose to send you a monthly letter with all of the updates of [daughter] (including school, medical, social, activities, etc) concisely paired together for your review.  My updates will be sent via certified letter, return receipt to your Grandmother’s address: [other state address], unless you have an alternate mailing address you would prefer for me to use.
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>The tone of the messages are leaning towards negative but clearly are counter productive.  I would like to move forward and suggest you do the same.
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>Take care...
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>[Custodial Dad]
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>[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]
>[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
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[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Wed, Apr 21, 2010 at 4:29 PM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

[The Ex];
I shared the same sentiment several emails ago. Yes, I agree there needs to be a third party involved. I will locate a family counselor who hopefully may be willing to telephone you in. I will see if Dr. [home town therapist] may be willing to do so or recommend someone who can.

However, I will no longer engage in this type of dialogue as it is just simply becoming nasty and redundant.

In the meantime, I will default to communication via registered letter. You are not acknowledging my emails andisregarding my statements. It would be best to proceed with communication I can document your reciept of regardless of your acknowledgement.

[Custodial Dad]
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