Re:

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Tue, Jun 1, 2010 at 12:10 PM

To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

CERTIFIED MAIL RETURN RECEIPT

ELECTRONIC MAIL

[The Ex] [last name]

[street address in other state] [third state] Road

[town in other state], [other  state] [zip]

Dear [The Ex]:

Yet again, here is another update on [daughter].  I have yet to have any confirmation or answer to any specific questions raised to you.  Your responses are not directly related to my questions and I will be brief in asking again and try to clarify my specific questions.  Please find some time to respond and/or acknowledge these letters.

A. Unanswered Questions: There has yet to be a reply to any of my previous messages.  Please respond to the various questions that remain unanswered from previous emails and registered letters:

1. Did you review [daughter]’s report card, yes or no?

2. Were you able to view the talent show movie that I sent, yes or no?

3. Do you intend to participate in the Family Wizard, yes or no?

4. Do you understand the order and the limitation it poses on what topics are specifically NOT to be broached with [daughter], yes or no?  Is there anything I can do to help you understand the order or possibly something Dr. [home town therapist] can assist in aiding your communications with [daughter]?

5. Will you allow your current boyfriend to be involved with [daughter] during the 15 days she will be in your care, if this situation occurred as stated?  Do you anticipate a resolution to this matter prior to [daughter]’s arrival? 

6. What safe guards do you plan to put in place to ensure [daughter] does not have access to your latest boy friend’s fire arms and/or whether you anticipate any additional violence between you, your husband and your boyfriend(s)?

7. It was also brought to my attention that your father’s home on [street in other state] is vacant and has been for some time.  That was the address that you gave me for where you  intend to have [daughter] over the summer.  I will state for the record and to avoid any confusion, that if I am lied to or otherwise misinformed/mislead about [daughter]’s location with you, we will follow the order of the court with regards to rectifying/remedying the situation.  I am hoping for [daughter] to have a fun, happy 15 days with you for this summer, but your evasiveness is leaving me worried.

I would really appreciate a resolution to these matters PRIOR to [daughter]’s visit with you in August.

B. School, Summer Camp, Activities:  School is winding down.  She has had a school barbeque and a field day of sorts.  She’s excited to be done with school and to start her summer.  I’ll be sure to send her final report card in June. I offered to send you half of the portrait package of her class pictures or the information to order... there is a time table so please let me know ASAP, which if either you plan to so.  She is set to begin summer camp in June and she is very excited.

C. Contact: 

1. You are specifically stating to [daughter] that you are working on changing the current custody schedule.  From a legal [street in  home state]ive, it is unlikely that will occur especially in the near future as you seem to be implying.  It really is unfair to [daughter] to mention these fanciful things to her and further, it is contrary to the order that states you are not to discuss these matters with her directly.  I will ask, again, that you please refrain from doing so.

2. [daughter] has been sending you letters, drawings, post cards and things of that nature to the [street address in other state] [third state] Address.  None have been returned but she is unsure if you are actually receiving them.  Do you think you can acknowledge her mailings to her directly?  She is sure to mention that she receives your mailings and I’m sure she’d like to know that you are not only receiving her pictures but are enjoying them as well.  

3. On the stickers that you send [daughter] every month, I noticed that you are using, yet again, another address.  Is that the address you would prefer us to use?  Please notify me (in writing) of any mailing address corrections.  Your Grandmother is signing off on the updates via Certified Mail, it would be great if we had some sort of confirmation that you indeed read/recieved them.

4. [Step Mother] specifically asked you, by [daughter]’s request, to send a photo of either yourself or with you and [daughter] for her room.  There has been no response to that either. [daughter] would really benefit from having some personal affects here and since my and her requests for her belongings went unanswered, a photo may be a suitable substitute. 

5. Have you found away to [webcam software]?  Obviously, you have email access and being that [webcam software] is a free program, I’m unsure what the hold up is.  You can purchase a webcam and microphone on ebay for under $10.

6. [daughter] had requested your mother, her Grandmother, to bring things north with her after she was in [other state].   Can you verify the status of that?  [daughter] also requested her roller skates, protections (helmet, kneepads, etc); Do you intend to comply with her wish to have that sent up?  I told her we would wait a few weeks to see if you are able and if you do not follow through, we will purchase her new skates.  She is, however, looking forward to “her” skates and would prefer those instead of new skates.

D. Family Contact: [daughter] was in contact with her maternal grandmother and her Aunt [The Ex's Sister] earlier this month.  She left a message for your father but he has not returned the call  It appears they both had pleasant conversations with her however, they too are mentioning setting up visitation and schedules with [daughter]. I would ask that you inform them of the order which prohibits establishing any sort of contact or schedule with her directly.  Your father emails [daughter] pretty regularly and they seem to enjoy the frequent exchanges.

E. Medical Update: [daughter] had her palate extender placed on May, 20, 2010.  It was a very simple/fas procedure.  She felt no discomfort and is already fairly used to the extender.  We do have to maintain it with a key and if it is necessary, I will ensure you have proper instructions to turn it while she is with you in August.

F. Family Therapy Session: I can not locate any provider willing to facilitate a session with you via webcam or over the phone.  Have you had any luck?  There was one therapist you suggested that preformed your evaluation for your nursing degree - is he still willing to counsel us in this situation?

G. [daughter]’s Records: Please forward me [daughter]’s social security card and her birth certificate ASAP. I will need these documents to enroll [daughter] in Summer Camp and they require all forms to be in by June 18, 2010.

As always, if you have any questions, comments or requests, please send so to me in writing.  If you have any questions directly related to a provider, please feel free to contact them directly.  I have advised them all of the situation and they are more than willing to send you any documents you require or to answer questions you may have.

[Custodial Dad] [last name]

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]

[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Fri, Jun 4, 2010 at 4:42 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Cc: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

[The Ex];

I have gotten a second returned letter from your Grandmother’s mailing address of [other state address] Rd.  Can you please confirm a proper mailing address?

The letter returned was one that contained a letter/card/drawing from [daughter] (I can’t recall what was in the envelope specifically.)  I gave [daughter] the letter and maybe she can just hand it to you in August.  

Attached is a scan of the returned letter—please note as the same with the first returned letter: there is proper postage, the address is the one you have instructed me to use and the only address [daughter] actually knows (although she never resided there.)

If there is a better mailing address, please forward me the updated address in writing so that I may forward her mailings and her updates to the appropriate address.

Thank You;

[Custodial Dad] 

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[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Fri, Jun 11, 2010 at 10:28 AM

To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Cc: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

[The Ex]

It has been one week and there has been no response to my requests specifically obtaining a fax or copy of [daughter]’s social security card and her birth certificate.  Would you please respond ASAP.  I have 7 days to complete registration for [daughter] for Summer Camp.

[Custodial Dad] 

On Jun 4, 2010, at 4:42 PM, [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] wrote:

[The Ex];

I have gotten a second returned letter from your Grandmother’s mailing address of [other state address] Rd.  Can you please confirm a proper mailing address?

The letter returned was one that contained a letter/card/drawing from [daughter] (I can’t recall what was in the envelope specifically.)  I gave [daughter] the letter and maybe she can just hand it to you in August.  

Attached is a scan of the returned letter—please note as the same with the first returned letter: there is proper postage, the address is the one you have instructed me to use and the only address [daughter] actually knows (although she never resided there.)

If there is a better mailing address, please forward me the updated address in writing so that I may forward her mailings and her updates to the appropriate address.

Thank You;

[Custodial Dad] 

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[last name] & [last name]s <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Tue, Jul 27, 2010 at 7:46 PM

To: [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]@[email].com

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