[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Thu, Nov 13, 2008 at 1:23 AM
To: [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Cc: [Ex’s first other state lawyer]@[email].com
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
I will do my best to accomodate your visit with [daughter].
5PM-7PM is the absolute best I can do.
[Custodial Dad], with all due respect,
I have repeatedly written to you in all previous emails that [daughter] will NOT be available before 5PM.
Am I not communicating that information well to you?
Please, let me know how I can better facilitate your understanding and respect of her educational obligations.
I hope you can find one or more supervisors who will be able to cover the 5PM-7PM time slot in which [daughter] is available.
From your messages,
I see an hour of time , 6PM-7PM, which you could have with [daughter] as I have consistently stated a two hour slot between 5PM -7PM.
Do you want that hour between 6-7PM?
Let me know, please.
Let me know your options for supervisors and I will gladly work with you.
Please, let me know if you need me to bring her dinner, as she has a meal during this time.
If you will please provide me the time during which you can be available between 5Pm and 7PM, excluding [Second visitation Supervisor]’s availability,
I will be more than happy to call the supervisors which you have contacted and check on their availability for 11/19 PM and 11/20.
I will have to make these calls to the supervisors between my parenting responsibilities and my academic requirements. Thus, please email me by the early AM so I can have a better chance of getting someone to facilitate your time with [daughter].
I would like to see that both you and [daughter] have a pleasant visit with the maximum time spent together while you are here in [other state].
[resturant] at [mall] Town Center
Kind Regards,
[The Ex] [last name]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665
From: [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Wednesday, November 12, 2008 6:52:59 PM
Subject: Re: Request to modify visit plans to accomodate [daughter]’s school responsibilities for 11/19-11/20 Time and Place Confirmation for November 19th & 20th Visitat with [daughter] [last name]a
If you can not bring [daughter] at 4 pm, please explain why you are suggesting I call you at 3:30? Either she is available or she isn’t. [Second visitation Supervisor] and I are both available at 4pm and [Second visitation Supervisor] needs to leave by 6pm. If that does not work with YOUR schedule then you need to find an alternate supervisor ASAP.
We will skip on breakfast if 7 am is too late as [Second visitation Supervisor] is not available prior to that.
Your inability to compromise has been noted. You are making this harder than this has to be.
Please excuse spelling and or grammatical errors
Sent from my iPhone
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
On Nov 12, 2008, at 5:20 PM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Please my previous e-mail.
Glad to accommodate your request.
However, this proposal your would like confirmed conflicts with [daughter]’s school responsibilities and my ability to get her to you on schedule.
1.[resturant] is closer to allow me to get her there fastest to have more time with you; 5PM-7PM. You may call me at 3:30PM on 11/19 and text me and I can see if there is a possibility to get her to you and [Second visitation Supervisor] earlier than 5PM.
2. AM breakfast on 11/20 is too late at 7AM. Please give another proposal Please give confirmation of [Second visitation Supervisor]’s attendance.
3. Please, supply [Second visitation Supervisor]’s contact information so I may make these arrangements more efficiently.
Thanks for working with me for a successful visit with [daughter]. Please see below.
Here is my latest email to you yesterday AM which I have pasted for efficient reference. Here it is:
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Sent 11/19/08
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
To best accommodate [Second visitation Supervisor]’s availability on 11/19/08 and your stay in [town in other state], the best that I can do is the following:
Adjusted visit arrangements could be:
A. Time 5PM-6PM with [Second visitation Supervisor] and 6PM -7PM with another qualified supervisor approved by [Ex’s first other state lawyer].
1. [daughter] is available between 5PM and 7PM as 11/19/08 is a school night.
2. Since your latest expeced time is 4PM, it seems reliable to start at 5PM to allow for a successful visit time.
3. 7PM end time allows for travel home and bath/ bedtime routiene.
1.[daughter] will need to have dinner.
2.Dinner can be accomodated at the covered dining space near the kids play area.
3. I can bring something for her to eat or you are welcome to provide a meal she will enjoy.
4. We can travel to and from that location with ease to allow more time for your visit.
C. Please send me the possible time and supervisor for 11/20/08. I am happy to work with you to make the best of your time spent here with [daughter].
Thanks, [Custodial Dad].
Kindly,
[The Ex]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665.
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From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 12:14:44 PM
Subject: Re: [The Ex]’s Response to [Custodial Dad]: Updated Time and Place Confirmation for November 19th & 20th Visitat with [daughter] [last name]a
My email shall serve as confirmation. Please have [daughter] available at 4 pm at the BOWLING ALLEY: [bowling alley in other state] Lanes [street in other state] [city in other state], [other state] [zip code] Phone: ([XXX]) [phone number]
I am unaware what time [daughter] starts school but I will be happy to meet her at 7 am at her favorite breakfast place. [Second visitation Supervisor] has us tentitively scheduled in, please confirm the time and place.
On Tue, Nov 11, 2008 at 11:57 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
To [Custodial Dad] [last name]:
1. Please provide [Second visitation Supervisor]’s contact information so I may confirm arrangements faster for your visit with [daughter].
2. Please review justifications for my suggestions in my previous e-mail, as tagged on below.
3.Supervisor is [Second visitation Supervisor] for Nov 20th also? Time, please.
4. I will work with you for a good visit.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 10:52:31 AM
Subject: Re: Updated: Time and Place Confirmation for November 19th & 20th Visitat with [daughter] [last name]ab
4-6PM is the time available W/[Second visitation Supervisor] unless [daughter] is in school we will see her then.
Preferred meeting/exchange place is Bowling Alley located in [town in other state] I will get address from [Second visitation Supervisor]s.
I will provide dinner for [daughter]
I will defer to [Second visitation Supervisor]s’ statement at our last meeting ‘this is my and [daughter]s’ visit’
Please advise what time I can see [daughter] before School the 20th
On Tue, Nov 11, 2008 at 10:33 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
To best accommodate [Second visitation Supervisor]’s availability on 11/19/08 and your stay in [town in other state], the best that I can do is the following:
Adjusted visit arrangements could be:
A. Time 5PM-6PM with [Second visitation Supervisor] and 6PM -7PM with another qualified supervisor approved by [Ex’s first other state lawyer].
1. [daughter] is available between 5PM and 7PM as 11/19/08 is a school night.
2. Since your latest expeced time is 4PM, it seems reliable to start at 5PM to allow for a successful visit time.
3. 7PM end time allows for travel home and bath/ bedtime routiene.
1.[daughter] will need to have dinner.
2.Dinner can be accomodated at the covered dining space near the kids play area.
3. I can bring something for her to eat or you are welcome to provide a meal she will enjoy.
4. We can travel to and from that location with ease to allow more time for your visit.
C. Please send me the possible time and supervisor for 11/20/08. I am happy to work with you to make the best of your time spent here with [daughter].
Thanks, [Custodial Dad].
Kindly,
[The Ex]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665.
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From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Cc: [email]@[email]
Sent: Monday, November 10, 2008 3:09:30 PM
Subject: Visitation on the 19th
[The Ex]
This letter is to determine the best possible time(s) for my visitation on the 19th.
[Second visitation Supervisor] has graciously accepted to be (your requested) supervisor again ... however her available time is pre 6PM and I am busy until about 3/3:30 but no later then 4PM that day. I was told there is a Bowling Alley near the Baseball Stadium and that can be our meet up area.
Breakfast the next morning would be very possible as well as long as it does not interrupt [daughter]s’ school day
C
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, November 11, 2008 9:59:04 AM
Subject: Time and Place COnfirmation for November 19th Visitation with [daughter] [last name]
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
1. Proposed Visit Schedule:
Place: [daughter] will meet you at [resturant] at the [mall] Town Center
Date: Wednesday, November 19th
Time: 5PM- 7PM
2. I am glad [Second visitation Supervisor] will be available for the visit. Please confirm the time with me and I will drop [daughter] to [Second visitation Supervisor] at the agreed upon time.
3. Will you be providing dinner for [daughter]? I can make arrangements for her to be fed beforehand, if need be.
Thank you for your kind cooperation.
God Bless.
[The Ex]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665
From: [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Friday, November 7, 2008 7:37:54 PM
Subject: November 19th Visitation
> [The Ex];
>
* I will be in [city in other state] again on November 19th as scheduled. I have set up to comply with your (highly unnecessary) demands to have a “supervisor present.” The same [Second visitation Supervisor] we met my last trip, has graciously agreed to attend the visit on the 19th after [daughter] is done with school. We will be happy to meet with you at the same mall again for the exchange.
>
* Just as an FYI, you already have an envelope that I sent previously for information and now that it is mandated, please forward the envelope back to me at your earliest convenience as the envelope has been in your possession for several months now.
>
* Thank you and I look forward to seeing [daughter] on the 19th.
>
> [Custodial Dad]
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ Time is that quality of nature which keeps events from happening all at once. Lately it doesn’t seem to be working.
* Anonymous ~
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ Time is that quality of nature which keeps events from happening all at once. Lately it doesn’t seem to be working.
* Anonymous ~
[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> Thu, Nov 13, 2008 at 8:42 AM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Cc: [Ex’s first other state lawyer] <[Ex’s first other state lawyer]@[email].com>, “[Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]” <[Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]@[Custodial Dad's Law Firm]>
Bcc: Wife <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>
[The Ex]
Since the Mediation [webcam software] meeting you have been MORE then well aware that I will be in [other state] the 19th. You and your attorney recommended [Second visitation Supervisor] and being that I am in [home state], I can not locate an alternate. If you are truly trying to help facilitate this meeting, YOU will find an alternate supervisor especially since your new demands be that your attorney give her stamp of approvaX I am in no way stating that [daughter] should miss school for the visit but if there is an extracurricular activity or your schedule interfering, I think being that you withheld visitation for so many years, you could alter the schedule for this one time.
Where I am mistaken or confused is your statement and I will quote, “You may call me at 3:30PM on 11/19 and text me and I can see if there is a possibility to get her to you and [Second visitation Supervisor] earlier than 5PM.” I am stating that the availability of [Second visitation Supervisor] is prior to 6 pm. If you choose not to locate an alternate supervisor then I will see [daughter] from 5 - 6 pm only. Understand that because you have an unsubstantiated claim that is probably [The Ex]dictive in nature, I am paying $75 per HOUR to satisfy your need. The very least you can do is not block my efforts after I satisfy your requests.
If you expect sympathy for you FINALLY facilitating contact, I am sorry I have none. By your own admission, this is highly unnecessary and a less than strategic attempt at delaying [daughter] an opportunity to be with her family. This is costing us all money. Like you, I am in school with a full time job but unlike you I have children and a spouse that I attend to. My time is just as precious as yours. By and through you, I have wasted time and money traveling to [other state] only to be stonewalled and bullied. When this matter goes before Judge [Other State Judge], there will be a chance to have a fair chance to allow [daughter] a chance to be parented by the BOTH of us.
If you can not and continue to refuse to cooperate, I will have [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] speak with [Ex’s first other state lawyer] directly to circumvent your obvious want of control of this situation. I believe [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] has already contacted her but should I allow the attorneys to schedule this event?
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[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> Thu, Nov 13, 2008 at 9:48 AM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Cc: [Ex’s first other state lawyer] <[Ex’s first other state lawyer]@[email].com>, “[Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]” <[Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer]@[Custodial Dad's Law Firm]>
Bcc: Wife <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>
[The Ex];
During my last visit to [other state] while you were attempting to schedule the visit with [daughter], at the [visitation site], you stated that your attorney was the one who required supervision—while both [Step Mother] and I were on the line with you. If you do not require supervision, why are you making this so difficult? I ask you to please do what is best for [daughter].
You are constantly telling me how much money [Ex’s first other state lawyer] is costing you and how she is requiring things you yourself no longer require. I would suggest you find an attorney whose agenda is more in line with your own.
Again, please either allow the visit as it stands or set up something more suitable to your attorney’s requirements.
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