[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Thu, Apr 15, 2010 at 9:24 PM
To: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Please reconsider mothers day weekend. It is same as graduation weekend for me. Please send me your proposal for mothers day weekend. As I have sent, my mom can fly [daughter] down and we can have her back for bedtime Sunday-mother s day. Please be considerate of this special time for me and [daughter].
Thanks.
[The Ex]
On Wed Apr 14th, 2010 9:07 PM EDT [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] wrote:
>[The Ex];
>I propose noon on Aug 1st until noon on Aug 15th. It is unreasonable to expect me to drive to [town in third state] (that late and that far for) and back for the expage for both drop off and pick up.
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>We can meet at [city third state] Airport at noon on each given day, unless [daughter] is staying in [THIRD STATE
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>We can do the tickets one of two ways, you can purchase the ticket and I will refund you one half of the price after you forward me proof of purchase or I can purchase [daughter] a direct ticket home and you will be soley responsible for her flight to [town in other state]. She is old enough to fly unattended on a direct flight. I can get her a direct ticket from [town in other state] to [town in home state] Airport, which is the most convenient airport for us. If you wish to accompany her, that will be your expense soley.
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>As for extended vacation, we will take it as it comes. We need to play that one by ear as there are many, many uncertanties already in place for this vacation. For instance, let us establish that contact will be daily for [daughter] and I, without interference, schedules, dropped calls or other various excuses that you have employed from time to time. I will also expect to know the exact location and verifiable address of where [daughter] will be staying PRIOR to her travels to [other state]. I will not allow her to be anywhere that I do not have an accurate and true address for and the [other state address] address will not suffice.
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>[Custodial Dad]
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>On Apr 14, 2010, at 5:14 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
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>> [Custodial Dad],
>> Got your message dated 4/13/2010.
>> The two weeks are confirmed- August 1st through 15th, 2010.
>> I would like another week- at least, so please let me know - tag a week on before or after this 8/1-8/15 time or do seperately.
>> (Ordered time is only a minimum. We can certainly extend from 15 day minimum.)
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>> As I notified you,
>> I will take [daughter] from August 1st, or before- through August 15th, 2010- and can extend after.
>> As you were comfortable with last year,
>> you can bring her to my mother’s home on [street] in [community], [town in third state], [third state], as we did last summer.
>> Drop off: You are welcome to bring [daughter] on Saturday, July 31st at 6:00PM so she can wake up with us on her first day with “Momma.” We can do dinner and bath with [daughter] on this first night.
>> Pick-up: You can pick her up at 7:00 PM on Sunday, August 15th so we can share dinner, if that works for you.
>> She can be in PJs for bed on transfer to you.
>> Travel to [other state]: We will bring her down to [town in other state], [other state] on either July 31st or August 1st via airplane.
>> When we are booking the flight, we will all have full flight information and I will send it to you via email.
>> Travel to [THIRD STATE
>> We will have her available for pick-up on August 15th in [third state].
>> She will be with me/ my family in [third state] and in [other state] for her stay.
>> Transportation:
>> [other state]ight: Attached is potential flight information. We can estimate between $300-400,+/- $100, for round trip ticket for [daughter].
>> All times are suggestions and may be paged to work the best for all, reasonable to visit schedule of course.
>> Let me know.
>> I will continue to search fares and will book the best rate. Will send as soon as I book.
>> Kind Regards,
>> [The Ex] [XXX].[xxx]-5236
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>> ----- Forwarded Message ----
>> From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
>> To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>; [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
>> Cc: [the ex email]@[The Ex’s school].edu
>> Sent: Tue, April 13, 2010 3:56:23 PM
>> Subject: Fw: Call schedule, psych info, summer request
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>> [Custodial Dad]:
>> I will take [daughter] on in August, as you have scheduled.
>> Th.anks.
>> [The Ex]
>>
>> ----- Forwarded Message ----
>> From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
>> To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
>> Sent: Wed, March 10, 2010 5:49:36 PM
>> Subject: Call schedule, psych info, summer request
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>> [Custodial Dad];
>> I understand to call at 7pm.
>> I understand that you will update me on her psychology session.
>> I will be available to participate in her psych sessions as you inform me of session schedule.
>> I understand that I am invited to call her guidance counselor.
>> You have sent the medical and dental office information but I have yet to recieve the psychologist information.
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>> Summer 2010: I will take [daughter] this summer for the scheduled time. Please send possible dates for 15day time sharing.
>> [daughter] misunderstood me. She is still just 7-8 years old. These pages are sudden and big for a child. I’m sure she is just trying to sort it all out.
>> Appreciate the contact and hope that your family is well.
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>> God Bless.
>> [The Ex]
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>> From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
>> To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[The Ex’s school].edu>
>> Sent: Tue, March 9, 2010 11:56:34 AM
>> Subject: [daughter] Update
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>> [The Ex];
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>> You are not replying or acknowledging my emails and I will just assume that you are reading them.
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>> [daughter] is attending [school] Elementary and her teacher is Mrs. [teacher]. [school] was not accepting late registrants although we appealed to Dr. [teacher], the [home town] Superintendent, she could not attend [school]. Her Guidance Counselor is Mrs. [guidence counselor]. You are more than welcomed to call them.
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>> She is doing very well. She has already made friends at school, she loves her new teacher and she is just shinning. I am very proud of the adjustment she is making thus far but we have an appointment with a therapist this evening.
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>> She is telling the school that you are picking her up, I think you need to confirm that you will not be doing so, at least not until the summer. Its not really appropriate that you tell her these things because its simply not going to occur. I think its better to address the situation as it is instead of giving her false hopes. The guidance counselor agrees with this statement, please try to respect that.
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>> I overheard [daughter] shouting last night about her door. She was upstairs in her room but was very loud as we all heard her. She has a door, she pages in the bathroom or with her door shut. She has privacy and knows how to make herself comfortable. I am saying this, although I have no real reason to explain it to you but so that no more false accusations are thrown by you.
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>> I think for now we need to limit the conversations a little bit, in time NOT in frequency. [daughter] just seems very upset with the conversations. I’ll address this more with the psychologist tonight and will relay his findings. If he feels it is appropriate, I will of course include you in on the sessions, if you want to be included. For now, a short call every night and a long [webcam software] or Sunday call to [daughter]’s wishes would be better.
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>> FYI: Bedtime is at 8PM. [daughter] typically showers at 7:30PM and so please try to call around 7PM, like I stated previously so she adjusts to the schedule appropriately. I am in no way, playing the ridiculous games that you did. I see the importance in [daughter] maintaining a relationship with you and your family. I’m contacting grandparents to let them all know [daughter]’s contact information. Please forward the information to [daughter]’s Aunt and Uncle as well.
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>> Thank You;
>> [Custodial Dad] [last name]
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>> [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]
>> [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
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>[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Thu, Apr 15, 2010 at 11:25 PM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[The Ex’s school].edu>
[The Ex];
I think I have been very clear on what my response is to your requests regarding this specific weekend and have answered in a multitude of different ways with a very consistent answer.
After speaking at length with Dr. [home town therapist], we agree that it is not appropriate for [daughter] to leave school and her routines for any length of time away with exception of her Summer Vacation as was scheduled in a separate email.
[daughter] already has an extraordinary absence record at her previous schools.
I am attempting to not only rid [daughter] of the thoughts you have filled her head with about me and my family but to let her finally adjust to a normal family life free from your ‘lifestyle choices.’
I really think we will use this Summer as a jumping point to determine future visitation and contact outside of the scope of the order because as of right now, you are barely communicating with me despite my many attempts at engaging you in [daughter]’s life.
Lastly, you have still failed to address or even acknowledge the multitude of emails and registered letters I have sent, unless of course it hinges on something that you want. Do you think you can take the time to review the multitude of letters I have sent over the past 30+ days and send some sort of notification that you are indeed viewing them? I already have confirmation of your receipt of them but I would like to know that you are indeed reading them.
[Custodial Dad]
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