[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Wed, Jul 14, 2010 at 1:34 PM
To: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, July 12, 2010 12:02:51 PM
Subject: Please reconsider sending [daughter]’s clothes and shoes for her trip so she has things that fit her when she gets here.
[Custodial Dad]:
Please reconsider sending [daughter]’s clothes and shoes so that she has things that fit.
It has been four months and I want to make sure she has things that fit when she gets here.
Please supply what she needs, at least so we’re not shopping in the first days for everything when you have things that fit her right now.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Sat, July 10, 2010 6:18:28 PM
Subject: Re:
[The Ex]
In a word - No. Pick up/Drop off will be shared equally, as is understood from Judge [Other State Judge]s Order. Therefore, you arrange for [daughter] to be picked up here in [home state] and I shall arrange for her to arrive back home. The burden of expecting me to transport [daughter] SIX HOURS to and from the airport is both unreasonable and completely unfair.
Therefore my proposal stands: [daughter] needs to be at the airport at 8:14 AM on August 1st, picking her up two hours prior to her need to be at the airport is ample time for her flight arrangements. I will make arrangements for her ride home from the airport per the [daughter]’s arrival at 2:59 on August 15th.
We can arrange a meeting point half way but that seems complicated for no reason as the half way point is in no area which I would choose to exchange [daughter] especially at 6 am in the morning nor pick her up on a Sunday afternoon (4pm-ish).
Luggage - [daughter] has many outfits that I purchased for her last summer that are in your possession plus ALL of her outfits from when she resided full time with you. Also, your “donation” of the many presents and cell phone that were given by me to [daughter] and your refusal to send [daughter] anything from [other state] during her time here leads me to believe that you will not return any items I send with her nor any of the items already in your possession which do still fit. Finally; I will speak with [daughter] to confirm any items she brought with her last summer and if there is anything I’ll send “it” along with the items we have noted to you previously (her last years Hannah Montana school bag - which I shall use as her carry on luggage - the princess sleeping bag, hairbrush and a pair of her underwear).
Communication - there are NO hard feelings, trust me.
Thanks Kindly
[Custodial Dad]
On Sat, Jul 10, 2010 at 1:05 PM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
So sorry to say, [Custodial Dad], but we need to work together a bit better to arrange drop off.
Picking [daughter] up from [home town] in the am on August first is not an option. Kindly choose any earlier day before August first or on July 31 st is fine. JET Blue had only this flight out on august 1st and offered non-stop for [daughter]’s comfort in travel.
My mother will not have enough time to taxi to the airport.
First offers of drop- off options are still open so please select either to have her at the airport by 6AM or give her to my mom on Saturday afternoon. No later time is ok as the policies at [city third state] result in long security lines and we do not want to have [daughter] hurried along.
Yout pick-up at teh gate on return is fine.
Luggage- You probably have already done this, but - here is the request anyway:
[Custodial Dad], please be sure that a 15 day supply of [daughter]’s clothes,undergarments shoes and personal items are packed with in size and weight restrictions so my mother and she can easily place her bag in the carry-on compartment in JET Blue aircraft.
Communication- Please cease to communicate in a critical fashion with me. I have my account savailable for all communication and repeatedly ask that you use this email exclusively. As [Step Mother] is [daughter]’s step-mom and your wife, I am here for her to communicate with as an option about my child. Thankfully, it was her prompt response which let me know you got this message on flight info. So I am grateful to [Step Mother]. I will leave the door open to [Step Mother], but I will write to you as Dad. No hard feelings please.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, July 9, 2010 10:16:47 PM
Subject: Re: HOrray you guys got the flight info! Fw: flight has been BOOKED and [home state]ID for [daughter]’s Summer Fw: flight info- third email- adter 4 text messages in two days to review - Plea for ordered daily calls Re: Time request for [daughter] and Mom this summer
[The Ex]:
I did not receive ANY of your text messages, please ensure you have the proper phone number - ([XXX]) [XXX] - 6052. The last text message I have from you is:
[The Ex] [last name] ([XXX]) [xxx]-5236 - mobile
6/21/10 7:50 PM 2 weeks ago
Inbox
[The Ex] [last name]: Pls take my call later. Just briefly spoke to [daughter] and phone disconnected. 7:50 PM
Me: Please call her prior to 8 pm like the order states. [daughter] has early morning for summer camp like she mentioned. 7:52 PM
Me: calling you back now 7:53 PM
Me: [daughter] said your mailbox is full. Tried to call you back. If you are able [webcam software] or email tomorrow. Otherwise, good night. 7:55 PM
First off, demanding a reply less than 24 hours after the initial message is absurd specifically when I have three certified letters over the past three months asking you to finalize plans. The headers attached to the email state July 8, 2010 5:33:53 as the send time and the forward I received from [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] this evening was dated by your attorney as July 9, 2010 at 11:24am. I will also direct you to the time and date stamp on the attachment which lists - 4:46 and 4:48 on the 8th as creation dates - this information is located right next to the word doc titled: “[last name] Email Blitz.” I am uncertain where I made you wait “two days” nor where your attorney contacted mine two days ago when all the evidence points to a little over 24 hours ago?!
I was unavailable by email for the last few days as I was in testing, which I am sure you understand. Please be assured that every email that warrants a reply is and always has been properly addressed in an acceptable time frame. However, your emails do not always take precedence and some times you will simply have to wait more than a few hours for a response. Considering there are many, many emails that remain unanswered by you, I am unsure from where your audacity stems from.
I propose your mother pick up [daughter] from my home on Sunday, August 1st. We are 1 hour and 30 minutes to [city third state] Airport especially on a Sunday morning with zero traffic. I believe you have the address: [home state address]reet, [home town], [home state] [zip]. She needs to be there one hour prior to flight (at 8 am) so having her pick up [daughter] at 6:00/15 AM would suffice. I will ensure [daughter] is awake, dressed and prepared for her departure.
I will pick up [daughter] from [city third state] on August 15th at 3 pm at the gate for Jet Blue arrivals.
Finally, I do not have a partner nor an affiliate but I do have a wife. Its sad that you do not value nor respect marriage enough to address her by her proper title nor is it mature to habitually and incorrectly spell her name and to emphasize the misspelling with a capital letter is doubly asinine. To be clear, my WIFE has asked you not to contact her directly, once in email, once in text and once in open court while she was testifying. The address you had was inadvertently obtained and not for your use. I am sure that you have the appropriate contact information for [Custodial Dad’s home state lawyer] to forward to your attorney. This will be the last time I address this issue because if you had not guessed it, my wife can obviously handle her own legal affairs and will deal with you accordingly. You have my family email address and our home contact information, there is no reason to address my wife specifically through her personal account especially when you are sending redundant messages without waiting an acceptable time frame for a response.
I’ve laid out my proposal for the exchange and await your response on that. [daughter], apparently, is thrilled to spend her holiday with you... she does seem to have some exuberant plans!
x
On Jul 9, 2010, at 9:19 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
FANTASTIC!
So you guys are aware of the flight arrangements for [daughter] with Granny.
Great. Just send that final details ASAP.
In response to my notice to you about the flight details, I was delighted to just opened [spelled incorrectly Step Mother]’s emails to my account, however unfortunate the tone and content - But that I’ll leave to my Attorney to manage as this behavior is historical- Granny was told her calls were going to be blocked. grand-dad was told not to call I see the trend. Sad. Let’s modify that , shall we, [Custodial Dad]? a little kindness and cooperation goes far.
Please see that your affiliates/ partner DO NOT SEND me emails if they do not want to be contacted under your contact information.
I was meerly trying to reach you as was my attorney- for two days.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com; [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com; [Step Mother] [last name] <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, July 9, 2010 6:28:32 PM
Subject: flight has been BOOKED and [home state]ID for [daughter]’s Summer Fw: flight info- third email- adter 4 text messages in two days to review - Plea for ordered daily calls Re: Time request for [daughter] and Mom this summer
Please see attached for flight details as the flight has been booked. Even got one better rate on return.
I will send you information to deposit your half of [daughter]’s fare and half of taxes to my account.
Please respond either through attorneys or this email.
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com; [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com; [Step Mother] [last name] <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, July 9, 2010 5:53:54 PM
Subject: flight info- third email- adter 4 text messages in two days to review - Plea for ordered daily calls Re: Time request for [daughter] and Mom this summer
[Custodial Dad]:
Please send confirmation on flight details. The time for drop off will have to be at 6am at the airport to get [daughter] on the plane incase you want to use the one hour window for drop off in the order. Otherwise drop [daughter] to my mother on Saturday night as detailed below.
Also, please start calling me daily as per the order. Detailed below. Attorney consulted. Order is specific to daily phone contact- talking for [daughter] with Mom- not voicemail, email etc. [webcam software] is optional and not possible for me right now. We both have phones. Please place the calls daily for [daughter] to talk with Mom.
Exerpt in Final Order for Sup petition: page 19, number 4.
Point made in other parts of documemts also.
I beg you to comply. I am available anytime for [daughter]’s calls. We have a 9am to 8 pm window. Please use these eleven hours well to promote and make contact for [daughter] with Mom.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
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From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Sent: Thu, July 8, 2010 5:33:53 PM
Subject: Dad denies time for child to Mom Re: Time request for [daughter] and Mom this summer
[Custodial Dad]:
Extended time with Mom denied: I understand that you will not extend time.
Please work with me to have [daughter] be able to have her time with me. My family will loan the flight costs initially to allow me to book on the credit card. My mother will be responsible to travel with [daughter] to [other state] and is able to allow us the option of transferring [daughter] to her care to accommodate the flight schedule. She has adjusted her work schedule to help us with getting [daughter] to [other state] on the days you have decided. Please read the details below and promptly send back the final decisions so I can book without loosing the flight rates attached. Thanks for your cooperation, [Custodial Dad].
flight Finalization- Arrangements and we pay costs up-front: I am prepared to book the flight and I want to have your decision on drop off. Please work with us as my family will be paying for all costs up front and my mother will pay her own fare to escort [daughter] to [other state] to be with me for her [other state] summer time with Mom.
flight Reimbursement for half of [daughter]’s costs in two weeks: The fares are attached with the flight times. I will send you the total and will send you my account deposit slip to pay your half of [daughter]’s fare within two weeks so I can put that toward the credit card bill for August. Is that ok?
Holiday address to locate home: [daughter] will be spending two weeks with me and my family, as previously stated, at [other state address] Court, [town in other state], [other state] in the gated community of [community]. Here is the google site for our home : http://maps.google.com/maps?map_medium=ha&utm_source=en-ha-na-us-bk-3dmfe&utm_term=googlemaps
Drop off options: My mother will be traveling with [daughter] to [other state] and will travel with her back North to you.
The flight information is attached from Jet Blue below for both departure and arrival.
Please decide if you want to bring [daughter] for check in at the [city third state] Airport, Jet Blue counter at seven (7am) in the morning on August first(1st) to my mother who will be awaiting [daughter] there...
OR
do you want to meet my mother half way between [town in third state] and [town in home state] on Saturday afternoon, July 31st, so that she can be responsible for [daughter]’s travel to the airport in the morning? Granny is at the home you picked up at last summer and that is where [daughter] will stay before the flight out : [third state address] St, [town in third state] , [zip] in the privae, gated community of [community].
Pick up options: For pick up on August 15th, you can come to the airport and meet them at the gate if you want [daughter] back immedately. Otherwise, you can get her from my mother’s upon their return to [third state address] St on Sunday evening or Monday morning. It is flexible for us. Let me know what works for you all. We can arrange drivng half way to meet you on Monday if you want. Just let me know your decisions and I will book the tickets.
I have texted you to please open this email.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Fri, July 2, 2010 7:35:39 PM
Subject: Re: Time request for [daughter] and Mom this summer
[The Ex]:
[daughter] is in Summer Camp from June 21 - August 15, which is giving her an opportunity to get to know her peers and students that will be attending her new school. She is already missing two weeks of summer camp due to her visit with you and she is none to please but it is the best we could arrange I think. With the exclusion of one week, we have successfully equally divided [daughter]’s free summer vacation schedule. FYI, I intend to take [daughter] on vacation the week she returns and that gives her a week prior to school to prepare and attend orientation.
Further, as I have stated to you previously, I have reserved judgement on extending contact until after her first visit with you on August 1 - 15 depending upon [daughter]’s reaction and/or regression during her time with you. I am awaiting Dr. [home town therapist]’s advice on how to proceed. I am already uncomfortable as it took THREE certified letters to get you to address your change in living arrangements and mailing address. If this goes well, we can certainly address future visitation.
I have no intention of driving to and from [third state] to drop off and pick up [daughter]. That is simply unfair to ask that I do that. Will her Grandmother be transporting [daughter]? If so, we will need to arrange a meeting area that is mutually acceptable with each of us driving ½ of the distance. I will ask that you secure plane tickets and finalize the plans immediately.
Thanks Again;
[Custodial Dad]
On Jul 2, 2010, at 6:54 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
Can we agree to give [daughter] a chance to have more time with me this summer?
As I have notified you, I have been available full time for June 2010, and will be for July 2010, and possibly for August 2010. My parents are also available to be with [daughter] full time.
I can get the school supply list and send [daughter] with all her supplies and purchase uniforms for her school year to save you prep-time in late August.
[daughter] can be dropped off to her Granny’s in [third state] and Granny will fly with her to [other state] and back to [third state]. We can set a time for drop off and pick up with final flight schedule and what works for your family.
I will make the flight arrangements. Please indicate what can be offered to [daughter]:
Since you have failed to respond to my requests in June, lets start with mid July.
Option 1: July 17 start date to extend through five days before school begins
Option 2. July 24 start date to extend through five days before school begins
Option 3: August first start date to extend through five days before school begins
Please feel free to offer another option that extends the August 1st to 15th trip so [daughter]’s stay is continious to reduce flight time.
Thanks for your kind consideration, [Custodial Dad].
Please reply via email promptly so we can purchase tickets and plan for [daughter].
Kind Regards,
[The Ex] [last name]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Mon, June 28, 2010 3:42:37 PM
Subject: June Update: Requests for Responses
CERTIFIED MAIL RETURN RECEIPT
ELECTRONIC MAIL
[The Ex] [last name]
[street address in other state] [third state] Road
[town in other state], [other state] [zip]
Dear [The Ex]:
I am still awaiting a response to the many, many unanswered questions. I have attached the last two letters that went unanswered.
There are two pressing issues that need to be resolved ASAP:
1. I do NOT have an accurate social security number for [daughter]. I have asked repeatedly for a copy of her card for my records/ to update [insurance company] as they require a fax to update their records and the number so I may obtain a card for [daughter]. I was able to utilize the copy of the birth certificate that was in her [school] folder until the certified copy came in.
2. It has been brought to my attention through several verifiable sources that you do NOT reside at the [street in other state] home. Unless you provide me with an accurate and verifiable address, [daughter] will NOT be traveling to [other state] until this has been cleared up. I have given you ample notice and if you refuse to comply then I will have no choice other than to restrict your visitation with [daughter]. Further, we need to finalize the visitation schedule in regards to drop off, pick up and flight information which should have been finalized months ago per the order which specifies April 15. As this is the first of hopefully many vacations, I am allowing this to drag out however next year I will demand a formal and finalized plan by the date given.
As for [daughter]’s update:
A. School and Summer Camp:
1. She had a fantastic end of school and will be going to third grade at [home town] Intermediate Elementary along with her classmates. She has already toured the school and has met the principal and vice principal socially last summer. She is very excited to be going to the third grade. She starts school the last week in August and will be in uniform per the [home town] School District Requirements. [daughter] mentioned that you wanted to purchase some items for her. If that is the case, please visit this website: http://www.[newspaper in home state].com/assets/pdf/PR435515.PDF to confirm what is and is not acceptable.
2. Summer Camp: She had a fantastic week of summer camp and is already making friends. I believe she already knows several girls in her group from school and from her other siblings. She is doing an excellent job of communicating what is going on there and I think I will let her fill you in on the details of camp herself.
B. Medical/Dental: She has been very diligent with maintaining her palate extender and her speech is about 80 - 90% back to normal. She is a model patient for [orthodontist]. Her sessions with Dr. [home town therapist] are going well. We are all amazed at how wonderful her adjustment has been. He has reserved a session prior to her departure and upon her arrival home to ensure that progress is not lost during her vacation and time with you.
C. [daughter]’s Mailings: [daughter] has had several letters returned to us as address unknown or recipient unknown. I know that in my last message I requested an updated mailing address and also requested that you acknowledge her mailings to [daughter] directly. It is important for [daughter] to know that you are receiving the items she is sending to you. She is very gracious to say thank you to the sticker mailings and it would only be polite to return the favor to her. I am sure to give [daughter] her mailing’s that are returned so that she may hand deliver them to you directly.
D. Communication: [daughter] is still asking to [webcam software] with you. I have offered a multitude of times and find it hard to imagine that you do not want face to face interaction with [daughter]. I am again, throwing that out there in case you have somehow changed your mind. To remind you, there are several web cafes in the [town in other state] area that able to allow you a chance to [webcam software] with [daughter] for low cost, if you no longer have access to a computer.
Again, you really need to comply and respond to my requests for information. You are barely acknowledging anything being said to you however, [daughter] mentions you are directly mentioning certain things to her that should be directed through me. I am attempting to co-parent with you, despite the order, however you are making this beyond difficult. Please take a few moments to respond to the messages, letters and text messages sent to you.
Take good care;
[Custodial Dad] [last name]
[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]
[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]
[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
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