[spelled incorrectly Step Mother]’s Thankgivin Plans

[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

Mon, Oct 27, 2008 at 6:54 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Hi, [spelled incorrectly Step Mother].

Sent [Custodial Dad] proposed schedule.  Please let me know what works for you all.

Kindly,

[The Ex]

From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

Cc: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>

Sent: Thursday, October 23, 2008 3:48:03 PM

Subject: Re: Pre- Mediation discussion communication

[The Ex], 

I heard through [Custodial Dad] that you wanted to discuss our plans for thanksgivingg with me.  I left you a message but  feel free to either call or email me directly!

Thanks!

[Step Mother] [last name]

On Oct 21, 2008, at 12:19 PM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:

Hi, [Custodial Dad] and [spelled incorrectly Step Mother].

Thanks for relaying the messages, [spelled incorrectly Step Mother].

The earlier I get a confirmation for [daughter]’s time with [Custodial Dad] today, the better.  I appreciate the prompt attention to my call

[Custodial Dad], as per your request to come to some agreements before tomorrow’s session, I’m glad [spelled incorrectly Step Mother] was able to communicate to you that I would be willing to meet in a public space with Mall security.  Figured we could both be comfortable.

However, we do not have to meet in person.

[Custodial Dad], any form of discussion you would like is fine with me.  Call me.  Email is OK... I am borrowing a computer and I may be able to check in a few hours.

Thank you both.

Kindly,

[The Ex]

([XXX]) [XXX]-4665

From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

To: The [last name] [last name]s <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Cc: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>; [the ex email]@[email].com

Sent: Tuesday, October 21, 2008 11:53:11 AM

Subject: Re: Visit with [daughter] today and tomorrow

Okay, a quick update.  Just spoke with [The Ex] at 11:40 and she stated that she set up a time and paid the fee for you to meet with [daughter] at the [visitation supervision center] from 4:30 to 6:30 with [visitation site supervisor].  I did state that I do not speak for you but I didn’t think you would be comfortable being forced to see [daughter] in that center again.  She asked if you could “set something up” for tomorrow.  She also stated that she wanted to meet with you at a mall in [city in other state] to discuss mediation.  Again, I told her that while I do not speak for you but I didn’t think you’d be that comfortable with meeting with her personally.  She stated it was a “open space with tons of security.”  I informed [The Ex] that I believed you wanted to do this via telephone and she should speak with you directly.

Again, she does not have email available today so please call her directly.

The [last name] [last name]s

Happiness belongs to the self-sufficient.

- Aristotle

On Oct 21, 2008, at 11:13 AM, The [last name] [last name]s wrote:

[Custodial Dad], 

I just spoke with [The Ex] today at 11 am.  She stated that she will make [daughter] available to visit with you while you are in [other state].  I know you are landing around 12 pm so I told her you should be available for [daughter] around 1 pm.  She also stated that she knew you’d love to see [daughter] “as much as possible” and I informed her that I believe you will need to be at the airport by 5 pm tomorrow.  She mentioned “setting some things up” and I am unsure of what that actually entails.  Please call [The Ex] ASAP so that you can iron out all the details.

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Tue, Oct 28, 2008 at 12:26 PM

To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

[The Ex];

I think [Custodial Dad] may have given you my answer already but I will tell you personally.  My answer is no, I do not think it is a good idea for you to “tag along” during our holidays escpecially during this transition.

Your suggestion of forcing all of us into a pseudo-relationship to portray a false image will not be helpful to [daughter].  Children are not stupid... the tone that you and [Custodial Dad] use with each other is not friendly and quite obvious to everyone with ears.

You needed “mall security” at the last exchange - there will be no security in my home and the threat, i.e. [Custodial Dad]’s height, remains present..  I can’t trust that you will not fabricate or exaggerate more stories if we do invite you.

[daughter] and her siblings need a chance to get to know each other; [Custodial Dad] needs a chance to bond and reconnect with his daughter.  Your presence will hinder any progress.

At this point, I think you need to examine your own motives as it simply seems ill-advised and selfish.  Maybe in the future, there will come a time that this is possible but right now it seems foolish.

[Step Mother]

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