Answers to previously asked/addressed questions

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Thu, Apr 1, 2010 at 4:38 PM

To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[The Ex’s school].edu>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

[The Ex]:

Attached in its entirety is a letter sent to you via certified mail, return receipt requested.  I seem to be answering redundant questions and I thought it best to serve this in writing, in a multitude of formats, for brevity and comprehension.  Please note that each question asked, was answered no less than twice and in some instances four times however, you have failed to address any of my questions posed to you directly.  I have asked your intentions on sending [daughter] personal artifacts; I have asked for an updated medical providers list including mental health professionals; I have asked where [daughter] obtained her vision prescription and have addressed summer visitation twice all with no acknowledgement and/or response.

[Custodial Dad]

CERTIFIED MAIL RETURN RECEIPT

ELECTRONIC MAIL

Dear [The Ex]:

I wanted to address all the issues in one letter to save redundancy.

A. Contact:

Here is the list of medical providers and education providers that [daughter] sees.  There is no aftercare, daycare or babysitters.  In the rare instance [daughter] is in need of supervision besides myself or [Step Mother], we have ample friends and family to do so.

Doctors

Pediatrician ([xxx]) [xxx] - 3151

Dentist ([xxx]) [xxx] - 0711

Orthodontist ([xxx]) 691- 4450

Psychologist ([XXX]) 476 - 1955

School

[school] Elementary (Mrs. [teacher])  ([XXX]) [xxx] - 7277

Summer Camp

To be determined after your response on summer visitation

B. Summer Visitation Schedule:  

I propose August 1st - 15th, 2010 for visitation as it will give [daughter] the opportunity to attend summer camp with her peers and classmates as well as allowing her ample time to return home and readjust before the new school year.

C. Daily Contact:

Per Dr. [home town therapist]’s suggestion, he suggests this schedule for contact between you and [daughter]:

Telephone

Monday 7PM

Wednesday 7PM

Friday 7PM

Telephone and/or [webcam software]

Sundays 6:30 PM (To allow for longer contact.)

Email

Tuesday (anytime)

Thursday (anytime)

Saturday (anytime)

His suggestions are based on the conversations he personally witnessed in which you:

a. Tell [daughter] it is acceptable to sneak and use the telephone when we are all sleeping;

b. Your refusal to stop setting up visitation with [daughter];

c. Your statements to [daughter] referring to me as “Hog Boss, President of War, Rule Maker, etc”

d. Your constant interrogation of [daughter] concerning my schedule and the schedules of my wife and children;

e. Your statements to [daughter] that I “played a trick” on the both of you and;

f. That you intend to “fix this” and come pick her up; 

among other things...

I have suggested to you on numerous occasions that you telephone Dr. [home town therapist] directly if you have an issue with the contact schedule and/or his reasonings to limit the contact as he has done so.  I will attempt to text to remind you to call however, please feel free to take the initiative prior to the 8PM deadline.  [daughter] showers at 7:30 and is in bed by 8PM.  This time will allow [daughter] a schedule and time frame free of activities, chores and bedtime rituals. I am navigating this situation as best as I can and I am relying heavily on the guidance of Dr. [home town therapist] as an expert in these types of situations.

D. Maternal Grandparent Contact:

Due to their abuse of my telephone lines and refusal to abstain from scheduling visitation with [daughter], I have forwarded your parents’ calls directly to voicemail.  Your father is able to email [daughter] on a daily basis and I constantly remind [daughter], that she can email and/or telephone both of them.  I would like to leave contact open to [daughter]’s wishes, she appears to prefer to email your father and I suggest she contact them on holidays and/or special occasions.  At this juncture, I do not believe it is appropriate to schedule sleep overs or visitation with them.  I am sure you will have ample time to allow [daughter] visits with the both of them this summer.

F. Time off from school for your graduation:

[daughter] has missed an a lot amount of school time thus far.  I believe the total is at twelve UNEXCUSED school days not including the two day enrollment period.  I broached this subject with Dr. [home town therapist] and he agrees, while it is a monumental occasion in your life, it is no reason for [daughter] to miss school.  You need to separate your wants and wishes from that of [daughter].

G. Video recording of [daughter]’s Talent show

I am having technical difficulties with putting it to disc but I will send you a recording of it shortly whether though email or registered mail.

H. Insurance Information

There has not been an update in Insurance Information.  If you choose to obtain a supplemental policy, that is fine however my policy is pretty comprehensive covering an array of specialists and services. Again, absent any medical emergencies, you will not need to bring [daughter] to any medical care provider anyway.

I think I covered all the questions that seem to need constant re-addressing.

Take good care;

[Custodial Dad] [last name]

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Attached: 10 email threads which addressed these same issues dated March 3 - March 28, 2010