[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Mon, Mar 22, 2010 at 2:08 AM
To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
I understand from your email that [daughter] is actively covered by your present employer’s coverage at [last name] & [last name]oy(X).
Question- Is that the insurance card to which you refer from last summer? I think that the X card is the latest I have in my wallet.
With your permission,
I will look into any additional covrage I can provide so we both cover her as fully as we can-
In effect, I will seek to cover any gaps, if any in your insurance.
Please let me know.
Thanks for the response.
God Bless.
[The Ex]
From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Wed, March 10, 2010 7:02:41 PM
Subject: Re: [daughter]’s items & health insurance & emergency number
[The Ex];
Let this serve as a reply to all of your messages.
Let’s not mince words:
Psychologist
As you are well aware, the calls are recorded and for your information, I will be sharing them, in their entirety, with her psychologist, Dr. [home town therapist]. I believe that will paint a more accurate picture as evidenced by your reply here.
Dr. [home town therapist] will decide whether or not your input is warranted but thus far, he appears to have a good picture of the situation. He has a copy of the order and will of course provide you with information but doubts your input will be necessary, however he reserves the right to page his mind.
Contact
I received fourteen (14) separate calls from you and your parents last night. This is unacceptable and inexcusable. [Step Mother] informed the both of your parents that if they abuse our telephone line by calling repeatedly, we will no longer allow direct contact and will forward their calls to voicemail thus only allowing [daughter] to return calls. Be mindful, we have children that are in bed or preparing for bed and the calls are disruptive and nothing short of obscene.
As for a contact schedule, I have asked repeatedly to schedule a long conversation on Sunday. There is just not enough time in the day to devote to an hour conversation every day. As I stated previously, she is preparing for bed beginning at 7:30PM and barring an activity, 7PM is an ideal time. Why don’t you give [daughter] the phone numbers and she can contact whomever she sees fit, at her convenience?
Cell Phone
The cell phone I sent to [daughter] was not yours to donate. Please send me her telephone back or she will not be given a new one, period. I have asked for over a year for you to return the cell phone, please do so immediately. If you donated it or lost it, please say so as I will report it lost to our cell phone company.
[daughter]’s Requests
It has been a week, I do hope that you intend to send some of [daughter]’s personal items soon. She has requested at least Beary Bear four times that I am aware of. I know that she asked me and I forwarded her request to you several times personally. I will be sure to give [daughter] any items that you or her other relatives and friends send. [daughter] has sent two letters to your [other state address] Address, please acknowledge receipt of her letters so that we can confirm we are using the proper address. [daughter], did not request the pictures, I did. I want her to know how much I value and respect her love for you by allowing her to display pictures of you in her room.
Insurance
You have [daughter]’s insurance card as it was received by you and notice was signed last summer. As per the order, you are not permitted to take [daughter] to A[other state] doctor barring an emergency, even when she is in your care.
Additional Contact Information
You have all of the contact information that you require. To be honest, I can not trust that you will not abuse any additional contact information that your receive, please continue to use ([XXX]) [XXX] - 6052 as this number rings all of my phone lines at once. I do not believe having your school information will be necessary, but thank you.
[Custodial Dad]
On Mar 10, 2010, at 6:31 PM, [The Ex] [last name] wrote:
[Custodial Dad]:
[daughter] has only asked me daily about when she is coming home.
She has not asked me to send her things.
I will find out what she wants and send those and her birthday presents.
Please send [daughter]’s health insurance information for my files for summer. Aslo, so I may take out medical/dental/ psych coverage to compliment your policy, as may be needed.
Emergency number
Please send me an emergengy number at which I can reach you at work.
You can call my cell phone anytime and when I am on hosiptal rotations, [The Ex’s school] College, Nursing Department- ask for Sandi at [XXX] [xxx]9[XXX]- and they will be able to find me through my instructor immediately. We resume school on Monday of next week.
Thank you.
[The Ex]
To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Cc: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[The Ex’s school].edu>
Sent: Tue, March 9, 2010 1:09:39 PM
Subject: Re: [daughter] Update
Also - [daughter] has asked you several times as have I... she would like some of her belongings here and we all would be very grateful if you can mail them, especially [daughter]. We also need her cell phone back so that she may get a new phone.
We are still decorating her room (final touches, etc) and if you want to send some pictures of you and/or you and [daughter] so that we can frame them and put them up, I’m sure [daughter] would like that as well. Feel free to include pictures of her grandparents, [The Ex’s Current Husband], her pig etc... [The Ex’s Current Husband] is more than welcomed to call [daughter] as well. He was an important figure in her life and he, of course, is still her Step Father regardless of where [daughter] is.
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On Mar 9, 2010, at 11:56 AM, [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] wrote:
> [The Ex];
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> You are not replying or acknowledging my emails and I will just assume that you are reading them.
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> [daughter] is attending [school] Elementary and her teacher is Mrs. [teacher]. [school] was not accepting late registrants although we appealed to Dr. [teacher], the [home town] Superintendent, she could not attend [school]. Her Guidance Counselor is Mrs. [guidence counselor]. You are more than welcomed to call them.
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> She is doing very well. She has already made friends at school, she loves her new teacher and she is just shinning. I am very proud of the adjustment she is making thus far but we have an appointment with a therapist this evening.
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> She is telling the school that you are picking her up, I think you need to confirm that you will not be doing so, at least not until the summer. Its not really appropriate that you tell her these things because its simply not going to occur. I think its better to address the situation as it is instead of giving her false hopes. The guidance counselor agrees with this statement, please try to respect that.
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> I overheard [daughter] shouting last night about her door. She was upstairs in her room but was very loud as we all heard her. She has a door, she pages in the bathroom or with her door shut. She has privacy and knows how to make herself comfortable. I am saying this, although I have no real reason to explain it to you but so that no more false accusations are thrown by you.
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> I think for now we need to limit the conversations a little bit, in time NOT in frequency. [daughter] just seems very upset with the conversations. I’ll address this more with the psychologist tonight and will relay his findings. If he feels it is appropriate, I will of course include you in on the sessions, if you want to be included. For now, a short call every night and a long [webcam software] or Sunday call to [daughter]’s wishes would be better.
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> FYI: Bedtime is at 8PM. [daughter] typically showers at 7:30PM and so please try to call around 7PM, like I stated previously so she adjusts to the schedule appropriately. I am in no way, playing the ridiculous games that you did. I see the importance in [daughter] maintaining a relationship with you and your family. I’m contacting grandparents to let them all know [daughter]’s contact information. Please forward the information to [daughter]’s Aunt and Uncle as well.
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> Thank You;
> [Custodial Dad] [last name]
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> [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]
> [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
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[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Mon, Mar 22, 2010 at 8:53 AM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
[The Ex];
If you desire to obtain secondary insurance for [daughter], please go ahead and do so.
I am uncertain of how many different ways I can tell you but: [daughter] has coverage. You have an appropriate card to take her to the doctor in case of an emergency.
What is your obsession with the insurance information and my work schedule? [daughter] has been covered since 2004 whether you utilized her insurance information or not.
Please stop asking me as this will be the last time I address this situation. If there is a page, before [daughter] goes to you for the summer, I will ensure I update you.
[Custodial Dad]
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