[home town therapist] direct contact schedule? Re: [daughter]’s September Update

[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> 

Sun, Sep 26, 2010 at 8:58 PM 

To:   [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com> 

So, what is that again?

[home town therapist] decides the contact schedule and duration?

Not the Judge’s order?

Huh?  Does [home town therapist] know this?  He didn’t when I asked him!

Please clarify.

And what’s this about calling/ [webcam software]?  Who are you calling?  Who are you skyping with?

Cause it’s certainly NOT me.

“Please check the number and dial again.”

Do you not know about ‘phone logs.”

[webcam software] logs?

Oh, that’s right you did not have those REAL records at trial BECAUSE you MADE YOUR up! 

Just let me know about [home town therapist]’s scope of practice in law and psychology, will ya, [Custodial Dad].

From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

To:   [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>; [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[college other state].edu>

Sent: Wed, September 22, 2010 2:27:52 PM

Subject:    [daughter]’s September Update

[The Ex]

I will be sending these via email as you have finally acknowledged receipt and although your father was signing for the previous updates, it does not appear you actually read them.

Text really should not be used for in depth communication.  In one day, I received over FIFTY texts from you at obscene hours.  Please refrain from calling and texting outside of the designated hours as it simply disruptive and annoying.  If you truly wish to communicate with [daughter], I do not believe you can achieve that by texting me at midnight.  In addition, last night you telephoned SEVEN times in five minutes... that simply achieves nothing as we have caller ID and voice mail.. ONE call is sufficient in that time frame.

A. School: [daughter] is doing fantastic at school.  Her teacher Ms. [teacher] is very familiar with our family as [daughter]’s older brother had her as a student teacher and Ms. [teacher] also knows us from [sibling]’s time at [SCHOOL].  We are very happy to have such great teachers with [daughter] this year.  Principal [teacher] and her guidance counselor, Ms. [teacher], only have positive things to say about [daughter].  [daughter] is already making fast friends at school. Please ensure you are on the school’s mailing list, as I know that they are more than happy to forward you all documents as they are distributed.  Attached is [daughter]’s self portrait that she drew and her brief bio/home information.

B. Medical: [daughter] has been seen by [orthodontist] regarding the swelling and scrapped tongue.  I didn’t take her when she initially arrived because there was no swelling and/or marks on her tongue which would prompt a visit.  I am very curious as to how that occurred when her tongue never scrapped or was swollen in the previous four months including the weeks following the installation of the palate extender.  [daughter] couldn’t explain it either. Her cold is obviously better and didn’t require a Doctor’s visit either as it was a very mild cold that we passed back and forth for a few weeks.

[daughter]’s sessions with Dr. [home town therapist] have been very revealing.  I am thankful that she has a provider that she trusts and can talk to without worry or inhibition.  As I mentioned previously, please do not make appointments with Dr. [home town therapist] that you have no intention of keeping.  We want to keep a cordial and professional relationship with Dr. [home town therapist] and his staff.

C. Activities: [daughter] was signed up for Cheerleading and she is really excited to start in October. This is a great [community in other state] in to dance, gymnastics and possibly even acting/chorus and although quite a commitment [daughter] is very very excited at meeting new friends and participating in such a great team activity.

D. Communication: After discussion with Dr. [home town therapist] and [daughter], we will be calling every night and a [webcam software] on Sunday.  Please be mindful that there are times where contact is not feasible.  We will do our best to facilitate contact every night.  Please understand [daughter] has cheerleading three nights a week, sessions with Dr, [home town therapist] on top of homework, chores, dinner, bath and bedtime rituals to fit within four hours every evening.  Further, an hour conversation is just not possible every night.  Also, you mentioned some difficulties with the phone calls.  Please understand that [daughter] telephones you from home from our HOME line - there are no reception or dropped calls on a home line.  Understand that [daughter] does have younger siblings and most nights, I am upstairs with them preparing for bed and some nights we are all awake doing an activity or family time together.  I am sorry it disrupts or so greatly disturbs you but it does not bother [daughter].  [daughter] does know that at anytime, she may go into the office or kitchen for quiet to remover herself from the noise level. And of course [daughter] may contact you via email, [webcam software] or telephone at her discretion.  *Please check and respond to your emails as I know she have sent several since August.

E. Pictures: As I am certain you know from your visits to [SCHOOL], Picture Day is today.  I do hope that you made arrangements to purchase pictures.  If not, I can provide you with the website to order photos.  Also, I reconfirmed with [daughter] that you did receive the pictures she sent.  I will continue to facilitate [daughter] sending you pictures as she enjoys that aspect of the emails.  Also, I will mention again, [daughter] would love a picture of you for her bedside table, if you are feeling generous.

F. Children and Youth: You have been attempting to allude to your non-involvement with Children and Youth... I have failed to address this with you as a. you were the one to call and b. we were cleared by the several tiers of the agency due to your escalated claims.  It is a shame that you feel it is necessary to abuse these resources and waste not only their time but embarrass [daughter] and [sibling] as they overheard the officer confirm it was you making these calls, [sibling] has been a wonderful big-brother in reassuring [daughter] that none of this was/is her fault.

Any valid questions and/or concerns please email me.

[Custodial Dad] [last name]

[Step Mother] [last name] [last name]

[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com

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[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>  Sun, Sep 26, 2010 at 9:25 PM 

To:   [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> 

     

Hopefully you will speak to Dr. [home town therapist] yourself on Thursday, if you show up this time.

Your attorney didn’t challenge the validity of the records. You didnt produce any evidence at trial. You don’t get a do over.

Let it go, move forward.

Sent from my iPhone

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[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> 

Mon, Sep 27, 2010 at 10:54 AM 

To:   [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com> 

     

Noted: Your belief in your ability to dictate rules and processes for others.

     

Noted: Your belief that I have an appointment confirmed with [home town therapist], twice.

From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

To:   [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

Sent: Sun, September 26, 2010 9:25:14 PM

Subject:    Re: [home town therapist] direct contact schedule? Re: [daughter]’s September Update

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[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com> 

Mon, Sep 27, 2010 at 11:03 AM 

To:   [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> 

     

Note that my telling you to “Let it go” was not a dictation but a suggestion as you seem to be quite obsessed with a process that you legally can not “do over.”

Noted: You have a card from Dr [home town therapist] scheduling you for Thursday session. Keep in mind that Dr [home town therapist] is neither your nor my doctor but OUR daughter’s doctor - the session will be based on HER needs.  Do try not to make this about you but I do have confidence that Dr. [home town therapist] will be able to steer the session appropriately.

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