[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Thu, Jul 10, 2008 at 5:05 PM
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com, [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Let there not be any misunderstandings or distortion of my call to you.
Simply, called with the belief that we have a mutual goal of making communication and legal costs easier on all of us.
I just wanted to know your understanding of things and your take on working directly on some issues-
to help [daughter] and lessen financial strains.
Separately-
1. Child support is a law, not a request by me.
Please do not hold me responsible for [other state] laws.
2. The contact schedule will continue as we discussed, according to your’s and [Step Mother]’s input-
Mon, Wed. calls and Sun AM cam-
with open option for [daughter] to call or cam at any time I ask and she agrees to share events with you all
or at her request.
Monday’s rescheduled call from the Weekend of The Fourth did not happen, as I stated to you on a call, because [daughter] refused to contact you.
Hence, my suggestion of a counselor to work through this issue with her for long term benefits to all. I will pay the fees. I’m not asking for money. I just wanted your input on the idea of a professional to work with [daughter].
I can see that we should just write. Things are clearer this way right now.
Kindly,
[The Ex]
[The Ex] [last name]’s June 9th email
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Since we agree that we need to move forward with [daughter] adjusting to regular contact with you,
what do you think of having a counselor work with [daughter]
to make progress with your calls and web contact?
I have done some research, and this is one of the names I found.
[other state therapist] [therapist in other state], ACSW, LCSW P.O. Box 07212, [town in other state], [other state] [zip]
Phone: [XXX]-[XXX]-7066
Please check her out and give me your thoughts.
Best Regards,
[The Ex]
Response to 7/2/08 email
[Custodial Dad]:
I am not clear as to the relevance of the attached schedule for Attorney [last name] to yours and [daughter]’s contact schedule.
Please clarify.
[The Ex]
----- Original Message ----
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com; [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Sent: Tuesday, July 1, 2008 8:41:53 AM
Subject: Web cam Update
[Custodial Dad],
Thanks for agreeing to try for cam session at 7pm tonight.
You & [daughter] can have the same 7PM cam session Wednesday and Thursday also.
This will enable a fun weekend of firework shows and later mornings for [daughter] this holiday.
Maybe these can be a few nights of bedtime stories for all little tikes?
Thanks, [Custodial Dad] & [spelled incorrectly Step Mother].
I appreciate you accommodating this adjustment to July 6th cam session.
[daughter] can cam on Monday, July 7th AM or PM to share firework stories!
Will e-mail photos before session.
God Bless.
[The Ex]
On Thu, Jun 26, 2008 at 10:46 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Thanks, [Custodial Dad].
We can IM for parenting conference.
It is best for me weekdays, early in the AM-
I am up at 4:30AM to start the day and I can schedule slots from 5AM. End time is at 6AM.
Afternoons are Ok for IM. Any weekday. Let me know.
Evenings/nights are not good with [daughter]’s bed/bathtime and my school-work.
FYI: [daughter] is not in psych therapy. She will warm up to the regular calls over time.
Thanks for working with me to take calls any night this week. Just gives me more options for a good moment in which she might be likely to agree to the call
Option: We can do web cam next week on Wednesday night instead of Sunday?
I respect that you and [Step Mother] may have holiday weekend plans.
I can have cam instead of calls available on Mon and Wed of the following week also since N will be here at home. Maybe that will work.
Let’s keep trying.
Let me know.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
--- On Sun, 6/22/08, [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> wrote:
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Subject: Re: 2nd June Request for Parenting Communication Sessions Set-up
To: [the ex email]@[email].com
Date: Sunday, June 22, 2008, 8:26 AM
[The Ex]
It is now 8:27am and I will have my computer on until 9am
On Fri, Jun 20, 2008 at 10:03 AM, [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> wrote:
[The Ex]
After our phone call I decided to memorialize the facts of the conversation:
a. We re-confirmed the phone schedule of Monday and Wednesday at 6 pm even if [daughter] gets on and just says “Good Night.” The length of the call will always be dictated by [daughter], as always.
We also mentioned the Sunday morning webcam, and again it is quality of visit and dependence of schedule that is MORE important then length or content of contact/conversation....
b. I can not view pictures sent to text message... instead of my phone number, please enter [Custodial dad email]@[email].com and that will achieve the same goals by similar means.
c. There is no need to call and say [daughter] is going to call Please have [daughter] call me directly or not as the case may be.
d. I am very curious (and concerned) as to why [daughter] has a “Psych team” involved in her daily care. Please let me know why she is undergoing such extensive therapy. I understand that she is probably traumatized with not seeing her father for close to four years but does it warrant a “team?”
e. We can begin the “Parental Communication” immediately according to your schedule... like I stated I believe and email will suffice but I am available most nights after 9 pm excluding Thursdays for IM.
Thanks again
[Custodial Dad]
On Thu, Jun 19, 2008 at 7:12 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
--- On Wed, 6/18/08, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Subject: Parenting Communication Sessions Set-up
To: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com, [Custodial dad email]@[email].com
Date: Wednesday, June 18, 2008, 1:35 PM
--- On Wed, 6/18/08, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ And remember, no er where you go, there you are.
Earl Mac Rauch, from “Buckaroo Bansai” ~
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.
Earl Mac Rauch, from “Buckaroo Bansai” ~
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.
Earl Mac Rauch, from “Buckaroo Bansai” ~
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.
Earl Mac Rauch, from “Buckaroo Bansai” ~
[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> Thu, Jul 10, 2008 at 5:45 PM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Step Mother] <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>
[The Ex]
Thank you for respecting my wishes to stick to email and documented means... I hope we will be able to transcend this situation and be able to communicate more effectively and efficiently.
I don’t think I misunderstood you and I have never begrudged [daughter] any money... which is why as soon as I obtained a mailing address for her, I began sending something towards her care and of course I have maintained health insurance since 2004. However, due to the order filed by your attorney and the transpiring of the courts here in [home state], that is an issue that involves legal expertise and I do not think we alone can solve that particular issue. I of course, hold no ill will towards you in regards to the care and support of [daughter].
As for custody/visitation, I do think we can hash out an agreement between us without dragging it out in the courts...
Please understand that the phone contact is YOUR schedule. Like I stated, your schedule is at an inconvenient time for both [daughter] and I. A better solution would be a closer time to [daughter]’s bedtime where there will be less distractions. Both [Step Mother] and I made suggestions on how to encourage contact on your end. I would highly suggest again, a mediator and evaluation of sorts to intervene on the behalf of the you and I. [daughter], again, has a wonderful time on Sundays so the reluctance on the phone contact appears to be something of an easy resolution. This has been a suggestion proposed by both your attorney and mine... I merely suggest we move forward as that is the direction we need to go in with or without the courts involved.
If you insist that our daughter needs intervention of some sort in regards to this situation, please let me know and I’ll do what I can to assist. I applaud you on your most-recent efforts to include me in her life and allow for my input into her care. Along those line—and since we are speaking of the law; are you aware that restricting access to [daughter]’s records and withholding her address is also against the law? I was hoping that by now we would have moved passed the issue that I have no idea where [daughter] is at in life/school/medically and the tidbits I do receive are through her, which should not be the case according to both [home state] and [other state] law. Just thought I’d put a reminder out there since my previous requests have been overlooked...
Looking forward to speaking [daughter] this evening (according to [daughter]!)
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[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> Tue, Jul 22, 2008 at 8:30 AM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Step Mother] <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>
As an FYI regards Ms [therapist in other state] and fees... please scroll down the thread to your original e-mail dated July 10th (Section 2 sentence begins with “Hence...”) - as well as perhaps re-review my resonse to that e-mail especially my Custody/Visitation response...
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~ Where is human nature so weak as in the bookstore?
* Henry Ward Beecher ~
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