[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Tue, Jul 22, 2008 at 5:34 PM
To:[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Maybe you can help me understand what you want answered to move forward with your authorization.
Can you list your questions for me in your next e-mail, please?
I am ready with funds and paperwork to move forward with Ms. [therapist in other state].
She just needs your parental consent- in writing to assess [daughter].
Thanks so much.
[The Ex]
----- Original Message ----
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Cc: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, July 22, 2008 8:24:55 AM
Subject: Re: Repeated Request for Parental Authorization for [daughter] [last name]
[The Ex],
There have been several emails between Ms. [therapist in other state] and I on which you were cc-ed by the both of us and which are attached to the bottom of this e-mail thread, that I just recieved from you.
Please review my previous email(s) with my concerns that you have still failed to address.
Please review the correspondence that was sent previously answering all of your concerns.
I would appreciate a response back. Let us ALL do our part and move forward.
Please understand, that this is an attempt to save attorney/legal fees, and if we cannot agree this will most certainly become an issue that the Courts will address. I have suggested we both get an independent court approved phsychological evaluation for ourselves so as to settle that difference of opinion and alleviate both yours and my own concerns, as will be mandated by the courts anyhow.
I missed my phone call last night I hope [daughter] is OK you stated here she is frustrated and; “Her tone is angry and firm”, maybe this has to do with your time-frame/scheduling of calls. Please tell her I cannot wait to hear from her, perhaps using her OWN phone may reduce some of her frustrations.
[Custodial Dad]
On Tue, Jul 22, 2008 at 6:31 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
Hi, [Custodial Dad],
Did you decide to authorize Ms. [therapist in other state] to evaluate [daughter]?
How much of the fees are you willing/ able to pay at this time?
I have re-attached the previously sent documents from Ms. [therapist in other state] in this message.
For a psych evaluation/ professional to work with [daughter], both of us need to give written, verifiable authorization.
Ms. [therapist in other state] has detailed this process in her communication to us. I have re-written it all below. Please read.
Until we pay and have signed authorizations in her hands,
I think that we are loosing a valuable and necessary opportunity to make progress for you and [daughter].
[daughter] is still refusing to make phone and web contact with you. As I still place the calls, [daughter] expresses frustration by saying,
“No call, Momma. Why do I have to? You tell him I don’t want to talk!” Her tone is angry and firm. I would like help to see this change to a positive situation. She seems to enjoy your chats at times when I place the calls, so we have a good window of opportunity in which to work at this time.
Ms.[therapist in other state] is to be paid $300 prior to any further work.
Please verify if she is on your list of providers from [insurance company]. If not, please determine if we can still make an [insurance company] claim for you and [daughter].
(As written to you last week:)
The information which Ms. [therapist in other state] needs from you is
1. Your name
2. Your address
3. Phone contact
4. Signed authorization for her work as a LCSW with [daughter], age 6.
It is necessary that you sign your authorization and get it back to her.
Please, provide a means of phone contact to you so she may confirm the validity of your authorization.
I will take care of getting to her the present custody papers and [daughter]’s birth certificate, if need be. I will CC you on those submitted documents so you may have them for your reference.
Please, fax a signed copy of an authorization. You may also mail a signed authorization.
To make the process more feasible on this work day,
I have made the following optional draft for your your use/ edit.
---Start of example draft message from [Custodial Dad] [last name] to R, [therapist in other state], LCSW---
“I [Custodial Dad] X [last name], am the father of [daughter] X [last name], age 6, born on XX, XX, 20XX in [city in third state], nj.
I reside at [home state address]reet, [home town], [home state], [zip](?zip).
I can be reached via phone at (Please provide all contact phone numbers- work, home, mobile...so she may reach you ASAP.)
I can be contacted through e-mail at (Please provide all e-mail addresses which you will check regularly.)
I hereby give my parental authorization to allow you, Ms. [other state therapist], LCSW, to work with me and my daughter, [daughter] [last name], to assist in the capacity as facilitator to supervise phone/ web cam “father-child”communication. I would like to have your guidance and input as we work to transition into a succcessful relationship for [daughter] and me.
I have read the service agreement and the memorandum of your contact with [The Ex] [last name] in June 2008. (Documents attached for reference.)
I agree to your terms and I would like to move forward with your assistance ASAP.”
----End of example draft message from [Custodial Dad] [last name] to R, [therapist in other state], LCSW---
* [Custodial Dad]: please attach the exact documents-signed- which I have attached here and in my previous e-mail to you today after you have read through them.)
Thanks for your kind consideration.
Regards to The Kids and [Step Mother].
Kindly,
[The Ex] [last name]
----- Original Message ----
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial Dad] L [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Cc: [other state therapist] [therapist in other state] <[email]96@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, July 15, 2008 11:46:15 AM
Subject: Request for [Custodial Dad] [last name]’s authorization to help [daughter] to move forward with Dad.
Hi, [Custodial Dad],
Below is the message to [other state therapist], LCSW
to whom I’ve requested that you send your authorization for her work with [daughter], you and me
to make progress in [daughter]’s relationship with you. Additionally, I CC’ed you.
To be efficient, here is her contact info:
[other state therapist] [therapist in other state], ACSW, LCSW P.O. Box 07212, [town in other state], [other state] [zip]
Phone: [XXX]-[XXX]-7066
E-mail: [other state therapist] [therapist in other state] <[email]96@[email].com
The information which Ms. [therapist in other state] needs from you is
1. Your name
2. Your address
3. Phone contact
4. Signed authorization for her work as a LCSW with [daughter], age 6.
It is necessary that you sign your authorization and get it back to her.
Please, provide a means of phone contact to you so she may confirm the validity of your authorization.
I will take care of getting to her the present custody papers and [daughter]’s birth certificate, if need be. I will CC you on those submitted documents so you may have them for your reference.
Please, fax a signed copy of an authorization.
To make the process more feasible on this work day,
I have made the following optional draft for your your use/ edit.
---Start of example draft message from [Custodial Dad] [last name] to R, [therapist in other state], LCSW---
“I [Custodial Dad] X [last name], am the father of [daughter] X [last name], age 6, born on XX, XX, 20XX in [city in third state], [THIRD STATE].
I reside at [home state address]reet, [home town], [home state], [zip](?zip).
I can be reached via phone at (Please provide all contact phone numbers- work, home, mobile...so she may reach you ASAP.)
I can be contacted through e-mail at (Please provide all e-mail addresses which you will check regularly.)
I hereby give my parental authorization to allow you, Ms. [other state therapist], LCSW, to work with me and my daughter, [daughter] [last name], to assist in the capacity as facilitator to supervise phone/ web cam “father-child “communication. I would like to have your guidance and input as we work to transition into a succcessful relationship for [daughter] and me.
I have read the service agreement and the memorandum of yout contact with [The Ex] [last name] in June 2008. (Documents attached for reference.)
I agree to your terms and I would like to move forward with your assistance ASAP.”
----End of example draft message from [Custodial Dad] [last name] to R, [therapist in other state], LCSW---
* [Custodial Dad]: please attach the exact documents which I have attached here and in my previous e-mail to you today after you have read through them.)
As promised, below is the message to Ms. [therapist in other state] which I CC’ed you on earlier.
It contains the same attachment which I have made in this message to you.
Thank you for your cooperation in this effort.
I truly hope this professional guidance in a clinical setting will foster
many enjoyable contact opportunities for you and [daughter].
Kindly,
[The Ex]
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [other state therapist] [therapist in other state] <[email]96@[email].com>
Cc: [Custodial Dad] L [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Sent: Tuesday, July 15, 2008 10:42:48 AM
Subject: Steps for Parental Authorization
Ms. [therapist in other state]:
I tried to call you a few minutes ago. I do not have your fax number.
[daughter]’s father promises to fax you ASAP, after receivin the required info I send via e-mail. I will CC you on that.
By or before Thursday, you should have all documents you need. I understand to wait until Thursday, at the earliest, for your response.
To summarize:
1. I understand that you need both parents‘ permission to work with [daughter] [last name], age 6.
2. I understand that a fax with phone contact with [Custodial Dad] [last name], her father, is necessary to do this work.
3. I understand that you have the ability to serve as supervisor for phone contact between [daughter] and [Custodial Dad] [last name] at this time.
4. I would appreciate your help to foster and promote contact with [daughter] and her Dad,
inclusive of an evaluation of [daughter]’s adjustment issues and increasing resistance to engaging in communication with her father.
5. Approaching it scientifically, I would like to remove the “Mommy variable” in working to resolve the present contact issue.
I am hoping that this will allow us to isolate and identify the factors which [daughter] can begin to work through in a recommended therapeutic setting.
6. I would appreciate your guidance for ways in which her father and I can assist [daughter]
and your opinion on age appropriate counseling sessions
to offer [daughter] a “tool kit”
to help her identify and express herself as she moves forward with Dad.
7. I understand all fees must be paid in advance of services and will work to ensure that you are compensated for work with [daughter] prior to scheduled sessions.
Thanks, Ms. [therapist in other state]. I appreciate your follow through and prompt attention to our family’s needs as we work through these transitions.
Kindly Regards,
[The Ex] [last name]
[XXX]. [XXX]. 4665
----- Forwarded Message ----
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com; [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com
Sent: Wednesday, July 9, 2008 12:01:10 PM
Subject: Helping [daughter] to move forward with Dad.
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Since we agree that we need to move forward with [daughter] adjusting to regular contact with you,
what do you think of having a counselor work with [daughter]
to make progress with your calls and web contact?
I have done some research, and this is one of the names I found.
[other state therapist] [therapist in other state], ACSW, LCSW P.O. Box 07212, [town in other state], [other state] [zip]
Phone: [XXX]-[XXX]-7066
Please check her out and give me your thoughts.
Best Regards,
[The Ex]
----- Forwarded Message ----
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [other state therapist] [therapist in other state] <[email]96@[email].com>
Cc: [The Ex] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Sent: Monday, July 21, 2008 2:39:43 PM
Subject: Re: Case
Ms. [therapist in other state]
Thank for the response. I am glad that I memorialized the conversation as your statement that [daughter] was “whole” indicated to me that you met previously and I must have misunderstood. Please excuse my error.
I am uncertain whether we are going forward as that is a decision her mother must make as she is the one responsible for payment and ensuring [daughter] actually attends. If we do move forward, I have taken care of having this reimbursed through Insurance. As per [insurance company] Behavioral Health, they do require payment to be made previously and if [The Ex] chooses to go forward, we can submit for reimbursement after the $250 deductible is met. They will reimburse 70% of the visit for twenty (20) visits.
Your Invoices must contain:
[daughter]’s DOB
Her Name
Id Number - W1561 34835
Diagnosis Code
Date of Service
Type of Service Rendered
Amount Charged
Amount Paid
Your name
Your Degree
Your Address
Your Tax ID
Invoices must be submitted to:[insurance company] Claims
PO BOx 981106
El Paso, TX 79998-1106
If I can be of any further assistance, please do not hesitate to contact me.
Respectfully
[Custodial Dad] [last name]
On Mon, Jul 21, 2008 at 12:31 PM, [other state therapist] [therapist in other state] <[email]96@[email].com> wrote:
I have not met your daughter and am unable to do so without authorization.
----- Original Message -----
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name]
To: [other state therapist] [therapist in other state]
Cc: [The Ex] [last name]
Sent: Sunday, July 20, 2008 3:11 PM
Subject: Re: Case
Ms. [therapist in other state];
I was under the impression you were to memorialize the statements of the phone contact that we had on July 18th, 2008.
From my understandings, you previously met with [daughter] and found her to be a normal six year old and were unsure how to proceed based on the fact that phone contact supervision is something demanded by [The Ex] and not by any court of law. Further, you suggested a session in which [daughter] would have contact with me during which you would be able to observe the interaction between [daughter] and I to better assess the situation. The goal being to aid [daughter] in transitioning to allow for scheduled contact and the eventual change in custody/visitation. My authorization hinges on these simple facts.
Like I stated to you, [daughter] has insurance through [insurance company] and I would be more than happy to facilitate compensation through them. However, [The Ex] is orchestrating this and stated that she would be responsible for any payments in regards to this matter. If [The Ex] is unable to pay for whatever and/or you can not accept [insurance company], could you recommend another counselor who would be able to assist that does accept insurance?
Thank you for your assistance thus far.
[Custodial Dad] [last name]
On Sun, Jul 20, 2008 at 1:26 PM, [other state therapist] [therapist in other state] <[email]96@[email].com> wrote:
Mr. and Mrs. [last name]:
Here are my suggestions, based upon the information that I have learned from both of you:
I believe that as the professional, it is for me to assess your circumstances and render recommendations regarding the appropriate course of action.
I suggest a brief assessment of your family to include: 1) interviews with both parents, 2) interview with the child, 3) meeting with the child and father (in person or via telephone).
The fee for this process is: $300.00 (I can’t guarantee, but some of it may be reimbursed by your insurance).
Please understand that I am unable to devote any additional time to your case until one or both of you pay the attached consult fee. I would appreciate a brief reply acknowledging your receipt of this message. I am unable to offer any more pro bono time to your case. Aside from scheduling the above via email communication, I intend to refrain from any further dialogue.
Respectfully, [other state therapist]
[other state therapist] [therapist in other state], ACSW, LCSW
P.O. Box 07212, [town in other state], [other state] [zip]
[XXX]-[XXX]-7066
All messages are confidential and intended solely for the addressee.
If you have received a message
in error please respond and delete. Thank you.
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ Where is human nature so weak as in the bookstore?
* Henry Ward Beecher ~
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ Where is human nature so weak as in the bookstore?
* Henry Ward Beecher ~
--
[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ Where is human nature so weak as in the bookstore?
* Henry Ward Beecher ~
[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> Tue, Jul 22, 2008 at 8:53 PM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Step Mother] <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>
[The Ex]
Please excuse my frustration but it does appear that you have yet to actualy read the content of any of my messages, despite attaching your messages to them.
Please scroll down and read the emails that you have attached... the questions/concerns I have as well as the answers to your questions are contained therein.
Realize, I have explained it to you in several distinct messages in several different ways and I am unsure how I can be any more clear or concise. If you have any further questions, please do not hesitate to email me for clarification but please do attempt to actually read my e-mails/replies before responding.
[Custodial Dad]
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[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> Wed, Jul 23, 2008 at 5:44 AM
To: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Hi, [Custodial Dad].
Please, be patient with me as we work through this.
Can you please list your concerns?
I am sincerely at a loss to extract them from your messages.
Please, send me each issue in a list-
I will respond to each one so we may move forward.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
----- Original Message ----
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
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[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> Wed, Jul 23, 2008 at 8:27 AM
To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Step Mother] <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>
On July 16th, I stated to you:
In order for a better assessment of my next steps I would appreciate your going through the past emails and bringing me up to date. Furthermore, I think my position is quite clear—
A. I was unaware that you or anyone else was supervising webcam and/or telephone contact.
B. Like I stated to you and Ms. [therapist in other state], I am not understanding where this therapy session is going and what the directives are regards [daughter].
C. Will this aid in helping you ([The Ex]) transition to allowing a less restricted contact between [daughter] and I? Specifically, the “supervision clause” is in its final stages and we need to work towards that end-goal as no court would require such a clause in this situation.
D. I stated to you previously, that if you feel therapy, not supervision, is necessary, I will be happy to facilitate in whatever capacity I can.
I am unsure where your confusion arises, as I stated, I have no idea how to be more clear and concise.
[Custodial Dad]
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