Partial Mediation Proposal

[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> 
Mon, Oct 27, 2008 at 5:29 AM 

To:   [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> 

Hi, [Custodial Dad].

1.[daughter] will [webcam software] on Sundays in AM.   She will call on Saturdays in AM.  This is per your talk with her on visitation
last week.

2.Proposal follows for next 90 days, as per your suggestion,
to be revisited in mediation without attorneys to cut costs to our [last name]
family.

Note:   Exact dates to be verified after airline check and my clinical training program.

2a. [daughter] and I will visit this thanksgiving for the Wednesday and Thursday.  Lunch and Dinner Wednesday, as will hoipe ot arrive in AM and Berakfast and Holiday lunch on Thursday with [spelled incorrectly Step Mother] and kids.    If those days are not available to us, we can plan our own date to Celebrate Thanskgivin to save costs and accomodate schedules.  Parental E-mail/ calls to communicate.

2b. christmas to be celebrated the weekend before with our arrival on the Saturday before christmas.  All meals and plans for kids to stay together are possible.  Will check out best options to make it happen.

2c. New years can be celebrated with all fanfare on the christmas trip as it will be costly to travel so close together to two holidays.

3. THINKING Beyond  90 days: ( to save on fares and consider planning.)

3a.  [daughter]’s birthday can be celebrated on the weekend after, as it on a weekday. Birthday cake and favors for our kids great.  But no need for presents, hovever you can do what you want with presents for your daughter. We usually do a donation in lieu of presents.  This year is the “Pijama & Book” organization for children in shelters- Cheap, well organized and helpful to Namh’s less fortunate peers.

3b.  Easter can be on Easter Sunday.  Tradition dinner at Uncle [custodial dad’s family]’s is fine or at [custodial dad’s family] and [custodial dad’s family]’s.

This is all I have for now. Must go. Will write later.

God Bless all.

[The Ex] [last name]

From:   [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>

To:       [The Ex] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

Sent:    Sunday,October 26, 2008 8:37:36 AM

Subject: Re:Your Mediation Proposal

[The Ex]

You claim time constraints Wednesday is right around the
corner

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[Custodial dad email]@[email].com

On Oct 26, 2008, at 6:56 AM, [Custodial dad email]
<[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> wrote:

* What do you prpose?

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[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> 

Mon, Oct 27, 2008 at 9:44 AM 

To:       [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

Bcc:     [Step Mother]<[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com> 

[The Ex]

As I have stated for months, Sunday AM [webcam software] is not a good time frame for me and the kids; it is also not good for [daughter] either as she was typically sleeping or “running out.”  Further, I think it best if we defer on the schedule of contact to Ms. [therapist in other state]?

While I appreciate your enthusiasms, I have to tell you quite frankly that this Holiday schedule is not going to work.  I still do not know where [daughter] lives because you are “fearful of your life” and now you are making ridiculous allegations CURRENTLY that I in some way-was-abusing our daughter and now you want to spend Holidays in my home?!  You have to recognize the unorthodox nature of your request while looking at the current situation and YOUR role of where we are. 

A relationship between [daughter] and I quite frankly does not and will not include you.  I am unsure how to make that point more clear.  Visitation will not include you shadowing me or my family, nor will it include you on the visit.  That is just not how this works in these situations. I have tried to tell you this in a multitude of ways—with pretty sound reasoning; you are not welcomed in my home. My family does not need the stress of a stranger sitting in the corner “reading a book” nor do we need anymore allegations you may or may not throw-out there.  My children will not have any relationship with you beyond knowing of you as [daughter]’s “Mom.”  These wonderful co-parenting ideals are ONLY for [daughter] as you are NOT my and [Step Mother]’s children’s step-mother (“other Mom”) as you keep insinuating.  I can not speak for the rest of my family, but I do believe the sentiment is echoed in regards to “sharing holidays.” (i.e. [custodial dad’s family] and [custodial dad’s family], [custodial dad’s family] etc)

My offers

Ms. [therapist in other state] as Custody Evaluator and us following the case plan she develops.

Psychological Evaluations for both you and I. and as discussed, when I pass my exam there will then be no stipulation for Supervised Visitation.

[webcam software] on Sundays in the EVENINGS.

Calls at [daughter]’s discretion and allowing for her to use her cell phone.  (Following Ms. [therapist in other state]s suggestions of course.)

thanksgiving: [daughter] to spend her  time in her [home state] home with her siblings and I.  How we choose to go about this should be decided by Ms. [therapist in other state].

christmas: Again another visit and the specifics to be decided upon by Ms. [therapist in other state].

To be clear, I am happy to temporarily pay for all of [daughter]’s travel expenses.  We will revisit the breakdown again later.

[Custodial Dad]

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~ Time is that quality of nature which keeps events from
happening all at once. Lately it doesn’t seem to be working.

* Anonymous ~