Shared time at dinner

[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> 

Mon, Oct 27, 2008 at 7:01 PM 

To: [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> 

     

To clarify- tab was for dinner with you for visit.  Common meeting place for students in university town. 

Your kindness was not betrayed. Appreciated the meal.

     

Thanks.

[The Ex] 

From: [Custodial dad email] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>

To:   [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

Sent: Wednesday, October 22, 2008 6:14:46 PM

Subject:    Re: [VISITATION SUPERVISION CENTER] summary and Request for vsiit arrangements for 10/22/08 with [daughter]

[The Ex]

I am at a loss—I somehow seemed to have paid your friends Sushi tab

Also you said you were a regular there yet you - even today - mentioned your lack of money

I must admit to feeingl a little used

Please excuse spelling and or grammatical errors

Sent from my iPhone

[Custodial dad email]@[email].com

On Oct 21, 2008, at 7:54 PM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:

Hi, [Custodial Dad].

1.) I brought [daughter] to the [visitation site] for your visit I scheduled for 4:30-6:30 PM today. 

[visitation site supervisor] was kind enough to make the accomodation for a 2 hour session and change her schedule to allow us this time, as they normally only do one hour sessions. 

I asked for an extended time slot since you were in town and I thought [daughter] would enjoy time with you there. 

2.) [visitation site supervisor] informed me via phone and in person when I arrrived there that you did not show up and stated that you would not be participating in a visit at the [VISITATION SUPERVISION CENTER] center.

[visitation site supervisor] explained to me that you called her asking for her to facilitate an exchange of [daughter] to you to be able to take [daughter] out of the center with you.

[visitation site supervisor] stated that she advised you that she could only allow you to visit at the center.  She said she told you that you should not come to the visitation center to “pick -up” [daughter] for an unsupervised visit, as she is not authorized to release [daughter] to you. [visitation site supervisor] said that she was clear to you that if your intent was not to come to the [VISITATION SUPERVISION CENTER] center to visit with [daughter], then you should not arrive there with the intention of picking-up [daughter].

3.) Please, rest assured that [daughter] was understanding and hopes to see you, as she said, “When you make plans to come down again.” 

So all is well. [daughter] is not upset; She said, “I’m not sad Momma.  I’ll just see him next time.”

4.) I know it is difficult to go throught this transition right now, but I was hoping you would change your mind about visiting with [daughter] at the center since you were right here in town.  But I understand your position.

5.) Possible visit Wednesday after Mediation?  Please let me know if you have time to get together with [daughter] Wednesday (10/22/08) before you return to [home state].  I will work with you to set up time for you and [daughter].

7.) I have spoken with Ms.[therapist in other state] [therapist in other state] and she may be able to accomodate time for you & [daughter] or us as [daughter]’s parents tomorrow, pending assessment of her schedule as her Wednesday unfolds.

8.) Hope we can work toward an agreement.  I’m glad we had some phone discussion about visit dates for the holidays and birthday this afternoon.  I’m looking forward to having [other state therapist] work with us through this time to create a positive outcome for your relationship with [daughter].

Hope all is well with [Step Mother] and the kids at home.

See you in the AM. 

Kindly,

[The Ex]

From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

To:   [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Cc:   [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>

Sent: Tuesday, October 21, 2008 12:19:40 PM

Subject:    Pre- Mediation discussion communication

Hi, [Custodial Dad] and [spelled incorrectly Step Mother].

Thanks for relaying the messages, [spelled incorrectly Step Mother].

The earlier I get a confirmation for [daughter]’s time with [Custodial Dad] today, the better.  I appreciate the prompt attention to my call

[Custodial Dad], as per your request to come to some agreements before tomorrow’s session, I’m glad [spelled incorrectly Step Mother] was able to communicate to you that I would be willing to meet in a public space with Mall security.  Figured we could both be comfortable.

However, we do not have to meet in person.

[Custodial Dad], any form of discussion you would like is fine with me.  Call me.  Email is OK... I am borrowing a computer and I may be able to check in a few hours.

Thank you both.

Kindly,

[The Ex]

([XXX]) [XXX]-4665

From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

To:   The [last name] [last name]s <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

Cc:   [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>; [the ex email]@[email].com

Sent: Tuesday, October 21, 2008 11:53:11 AM

Subject:    Re: Visit with [daughter] today and tomorrow

Okay, a quick update.  Just spoke with [The Ex] at 11:40 and she stated that she set up a time and paid the fee for you to meet with [daughter] at the [visitation supervision center] from 4:30 to 6:30 with [visitation site supervisor]e.  I did state that I do not speak for you but I didn’t think you would be comfortable being forced to see [daughter] in that center again.  She asked if you could “set something up” for tomorrow.  She also stated that she wanted to meet with you at a mall in Ft. Myers to discuss mediation.  Again, I told her that while I do not speak for you but I didn’t think you’d be that comfortable with meeting with her personally.  She stated it was a “open space with tons of security.”  I informed [The Ex] that I believed you wanted to do this via telephone and she should speak with you directly.

Again, she does not have email available today so please call her directly.

[step mother]

The [last name] [last name]s

Happiness belongs to the self-sufficient.

* Aristotle

On Oct 21, 2008, at 11:13 AM, The [last name] [last name]s wrote:

[Custodial Dad], 

I just spoke with [The Ex] today at 11 am.  She stated that she will make [daughter] available to visit with you while you are in [other state].  I know you are landing around 12 pm so I told her you should be available for [daughter] around 1 pm.  She also stated that she knew you’d love to see [daughter] “as much as possible” and I informed her that I believe you will need to be at the airport by 5 pm tomorrow.  She mentioned “setting some things up” and I am unsure of what that actually entails.  Please call [The Ex] ASAP so that you can iron out all the details.