Reminder: call objective is contact for [daughter] Re: Phone calls

[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

Thu, Jul 8, 2010 at 1:12 PM

To: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

[Custodial Dad]:

1. Call objective is contact for [daughter] with Mom:

The calls for [daughter] are to have verbal communication with me.

Voicemail is a notice that I missed a call  Voicemail is a message. 

Voicemail is not a conversation for [daughter] with Mom.

Please see to it that [daughter] gets to talk to me - at least ONCE sometime before the 8pm restriction each day as ordered.

2.  Phone records:  Please send me a copy of your phone records- inclusive of text and incoming and outgoing calls to me and my family- as that is the objective way to evaluate the gross disregard of the call contact schedule.  I will need those to understand your claims.

3. Inquiries on calls:

a. I call and text with interest in speaking with [daughter].  My call records will verify my frequency of attempts to reach [daughter].  Your phones goes to voicemail.  I have even gotten a message that the number you provided was out of service - think it was a Sunday night. You fail to respond to my texts for contact with [daughter].  You fail to call to ensure [daughter]’s court ordered contact with me.  That is fact. 

Is it not also fact that the order reads that [daughter] is to have ONCE DAILY phone contact with Mom?

Please re-read the words around “once” in the order to which you refer and please cease with selective compliance with the call order.  I wrote you via text weeks ago to please end this modified schedule for [daughter]’s which you have set on your own.  You have not yet made effort to call with [daughter] daily.  Are you asking that I don’t attempt to call [daughter] either?  How does that help her talk to Mom? I’m calling back to speak with [daughter] if I’ve missed the call or it has gone to voicemail.  Or, I’m calling to speak with [daughter].  How would you prefer to modify those actions?

b.Are you still recording [daughter]’s call to me?

What purpose has it served [daughter] to know that her conversations with Mom are recorded?  How do you believe that has helped or assisted her? Can you tell me how you have legally, psychologically and logically justified call recordings between an 8 year old girl and her Mom?

c.[daughter] has stated that she has had to go because it is 8:02 and she can’t talk to me after eight o’clock. 

When she is in conversation with me, why is she being restricted to discontinue the call at eight? 

How is that fair to her contact with Mom when she has not a set start time that she is ensured to begin talking to Mom? Understand my confusion? 

No established start time, but a cut-off time, when when she is still conversing with me.  She says she’ll have to talk to me about the rest of the topic next time because she has to go.  A video game or a tv show is the follow-up activity after the call, as [daughter] says.  You have already restricted the call schedule.  Why interfere with the contact that you have left [daughter] with Mom? 

Please explain.  And please advise me of the psychological advising sources which you have based your past and current call schedule for [daughter].

Please help me to understand.

Kindly,

[The Ex] [last name]

From: [Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>

To: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>

Sent: Mon, July 5, 2010 7:43:50 PM

Subject: Phone calls

[The Ex]:

I finally figured out the issue with the phone calls... if you call, we’ll either answer or call right back - just leave a voice mail.  It seems as though when [daughter] is in the process of calling you, you are immediately dialing us back during the time she is on the phone leaving you a voicemail.  She doesn’t know to or even how to answer call waiting.

Call once or if you miss our call, at the very least try waiting a few minutes before calling again to ensure we are not overlapping calls, like we seem to be doing most nights including this evening.  This evening we called at 7:21 and you called 7:21, 7:22 and we called back 7:23 during which time, you called again.

In actuality, the order does specify that you are to call ONCE and by my phone records, you are calling five and six times which is neither necessary nor allowable.  We have voicemail and caller id, we are sure to not miss a call from you and will always have [daughter] return the call

Thanks!

[Custodial Dad]

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]

[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com