Various Concerns

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name] <[Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com>  Sun, Jul 18, 2010 at 6:20 PM 

To:   [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> 

     

[The Ex]:

I am doing my best to answer your questions but please note the redundancy in most of your issues and statements.  I have reviewed past communications and found all the answers to your questions contained in the various emails and letters.

A. [daughter] Enrolled in School:

I think you can answer that question yourself being as though you have copies of her report cards and I assume have spoken to her teacher.  She was a transfer student and the official package was obtained from [school] Charter to [home town] directly, which I assume is the reason I was not asked for any documents beyond my address verification and identification.  However, I still lack [daughter]’s accurate social security number.

B. [daughter]’s Diet and Records Request:

I will not be subjecting [daughter] to unnecessary blood work and/or tests.  The grounds for your request are not based on anything factual nor measurable and despite my reassurances to you, you fail to pay attention to fact—all of my children, including [daughter] are on a healthy diet and followed by the pediatrician who is not only aware of the diet we have them on but has evaluated our diet for different reasons.  According to [daughter], this is the healthiest she has eaten ever, outside of your father feeding her when she resided with him.  Outside of not eating hard candies, popcorn, bubble gum and taffy, [daughter] has not had any adjustment to her palate extender, which is not an implant. And for the record, [daughter] is growing taller and although she is visibly slimmer it is due to the fact that fast food and junk food is not apart of our diet... those are treats not meals unlike her diet while she was in your care.

I have no information from [daughter]’s medical providers as there are no court issues that are coming up.  Beyond receipts, I have no session notes or progress reports.  I have no idea why I would need such information so I would suggest you contact the providers directly.   You are treating this like this is a custody case, which it isn’t, the time for evidence has passed and you’d save yourself a ton of legal fees if you were to understand that simple fact.

C. Transportation to [city third state]:

We have already agreed that I will pick [daughter] up on the 15th from the airport.  However the dispute lies in pick up as you are laying the full burden of transport on me.  Your mother can arrange to pick [daughter] up EARLIER on August 1st.  My proposal for a 6 am pick up was merely a suggestion.  As [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] mentioned to your attorney, we are both obligated to take responsibility for [daughter]’s transportation and you are failing to do so.

For the record, if you involve my attorney, I will let him handle the situation instead of having cross discussions, such as this, confusing the matter further.

Monies for [daughter]’s flight will be promptly paid upon my receiving an actual receipt for her ticket.  I received flight confirmation only.

D. Child Support:

I think you are not following the language of the order... Child Support was remanded to Judge [Other State Judge] meaning, he will decide how much; how often and when.  My financials will be provided then or you can provide yours, when you obtain employment, to [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer].  Your requests are obscure considering it took six requests to have [Custodial Dad’s other state lawyer] obtain your financials and mine have been filed with two of your attorneys previously.

Direct Deposit is not necessary, if you send any monies, I will be sure to note the amount to my attorney when the time comes.

E. Medical Card:

You were provided a card and a means to contact [insurance company].  Being that you do not have authorization to take [daughter] to the doctor unless it is an emergency. You really do not need yet another replacement card.  You can simply have the medical center send me a bill and i will forward it to my insurance company,  There is no concealing information, the information is right in front of you and has been for several years.

F. [daughter]’s new sibling:

We have handled her adjustment just fine and honestly your input is neither warranted nor necessary.  I will remind you that [daughter] is under the care of Dr. [home town therapist] who has specialized in similar cases such as this, who has guided us since [daughter]’s arrival.

G.  Your Dating Status:

I really do not care whom you date however, I think I would be remiss to remind you that you are already married and I don’t understand your statements of a new marriage .   [daughter] had a very hard time adjusting to the sudden appearance and disappearance of [The Ex’s Current Husband]... I think you would do better to focus on [daughter] and the transients in and out of [daughter]’s life.  having so many fiances and boyfriends is simply unhealthy for a little girl to witness and troubling to hear her recount the list of men that she grew attached to over the years.  However, my concern was the firearm instance between your boyfriend and husband, which was documented with your local authorities and you have failed to address seriously.

F. Phone Calls:

[daughter] is not to be doing anything except speak to you.  At 7PM [daughter] and her older sibling are supposed to call and speak to their respective parents BEFORE tv and wii time.  This time should also be AFTER chores are done.  We will have a family meeting to discuss this as I am typically starting bedtime routines with the younger kids which affords both kids privacy.  We may simply need to rework the schedule a bit to ensure you are given [daughter]’s undivided attention.

G. [webcam software]:

[webcam software] isn’t always feasible but I can guarantee, at the very least, an every Sunday [webcam software] going forward, which I have proposed for the last few months.  If we are able, I will be sure to text and notify as early as possible on alternate days.  [daughter] is very excited to see you on [webcam software] this evening!

H. “[daughter]’s Attorney:”

I am unsure what you are implying by telling [daughter] she has an attorney. Obviously, she does not have her own attorney and you lack any authority in which to secure her any such counsel.  If the courts deem it necessary, the court would hire an attorney for her specifically without your undue influences.  This is the type of communication that you have with [daughter] that is neither appropriate nor advisable.  This will be addressed with Dr. [home town therapist] however, it was also brought to your attorney’s attention.

I. My wife:

You completely missed the purpose of her letter.  She asked you to refrain from contacting her through her personal email address.  She still has access to the family email address ([Custodial Dad’s home email]) as you are well aware.  This is a far cry from what you interpreted her email to mean as she has contacted you concerning [daughter] several times since [daughter] moved home.

J. Text Messages:

I keep mentioning this but I am not getting your text messages.  Last one was received on June 21.  I’m getting other texts so I know my phone is working properly... please ensure you have the correct number or that your texts are actually sent.

[Custodial Dad]

[Custodial Dad] and [Step Mother] [last name]

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