[The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Tue, Jul 1, 2008 at 7:31 AM
Reply-To: [the ex email]@[email].com
To: [Custodial dad email]@[email].com [Custodial Dad],
Evenings are not a suitable time as I have dinnertime/ bedtime/ bath time with [daughter] from 4PM on. I work to clean-up/prepare for her next day after she is in
bed. It is also my study-time. This set-up allows for successful,kid-centered days and I think you can agree to respect this routine.
I am available Early Mornings: Mon through Friday @4AM -6AM
I am available to Instant Message (IM) very early mornings on any weekday: Monday,Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.
Time frame can be 4:00AM through 6:00AM as this allows for uninterrupted time before my day with [daughter] begins. We can set a 15-30 minute IM session and extend or
limit as need be.
I am available in the afternoon: Monday-Friday@ 12:30PM- 3PM.
Maybe you can IM at lunch time or sometime.
After lunch, [daughter] is crafting/ reading and watching her favorite PBS programs.
I can easily work out an IM slot at this time.
Some weekend mornings may be OK with ~one week notice.
We can schedule as we go. The option is open for before Web chat on some Sundays, as you proposed.
Re:July 6th Cam (this upcoming weekend): Anytime weekday OK.
As there are fireworks shows this weekend, I would like to let [daughter] sleep-in and enjoy holiday events.
Early AM, as [daughter] is up and going by 6AM are good weekday cam times.We will call and hopefully cam Tuesday/Wednesday/Thursday at ~6:30-7:30AM/ PM - as we have
done- and you can verify cam availability.
[daughter] called to thank you for the cell phone yesterday and left a message.
Thanks for the follow-through with that.
She was delighted.
Let this serve as an update for now:
1. [daughter] will be in first grade in August 2008. As she was since birth, she has been described by her [other state] certified teachers as socially and
academically on par/ ahead of her peers.
She is a caring classmate and is very popular on the playground- a great problem solver and master of resolutions that please all opposing parties on the serious [Ex’s
fourth other state lawyer]ers crayon sharing, tag and queue violations!
2. She has had the same classmates durying her [other state] residence.
3. [daughter] has social engagements and attachments to the families from school.
4. [daughter] regularly has meals. board game-time, crafting, and movie time with her relatives here.
5. [daughter] regularly chats with my classmates, my childhood friends and family who are not here.
6. [daughter] is a healthy child. She has had consistent medical attention with the same Board Certified Physician during our residence in [other state]. All
her vaccinations are up to date. Gratefully, she is healthy and has a delightful personality. She is the best of us.
7. [daughter] enjoys nutrition of organic/ natural foods, with a 10-15 % deviation to allow for dinners out and treats. She loves Mango-Tango juice from Odwalla and
specifically requests Organic butter!
She is a sincere carnivore: ribs and steak top her list. [daughter] loves mashed potatoes and sweet potatoes, as she always did. Her favorite vegetable is broccoli in
olive oil and garlic or with butter.
8. Hanna Montana is her favored rock star and Raven Simone always delights her!
9. [daughter] enjoys a life of indoor and outdoor fun & educational activities year-round here in Southwest [other state]. Every financial/ time investment is made in
her by my family and me. She is taught to share and give back to the world. Her conversations and “what I wanna be when I grow up” plans are inspiring and sweet.
10. Our home is set up with attention to the philosophy of Maria Montessori:
a. I provide a child centered environment. Eg. [daughter] enjoys an indoor garden from which she makes cut flower arrangements for our table-tops and learns how to
care for plants.
b. Her bathroom and bedroom are organized to allow for age appropriate, independent self-care. She is responsible and is becoming more aware of the convenience of
keeping her space beautifuX
11. [daughter] is developing fundamental athlethic skills in tennis, baseball, football, and basketball. She is a great kicker in soccer. We are in her first session
of ice-skating and she loves the possibilities when she sees the older/ pro skaters in the rink! Right now she works on the jump and staying off the wall for
support!
12.[daughter] is attentive to animals in her life at the homes of friends. She readily offers to feed and give water to animals and classically takes time to pet and
talk to her “sweet little...” (names of cats and dogs).
13. [daughter]’s greatest joy is still doll “collecting” and caregivin. Baskets are lined with soft fabrics and a sweet doll is tucked in snugly. Bottles and food
are prepared to go with each dolX Stroller rides to the grocery store are common and doll-carseats are secure as she reaches from her own seat to adjust bibs and
collars.
14. [daughter] states that she has brothers and a sister as she communicates with others and has stories to share about her sibblings after the web contact. Her
peers have similiar, successful, blended families so they share thoughts, jokes, etc. regullarly.
I hope this was helpful and will serve as another layer to your communication and connection to [daughter]’s life.
Feel free to write.
God Bless.
[The Ex]
([XXX]) [XXX]-4665
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[Custodial Dad] [last name] wrote in response ~6/30/08
[The Ex],
Unfortunately, like I stated I am available evenings ONLY with the exception of Thursday, when I am completely unavailable. If you would like to devote 20 minutes to a
half hour prior to the Sunday Webcam schedule to cover all “parental communications,” I would be agreeable. In the interim, please feel free to email or mail any
information that I have missed out on for previous years or anything you feel that I should be made aware of—my last ‘box’ to [daughter] had a pre-paid box for such. I
would still love a copy of [daughter]’s previous report cards.
We have altered our daily schedule ensuring that [daughter]’s and my webcam/telephone contact is of the utmost priority. Thank you for the offer but it is
unnecessary, unless of course you have alternate plans. Monday and Wednesday webcam instead of phone calls within the same window is wonderfuX.. I will ensure [webcam
software] is on and running at 6 pm those evenings.
Thank you for clarifying as to whether [daughter] is currently in therapy. It appeared that Josh Myers was someone that was a present fixture in her daily care and
your mention of the “Psych team” lead to my confusion.
After reviewing the letter your attorney sent mine, I have a proposal: We both have real concerns over [daughter] and I suggest that we (you and I) get independent
evaluations (psychological and custodial) by a neutral third party and someone who is respected by your local courts. We can include our partners if you feel that is
necessary.This will save us into the thousands of dollars in legal fees and court expenses; if we can settle this between us, of course this need not be binding, but
if we choose to, we can have it made a part of court record in regards to any determinations that we agree to.
Let me know what you think... I believe this can be a HUGE step forward and a real money saver for both our families.
Yours
[Custodial Dad]
--- On Thu, 6/26/08, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Subject: Dates/ times for Parenting Communication Sessions Set-up
To: “[Custodial Dad] [last name]” <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Date: Thursday, June 26, 2008, 10:46 AM
Thanks, [Custodial Dad].
We can IM for parenting conference.
It is best for me weekdays, early in the AM-
I am up at 4:30AM to start the day and I can schedule slots from 5AM. End time is at 6AM.
Afternoons are Ok for IM. Any weekday. Let me know.
Evenings/nights are not good with [daughter]’s bed/bathtime and my school-work.
FYI: [daughter] is not in psych therapy. She will warm up to the regular calls over time.
Thanks for working with me to take calls any night this week. Just gives me more options for a good moment in which she might be likely to agree to the call
Option: We can do web cam next week on Wednesday night instead of Sunday?
I respect that you and [Step Mother] may have holiday weekend plans.
I can have cam instead of calls available on Mon and Wed of the following week also since N will be here at home. Maybe that will work.
Let’s keep trying.
Let me know.
Thanks.
[The Ex]
--- On Sun, 6/22/08, [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> wrote:
From: [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Subject: Re: 2nd June Request for Parenting Communication Sessions Set-up
To: [the ex email]@[email].com
Date: Sunday, June 22, 2008, 8:26 AM
[The Ex]
It is now 8:27am and I will have my computer on until 9am
On Fri, Jun 20, 2008 at 10:03 AM, [Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com> wrote:
[The Ex]
After our phone call I decided to memorialize the facts of the conversation:
a. We re-confirmed the phone schedule of Monday and Wednesday at 6 pm even if [daughter] gets on and just says “Good Night.” The length of the call will always be
dictated by [daughter], as always.
We also mentioned the Sunday morning webcam, and again it is quality of visit and dependence of schedule that is MORE important then length or content of
contact/conversation....
b. I can not view pictures sent to text message... instead of my phone number, please enter [Custodial dad email]@[email].com and that will achieve the same goals by
similar means.
c. There is no need to call and say [daughter] is going to call Please have [daughter] call me directly or not as the case may be.
d. I am very curious (and concerned) as to why [daughter] has a “Psych team” involved in her daily care. Please let me know why she is undergoing such extensive
therapy. I understand that she is probably traumatized with not seeing her father for close to four years but does it warrant a “team?”
e. We can begin the “Parental Communication” immediately according to your schedule... like I stated I believe and email will suffice but I am available most nights
after 9 pm excluding Thursdays for IM.
Thanks again
[Custodial Dad]
On Thu, Jun 19, 2008 at 7:12 AM, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
--- On Wed, 6/18/08, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
From: [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Subject: Parenting Communication Sessions Set-up
To: [Custodial Dad’s home email]@[email].com, [Custodial dad email]@[email].com
Date: Wednesday, June 18, 2008, 1:35 PM
--- On Wed, 6/18/08, [The Ex] [last name] <[the ex email]@[email].com> wrote:
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.
Earl Mac Rauch, from “Buckaroo Bansai” ~
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[Custodial Dad] X [last name]
[XXX]-[xxx]-0185
[Custodial dad email]@[email].com
~ And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.
Earl Mac Rauch, from “Buckaroo Bansai” ~
[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Tue, Jul 1, 2008 at 10:06 AM
To: [the ex email]@[email].com
Bcc: [Step Mother] <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>
[The Ex],
First I do NOT have IM ability on my work computer that (IM’ing) is reserved for my home life only.
Second I can not be available during the day time for IM; my schedule simply does not allow for it. I understand you have evening obligations, as do I, but
unfortunately that is the only time available to me with the exception of Sunday mornings prior to Webcam.
This email account(ing) is well appreciated! Maybe until your heavy workload is somewhat releived it may be possible to update via email with the same affect?
Can I ask for the name and phone number of her pediatrician, as well as the name of her school? Are there restrictions in prohibiting me from obtaining such
information in place? From what my attorney has made me aware of, there should be no such restrictions in place.
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