Your Phone Call Today

[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Tue, Jul 8, 2008 at 2:16 PM
To: [The Ex] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Step Mother] <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>


[The Ex]


I appreciate that you are doing your best to facilitate contact with [daughter] and I.

I believe that the quantity and quality of hers and my contact will grow with time; there is nothing you might do to make that happen.

There are some things that have been suggested to you in the past (please re-read some of the e-mails that both [Step Mother] and I have sent) and I will short-list some of them again here:

       A) A set/standard time frame
       B) Let [daughter] lead the conversation—or trust that I will lead the conversation
       C) No speaker phone, not in a moving vehicle with windows down or radio on
       D) The set time should be in a fairly familiar or at least quiet place, with few distractions (no T.V. on, any pending projects/games waiting on her “to finish with Da Da” etc...)
       E) Let her use her phone then it will be ‘her conversation’

These are a hodge-podge of suggestions and [Step Mother] was using similar contact-resolution(s) for her son LONG before she knew me...

Quick note; I do not want her “phone back” but you as the responsible parent who finally (after multiple suggestions) requested the phone should recognize that it is a tool, not an accessory nor is it a status symbol it is a very handy tool for her to use, not “carry in her hand bag” like you said she and her girlfriend do....

That being said my suggestion is again, on our two suggested days for phone contact let me call her ... her phone will ring (not Moms) ... she will be the one getting a call (not Mom).... get it??!?? It’s neat, it’s cool, it’s very exciting... etc etc etc

Anyway you’ll take what you want from our earlier conversation as I am sure you do so often, and finally I am a little uncomfortable with us (at this moment) having non-regulated, non-traceable conversations I am sure that will change rapidly once we get past these expensive legal proceedings but until that moment please respond via e-mail as I have so often politely requested.

Thank you

[Custodial Dad]

PS feel free to ‘try a call tonight’ and I am VERY looking forward to [daughter] and my conversation tomorrow night.... maybe let her know I have a surprise for her (not a bribe)

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[Custodial Dad] [last name] <[Custodial dad email]@[email].com>
Wed, Jul 9, 2008 at 12:20 PM
To: [The Ex] <[the ex email]@[email].com>
Bcc: [Step Mother] <[Step Mother’s email]@[email].com>


[The Ex],

Again, I will resend the email I sent yesterday in regards to our undocumented conversations.  To be clear, I am not being paranoid, but to remind you; you filed a PFA against me—falsely accusing me of harassing you.  I would rather our conversations be documented (via E-mail, IM or hand-letter writing) and witnessed and assume you would want the same since you have claimed to be “fearful” of me in the not so distant past.
I am completely unsure of your mention of the IRS and garnishments.  I have filed my taxes every year accordingly and I don’t think that has anything to do with [daughter].  When you mention “out of court” resolution, my intention is for custody/visitation of [daughter].  If this is in regards to finances, that is something that will be hashed out between the attorneys.  The monies sent to [daughter], I hope are assisting in some way to her care but I am under no obligation to send anything as yet.

Remember the order that YOUR Attorney [The Ex second home state lawyer] had me sign had no mention of child support at what I have to assume was your insistence since you claimed every single marital asset.
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